To think colleagues joke was NOT acceptable?

[LaurenkI]

My team has a meeting every Monday (virtual) and there’s always chat at the start about weekends etc. One of my colleagues said he’s worrying because his holiday plans for the year include already booked trips to Cyprus and Dubai. Another colleague then said ‘any chance you can book a trip to France next’ and he got a few laughs.

I have family in France, as does another colleague I’m aware of. Is it me or is this type of ‘joke’ really inappropriate given the current climate?

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What did he say to make it clear?

My God, looking at your responses, you’re worse than I thought. What a boring back stabbing mare. Hope your colleagues avoid you like the plague. If you’re this bad at work what on earth are you like outside of work?! I assume you don’t have any friends.

wow your workplace must be really slow moving if people have nothing else to do than look for random things that could potentially be interpreted as offensive. If I was the manager, I might warn the 'offending' colleague to stay away from you. But you will be quite lonely soon, if you keep being perpetually offended.

Really nasty from the OP to make a fuss about this.

I am so glad I don't work in an office any more.

Sorry, where does rugby come into this?

Some of the offence taken has its true been a bit of a stretch, but I can’t see my way to rugby at all. What am I missing?

You do realise you do not have the right to live free of offence? It was a stupid joke.

You sound like a total drip. If you had an issue perhaps say at the time like an adult, don't go running to HR about something so trivial it's very childish.

Oh wow, you really are being over the top.

DH’s family are Scottish and they would say the same to me about England, they have said similar. It’s messing about between countries which has historical rivalry - that is all.

also if it was so unacceptable, why on earth didn’t you say anything at the time rather then run to the bosses? Nobody likes a grass

Have you ever wondered if this might be why you’re no longer a manager?

It made me laugh

You’ve emailed your manager about it! Incredible.

Well if the manager thought that the OP was possibly a bit of a twat before, they have completely removed all doubt now. What an overreaction. Slow clap...

I knew you wouldn’t actually deal with this yourself.

Honestly this sort of attitude is so poisonous for society. Just say something yourself and own it if you really feel wronged. Going whining to the boss is cowardly and blows something small up into a bigger deal than it needs to be. Nobody will respect you for this, I mean you don’t even respect your own opinion enough to act on it without asking for validation here.

Shark officially jumped ….

So what is the explanation for this joke.

Bloody hell, speech police and cancel culture at its best. What happened to giving each other some grace? Do you really think your colleague is an evil psychopath wishing ill even if he misspoke?

Does your colleague look like this, OP?

(I’d have taken it as equivalent to “next time stick to Cleethorpes” fwiw.)

I think it's saying book France next time so they get attacked but meant as a joke due to the rivalry between France and England. Its the kind of joke that's said about my home town, I would chuckle about it to be honest.
I don't mind a bit of dark humour and I really don't think the man meant it with any malice.

They’re not playing until the 14th.

Quite. As the saying goes "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt"

When you were a manager what would have been an issue that you wouldn't have treated with the utmost importance?

If a colleague punched another colleague in the face and broke a nose would that be treated with the utti utti utti most importance?

Does your definition of the term "utmost importance" mean nothing more than a lark's fart to most of us!

Its hate speech. You should report to HR and police.

I don't get it? If it was an insult or joke it went right over my head.
They are saying France is dangerous to visit on holiday? That it isn't? That it's good or bad to visit France? That France is positive or negative? In what way?

People used to say things about my culture's country being dangerous or in a negative light when there was a civil war going on. I didn't tend to allow it to offend me as the politics of any country and it's leaders behaviour is out of my control.