Quite.
And they forget that not all schools have the standard entry criteria of entry.
Frankly if you live near me if you havent figured out the complexities of the entry system by year 5 you are already screwed before you even put a school down on paper. This isnt just my county it's the neighboring couple because of unusual systems and strange rules and catchments that include cross boundary admissions.
Unless you look up how the system works by this point you can get royally shafted. I know people who didn't know about entry dates for grammar school exams. Or people who don't know how going private might affect their child. Or how living the wrong side of the county boundary but same primary might have implications.
Just understand the sodding system before you even start.
The kids having most issues where I am are the SEN kids even though on paper they have first choice. That's not true if there's no suitable school places available for them. There were 50 kids chasing 12 specialist places this year in my area. I'm really hoping the kids I know in this situation luck out. One left the country because their parents realised they were unlikely to get it and they were shit out of other options - that the truly outrageous part.
Not everyone has the same choices. The system varies hugely across the country.
It would be wise to remind people of this point just as much as "don't refuse a space" because there will be people with kids in yr5 or even yr4 reading this too.
I am well aware of a close friend who I warned about this last year (her son is a year younger than mine) to start consider and looking around before the start of yr5 for open evenings and entry criteria especially as she was considering moving. I was telling her to get the fuck on and move straight away if she was going to. She didn't, she missed open evenings and it's only just dawned on her that she's got a problem with her location unlike her son's classmates. So she's now in a lottery because she wasn't on the ball to begin with.
That's why I think the whole system sucks. There shouldn't be this much disparity in your options where it's viewed as a complete disaster and the end of the world if you get allocated 'the wrong school'. It's just farcical that it's in this state.
And what about the kids who live in an area where they are only ever going to be allocated 'the shit school'. What do you advise their parents?
It's awful. The whole fucking thing.