Dh only asking Dd if she wants to go out and other annoying things

[Hopeshenevergrowsoutofbluey]

Just checking if it’s me or would this piss you off

At weekends, Dd wakes around 6.30/7 and heads downstairs, Dh is also an early riser, I sleep in sometimes until 8.30 ish. Dd is fine downstairs alone and enjoys being independent
Dh often complains he doesn’t get a lie in, when he can if he wants to but can’t lie in easily or sometimes will spend the afternoon sleeping.
I often come downstairs in the morning and he’s gone out leaving Dd, like just now.
Then he strolls in asking Dd if she wants to go somewhere today-nature place etc, not including/asking me, does anyone else find this odd? Even today Dd said ‘Mummy would like to go somewhere today’
Surely you make a decision as a family about plans etc and do things as a family?

You don't communicate well OP. Posters here are struggling to understand your position. It's you.

From what little you have posted, you and your DH seem to communicate through your child. This is not good for her at all. Do you want to explore why that might be or how you can change it?

I'm not sure why you made this thread as you don't seem to want to engage with posters who are trying to understand and help you.

Do you want help?

I wasn't meaning to be rude but you seemed to be missing 90% of people's posts.

I did wonder if you were very unhappy from the first post. I was in a dysfunctional marriage once where outsiders couldn't understand my passivity, but it came after years of never being able to do the right thing, of boundaries always shifting and of a clear understanding that my H did not like me. I stayed for years.

Is there anything we can do or say to help you, OP?

And if I'm right and you're in a similar position to mine that I described, then having multiple people on the thread say you're the problem will just confirm what you hear from him.

That's the thing with abusive relationships. Outsiders can't always tell what's going on. Things can be very different from how they appear. Situations which are desperately difficult can just look banal or incomprehensible to the outsider.

Thank you x