What would you think if an ex named his daughter your name?

[Itsnotforme]

I have a an uncommon, unusual name.

An ex, well more of a fwb named his daughter my name. Obviously it was a few years ago after we’d finished.

I just wondered would you find this a bit weird, or would you be flattered, or would you think nothing of it?

Just wondering because when I named my dc Id get really put off certain names if I knew someone or an ex or someone I disliked.

Yanbu - it’s a bit weird
Yabu - he’s probably forgot you existed

How many years have passed?

Of course they would, unless they were chronically insecure and /or he always talked about the ex in 'one that got away' sense. Exes are that for a reason.

I wouldn't give it another thought really, but would assume the wife liked the name and the ex had no bad feelings.

There is a scale of unusual names though. Mine is unusual these days in that I don't know any children with it (I work in a school), but it's fairly classic (like Helena or Rachael but not). But it's not Bathsheba level of unusual.

@Melsy88yep. Super weird. It’s the long version of my name which I never use but the short version is at the front of the long version. Think Emily / Emmelina, Liz / Elizabeth etc. even weirder - I left him and he fucking hates me. It’s so odd.

I wouldn't assume the baby was named because of me, but I'd still be pleased the name wasn't vetoed because of me either!

I think it’s stranger that you know he has a daughter and what her name tbh.

I would think it was a bit weird. DH really liked my ex’s name, but since I only have one ex it definitely would have been a bit weird to name our son the same name as him. We also see him on a somewhat regular basis because our kids are at the same school… would have been elite fuel for gossip if we did go with that name though.

"Obviously it was a few years ago after we’d finished." - how can it possibly be obvious? no one reading this knows anything about you 🤷🏾‍♀️

I’d think he’s still obsessed with me and message the child’s mother what a creep her new baby daddy is!

The mother picks the name. He’s well forgotten you. And before you think you have a usual name, think again.

Maybe he doesn’t dislike you so it didn’t put him off the name? Doesn’t mean he’s named her after you. I’ve known people with the names I gave my children and liked them enough not to be put off the name.

Haha my parents had a boy name picked out for me - turns out it was the name of my mums first boyfriend (who she left my dad for when I was 16).... there's probably nothing in it but you never know OP!

A serious Ex , then a bit weird.

A FWB, not weird.

Well my first son is named after an ex boyfriend purely because i love the first name not because i still think about my ex.

Me too! Actually didn’t realise until I read your comment 😂😂

I’d assume his partner chose it, she doesn’t know about you and he has no strong feelings either way. If he’s had a lot of FWBs then it’s probably less of a big deal as well.

I would be quite flattered and would wonder if he still held a candle for me.

Ummm what? All live together in some sort of polygamous Mormon Wives commune or something?!

Eek!

I’m sorry but this reminded me of my XH on the birth of No.1. (Names changed a bit)

him: (channeling being the father of a Jane Austen heroine) Do you like..,Elizabeth?

you mean like: Lizzie, Lizzie Borden your ex
him: ugh, god no!
We both laughed a lot.

I think he has completely forgotten you exist. Sorry.

I have an unusual spelling of an already uncommon name (think like Fay instead of Faye) so tbh I probably would think it a bit weird if an ex called their daughter specifically “Fay”. But equally, could be a name their partner really likes, and I’m not an important enough person in their history to stop them using it just because it’s my name.

I'd wonder if the child's Mum knew of you, because there are frequent Mumsnet threads in which a man has just listed the names of women he has previously fancied as potential baby girl names, the wife has agreed with one, and then gone mad on finding out they are "naming their baby after his ex" (when actually it seems to generally just be lack of imagination/effort/originality mixed with a general positive feeling associated to the name in their mind).

I found out that my ex named his child my name, which is also not an especially common name - I found it quite amusing. We don’t go out for that long and parted on good terms so it didn’t bother me in any way.

Giving his daughter the same name as the woman he used to shag?! Creepy and weird.

I got the impression she wanted it to be like sisters. Needless to say it didn't happen!

I’d think it was really weird, even if you had a really common name.