What would you think if an ex named his daughter your name?

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I have a an uncommon, unusual name.

An ex, well more of a fwb named his daughter my name. Obviously it was a few years ago after we’d finished.

I just wondered would you find this a bit weird, or would you be flattered, or would you think nothing of it?

Just wondering because when I named my dc Id get really put off certain names if I knew someone or an ex or someone I disliked.

Yanbu - it’s a bit weird
Yabu - he’s probably forgot you existed

One of my children has the same name as an ex of mine. It was also my godfather's name, who died suddenly when I was in my teens, and naming my child after him felt like a nice way to honour his memory. The name is also in my DH's family. Granted, it's not an unusual name but it's also not that common for this generation. I would assume that the name probably has significance for them beyond you and it also being your name is a coincidence.

“Named after” and “having the same name as” are not the same thing.

I reckon it’s as PP’s have said, that his wife really wanted the name and he felt awkward explaining. You weren’t in an actual relationship so he also probably thought it wasn’t significant enough to make into an issue.

Yy that this guy isn’t really an ex. He’s a friend OP slept with for a while, several years ago.

And maybe the wife’s top three were “Kate, Emily and Christabel” and the guy had bad breakups with both a Kate and an Emily 😀

Ex husband... weird
Ex FWB....'its not all about you'

Ex husband did this. Really, really fucking weird.

Really depends on the vibe since breaking up. If there was any sense of feelings possibly still there, I'd find it weird.
If it was obvious there were no feelings anymore, I wouldn't find it weird.

“Named after” and “having the same name as” are not the same thing.

The exact words I was going to use.
Main character syndrome to assume using a name can only be because of you.

I'd assume I wasn't such a big deal for it to veto a name he and the child's mum liked. I've always liked the name Andrew, I had a boyfriend called Andrew for 2 years and that took the name totally off the table. I'd a brief fling with a callum as a teen, I still considered the name callum as I really like it. If my husband had loved the name callum I would have used it, if he'd loved the name Andrew I'd have had to tell him no and why.

Very weird, do is partner know?

I would think that he liked the name, and bore me no ill will. That's all.

I’d think that he must have liked my name, and I’d be pleased that I hadn’t left him with any hard feelings, as you wouldn’t name your child after an ex you regretted/disliked.

Beyond that, not much.

Ex husband is weird, lot weirder than ex fwb!

My DH has an ex with an uncommon (though not unusual) name. It was my top choice for my second daughter. It had absolutely nothing to do with his ex (who I’ve never met and have no feelings towards). In the end we went with something else anyway.

This was my first thought too 😂

What's the subtext here? That he's still in love with you?

Why, in that case, were you just fwb?

I don't think men name their daughters after women they were involved with UNLESS they simply like the name.

I've known women do it, though.

Maybe you're assuming men think like us about this matter, they don't.

My EXH gave his child a name VERY similar to mine (think Ann and Annie or Helen and Helena). I thought it was extremely weird, especially as I kept my married surname so our names were almost identical.
I can only assume it was his wife's choice (she definitely wears the trousers 😂), especially as he'd never suggested it for our DC.

I've just realised that 'wearing the trousers' is a horribly sexist expression. Can't believe I've never thought that before 😯

I'd think nothing of it.

I wanted to name DD with an ex's name because I genuinely liked it (still do). That was firmly vetoed by DW.

A not quite ex of mine did this. We didn't go out but shared a flat. Lovely guy. He rang me to tell me his engagement was to be announced and in the next breath said "but if you'll marry me, I'll call it off". I didn't accept the wedding invitation.

Their first born was given my name. Very unusual name. I doubt his wife knew the extent of his feelings. I broke ties.

Oddly, a couple of days before my own engagement was announced, I ran into him. We wished each other well and he gave me his card in a get in touch sort of way. Never saw him again.

Had I been ready to settle down 6/7 years earlier, things might have been different but no regrets.

DH really liked the names of his two exes and they are lovely names. I put my foot down.

It's weird, it just is, unless your name is an oft used classic like: Anna, Helena, Juliet, etc.

This.

Just as likely she found it independently than him mentioning it - I went through a baby names books for mine and wrote out all the ones I liked then went through that list with DH

I have an x who did this. I also have an unusual name. Ive never met another but heard of two through media.
His now wife is friends with a close friend of mine and one day the conversation came to how they named their children. Turns out this was her favourite name through a book she read as a child. She was aware of him and i dating but still loved the name and saw no reason to not use it.
He and I didnt date long worked out fast we were not compatible and after a couple of months stopped.

I dont live in my birth country so not like I will ever bump into them. It was more a "oh ok: moment for me than a "thats weird" I mean he doesnt think negatively about me (nor do I him) so why not use the name if he likes it.

If you were an ex wife or in a long term relationship and used to live together it would be a bit weird.
If if was a brief fling less so.
Especially if you were a fwb, because that could indicate he has had many GFs and the exclusion list could be quite long!
Perhaps his wife liked the name and they put it on the short list.
He cant have had strong feelings against it otherwise he would have objected. Or maybe he suggested it as he liked the name and wanted something unusual and perhaps has fond memories of you?
But i wouldnt read too much into it.
Its kind of nice as an adult if you hear a baby with with your name. I have a very 1970s name and have never come across a baby or child with my name .

I would assume he just really liked the name ,it sounds like it was a bit of a fling rather than a full blown relationship
Which would be more weird.

My ex Dp picked our child’s name. At the time it was a very unusual name and I was really taken with it. I then found it that he had been seeing someone with that name prior to our relationship - not you is it OP! 😆

Fortunately, I do love the name as does my DD and I’ve never let her know how her name came about.