To take ds to prison to visit his dad

[Aliceboss]

I have a 20 month old little boy I gave birth to him at 17 during pregnancy his dad assaulted someone when he was under the influence and was sent to prison he pleaded guilty etc straight away but we aren't together anymore obviously. I don't have much family and in currently living in one of his dads properties with little boy and they (his dad + stepmum dote on him) his dad feels somewhat guilty for not getting his son help earlier and he visits him often he has said himself that if he didn't plead guilty he wouldn't have anything to do with him now. His dad often takes photos of little boy to show his son but he recently has asked him to stop as it upsets him (his dad things but he hasn't said this himself he just told him to stop) he's never met him. His dad now wants to take him to visit him, he said I can come too but I'm unsure but also worried if I say no as I live with in his property and it is cheaper than normal rent and I don't want to ruin our relationship I have with his parents as my family aren't involved at all

It would be a no from me and Id want him to prove he can be clean, get a job and be stable before allowing access to my son.

It’s the Grandads house not the man in prisons house. I was referring to the ‘Dad’ as in the prisoners Dad.

Prisons have facilities for visiting children, at least usually they do, a playroom which children can have fun in.

Not naive, youve just not been in that situation, its ok neither was I until the first time I went. No, one big room, sometimes there's a little play area, a cafe(need actual money). There were plenty of families, lots of kids in their Sunday best. There will be a form of search to make sure you aren't smuggling anything in on the baby.
You do what you feel best, don't feel pressured.

What will happen re housing when he’s released? Will he be expecting a relationship with you?

I’d make being independent a priority, and say no to the visit for now. I wouldn’t want my baby being searched, or in a place where a fight could break out.

I think some prisons have a family area. I visited a close family member in jail several times, a few years ago, I never witnessed any fights breaking out, the wives/kids/families just wanted to visit and support their family member

Wha difference does any of that make as to whether or not he visits though?

OP I would research into what your specific prison will be Iike.

not quite the same but I have taken children to a psychiatric hospital fora visit and it wasn’t pleasant but on balance the benefits outweighed the risks. Not quite the same with a baby who won’t benefit I guess