OMG yes, men just HAVE to be heard don't they? My DH is soooo annoying sometimes. I am on my PC, or trying to read a book, and he is watching one of HIS shitty programmes, and does he watch it quietly, and leave me in peace?
Does. He. FUCK. He jibber jabbers all the way through it, and gives me a running commentary. Even though I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT about what is happening. I can't concentrate on what I am looking at or reading because he keeps chatting shit! I have got into the habit of putting my MP3 player on and saying 'I will let you watch your programme. I am listening to my music.' When a lull in the music comes up/a break between songs, I can hear him muttering, and still saying things. He STILL tries to fucking talk. I ignore him. #sorrynotsorry
He often follows me around when I am trying to do something, ANYthing, and keeps talking.. I cannot watch anything I want to watch until he is at work, or has fucked off to bed. Luckily, he gets tired easily, and goes to bed at 9pm most nights. I inwardly cheer when he goes!
I know I sound like I hate him. I don't. We do have some good conversations sometimes, and some laughs, and we go out together for a pub lunch or a breakfast or the theatre or a day trip, and it's fine. And I do enjoy his company SOMETIMES. And we do have TV shows we both like - and watch. But I need my ME time, and to be left alone to read, chill, relax, watch something I want to watch in peace, and just be left alone.
But HE can't be alone, and he won't go out alone. He will rarely go out without me. I go out without him, and sometimes WITH him, but he will rarely go out alone. He struggles to do silence and tranquility. About 80% of the time, he has to fill in every second of silence with SOMEthing. A 'hmmmm,' or a 'ahhhhh,' or a 'humph!' or a 'well, I don't know!' Trying to engage in conversation with me. Grunts, sighs, moans, well well well... Just ARGH!
This is why many women cannot stand their men being at home all the time (and struggled when they were working from home, and also when they retire) because the presence of a man is often just so domineering and loud. They HAVE to be heard and seen, and seem to be unable to sit quietly and calmly. They are like overgrown toddlers.
Not all men of course, but some. It seems to be men who have few friends and almost zero hobbies, and they depend on their wife for emotional support and company, and don't seem to be able to occupy themselves. My dad wasn't like this, but he had a dozen mates, and 4 or 5 hobbies, and spent half his waking hours (when not working) occupying himself with hobbies and interests. My DH and men like him (like many men referrred to on here) rarely go out, and have very few friends.
I look forward to the spring and summer so I can get in the garden and go out for long walks, to get away from him a bit. In the winter I am stuck in (with him jibber jabbering about fuck-all to just fill the silence.)
I do have occasions when I envy women who live alone, but then we have a good laugh and a good time together and I enjoy his company, and realise I DON'T want to be single and alone, I just want him to fuck off out a bit more and give me some time to myself. OR stay in but be quiet for a bit and let me have some peace...