If you post on social media a fair bit, what do you think of people that don’t?

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Back in the day, I posted on Fb and uploaded photos to Instagram fairly regularly, as most people did. It was nice back then and felt like a community of your friends, to me it doesn’t feel like that now and I last posted on Ig last summer and that was maybe three times that year. I occasionally do stories, but that is rare now, I just feel really odd about posting and am not sure why. I’m a bit sad about it in the sense that I kept as a sort of picture diary to look back on and don’t have that or any memories of this time to come up in the future, which I quite like.
Ive noticed a fair few friends stopped ages ago too, but do know some who post regularly.
If you do, do you assume those that don’t, don’t really have a life?
I’m actually quite liking the idea of becoming mysterious in a way now and giving nothing away.
Does anyone else not really want to post and feels weird if they do?

I think the opposite - that people who are terminally online probably don’t have much of a life , whereas those whose socials are sporadic are probably out there living their lives. Of course there is the irony of posting on here as well! Although I have gone out for dinner so this is the alternative to reading the book that I brought out with me.

I feel weird if I post now. But I don’t think about what people are doing if they don’t post I assume they’re busy and don’t like posting if anything. Probably trying to not boast too with cost of living and ai fears etc.

I don't post at all on FB etc anymore.I don't really care what people think.

But they are posting where they’ve been, outings they’ve had etc, so I suppose do have a life?

I don't use any social media platforms. I don't think there's any big online footprint that I will leave behind. I just have never been interested in it. I am too busy getting on with every day living and I post on MN.

Yes I feel weird too, I wonder why that is?

I just assume they're busy and out enjoying life.

No I never post on Fb, only use it for groups really

I post on Facebook very occasionally and on IG even less frequently. I think nothing at all about people who don’t post. Each to their own.

I very occasionally post on FB . I don’t really clock if people respond TBH . Have never bothered with Instagram,looks more fake than FB .

But then what about the people who are posting?

Why does anyone have to "not have a life"? They have the life they want, whether that includes posting on social media or not.

I don't think anything about people who don't post. I don't post much at all, but I do look at it most days and I have friends that post a lot and friends that never post and it never occurs to me to think about the whys and wherefores

As long as youre happy!

TBH I am more likely to judge people who DO post online all the time. It's a bit "look at me" and I find it quite strange

This is such bollocks. My Instagram and fb are still a community of friends because I have high privacy settings and only have actual friends there. I use it as a kind of diary - because I’m having a great life, thanks. My friends do the same. We like to see each ofher’s fun.

No idea. I dont. I don’t judge people who don’t, it’s an individual decision - but weird? Why?

I’m going to be brutally honest, I think those that post a lot on social media are doing it for attention. Intentionally or unintentionally that’s all they want from it. What other reason could there possibly be…

Well they obviously have a life too but I don't automatically assume those not posting don't, in fact I know a couple of my friends are often out because we regularly do things together but they don't post about it on SM.

To me it’s like how we used to show holiday pics to our friends. And tell them about stuff we’d done. Not ‘look at me’, more ‘we’re friends, have a look at what I’ve enjoyed’. I like seeing friends posts. I don’t see them as attention seeking. I do like my friends though...

Agree @cardibach . I have just recently got home from an amazing trip to Australia seeing my son and every pic I have posted has been for my benefit as a diary of my travels. I really couldn’t give a toss what anyone else thought! In fairness my friends really loved the pictures I posted.

So if you do not post aboot it, it did not happen?
Weird thinking op.
If someone tells you they had a lovely weekend in Paris would it not be true because they did not post about it?

I used to post regularly (every other week maybe?) But its tailed off lately. But then me and my friends never took it that seriously - all the talk on mumsnet about how anyone posting about their relationship is trying to prove something, or anyone posting about a holiday or their kids is trying to portray a perfect life - i just dont recognise that in my circle. Its a bit of fun! Holiday photos spark swapping recommendations etc.
Obviously there are people who take it very seriously, but there's vast amounts of people out there and communities that are using it positively!
I dont recognise this 'all influencers are vapid morons' either - there are so many sub categories of influencer for a start, and if I was a gorgeous 20 year old who made bank by pouting at the camera you can bet I'd bloody do it. The idea that they are all desperate idiots is so, so weird. Its not acceptable to say all trades are thickos who cant get a real job, so why is it okay to flag off influencers?

I can only speak for myself.
I do it as somewhere to store stuff
And because my friends me and are interested (in the same way I’m interested in theirs)
And as a way to process what I’ve just done by looking through and choosing the best pics.

I have a Facebook account so I can occasionally look at the local news. I don't even know what a Facebook story is OP.
I did briefly have an Instagram account because I wanted to view photos posted by someone I knew but I got rid of that. And hell would freeze over before I got a Tiktok account.

And I know categorically my already very fragile mental health would damaged even more if I engaged with social media.

I think overall Social media is a very negative influence.

Of course it happened. But since photography became commo place people have always taken photos of their experiences and shared them with friends. This way if friends aren't that interest they don’t have to look at them all. Judging by comments (on and off line) my friends are as interested in my life as I am in theirs (very, for avoidance of doubt).

Edit: what’s the difference between me saying I had a lovely weekend in Paris and showing a couple of pictures and me doing the same online?

I post quite regularly because I have relatives and good friends who are genuinely interested in seeing where I’ve been and what I’ve done, and I am the same about their posts.
I don’t have any opinion on those who don’t post, their choice.
I think you’re overthinking it.