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To be so glad WFH became a thing (and to absolutely hate anyone who tries to curtail its availability)

414 replies

Designless · 22/02/2026 09:55

It's just life changingly good

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TeenLifeMum · 22/02/2026 18:50

I have seen people take the piss and they get found out in my organisation because the work isn’t done. You can’t wfh with a dc under 9 and if dc are at home colleagues are expected to speak to their manager. It’s very obvious if someone isn’t replying/delivering their work.

mel78y5 · 22/02/2026 18:59

ThePeachHiker · 22/02/2026 18:40

I’m not saying that home working should be stopped, I’m just pointing out that it isn’t ideal for everyone and isn’t a level playing field. I’m only pointing out the class divide.

Apologies I misunderstood, I completely agree.

EsperTillus · 22/02/2026 19:08

I WFH 3 days a week but it isn’t the sort of job where I can nip out to do a school run, or do housework in between meetings. My job is customer support so I am essentially tied to my desk in between breaks (2 x 15 min breaks and a 30 min lunch break). If I leave my desk for more than a couple of minutes when not on a break (or without having a pre-authorised reason) it flags on the system and a manager calls my personal phone to ask what’s going on.

It’s nice to not have a commute but I am jealous of those WFH who have a bit more flexibility throughout their day. I gain 2 hours each day WFH (commute to office is 1 hour there, 1 hour back), but during the actual working hours I am just as snowed under and stressed as I would be in the office. And the breaks don’t feel so much like breaks - when I’m in the office in the city centre I’ll nip out to the fancy coffee shop across the road for a matcha latte which is a distinct change in environment - it’s my treat and I look forward to it every day I’m in the office. Whereas at home sometimes I just find myself looking at my phone during breaks whilst still sat at my desk.

I know people who WFH in a different sort of job (admin) and they are shocked when I explain to them that I can’t just “nip out” to meet up with them for a coffee on mornings when I’m WFH. One of them has a certain quota of tasks she needs to do daily, and 2 meetings per week - she has found she tends to be able to complete the quota in 4 hours and then is relatively free the rest of the day, she just occasionally checks Teams every half an hour or so to see if anything has come up. I’d love that!

Overall though, WFH is still worth it and it’ll be especially worth it once mat leave is over (currently pregnant) - that extra hour with baby in the mornings and evenings not spent commuting will mean the world.

Auburngal · 22/02/2026 19:09

Designless · 22/02/2026 17:26

I used to work for a Whitehall dept well before COVID and I remember there weren't enough desks so you had to pre book your office days and if you tried to come in more than that there was nowhere to sit

I imagine things are no different now but try letting that stop farage etc

And then there's the question of who can afford to do fairly important work for civil service pay in zone 1

There are companies that are 100% remote working.

Designless · 22/02/2026 19:11

Auburngal · 22/02/2026 19:09

There are companies that are 100% remote working.

Yes I know?

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RaininSummer · 22/02/2026 19:13

Binus · 22/02/2026 17:14

Let us know how much more you're willing to pay for fully in person staff in both the public sector and the private sector services you use. Unless perhaps you're recommending a full command economy. Might be a bit of a faff to sort out though.

Those of us in the office do not get paid more than those that are at home. I'm a civil servant in a role without WFH on exactly the same salary but with greater work expenses.

EnchentButteler · 22/02/2026 19:19

Post Covid I worked from home every day except maybe one or two days a month. So for 5 years I WFH. Now I'm in the office 100% of the time (5 minutes from my house) and I enjoy spending time with my workmates but am definitely not as productive. One or two afternoons a week I have to go home to get my work done.

It's a game changer and I defend everyone's right to do it. But it does take good management to make it work. I think all managers should go on managing people working from home training to be able to performance manage remote staff.

Binus · 22/02/2026 19:20

RaininSummer · 22/02/2026 19:13

Those of us in the office do not get paid more than those that are at home. I'm a civil servant in a role without WFH on exactly the same salary but with greater work expenses.

It's about more than your wages, as premises cost money to run. And if that poster got her way, we'd need many more dedicated buildings to do office work in than we have now. No doubt as a civil servant you know all about how many have been sold off.

Though it's also about wages too, because there are roles that employers allow to be done remotely as an alternative to paying more.

Auburngal · 22/02/2026 19:23

My job though admin based I need to log into a cloud based system all the time and change status when on breaks, meetings, IT issues etc. So can’t meet up for coffee etc. Had to clock out for going to the dentist which was OK’d by a manager

We have been told to get away from your desks both WFH and office for breaks as gives you time to stretch, refocus etc

EsperTillus · 22/02/2026 19:36

My work quite strictly enforces that staff must have 2 days per week in the office. I assume so they can keep an eye on us and to encourage team building etc.

The problem is, when I go back after mat leave, due to my hour long commute each way, awkward train times and my nursery’s opening hours, the office days will become impossible for me. I would be late to work each morning after dropping baby off and then I’d be late picking baby up each evening. Getting a nursery near work wouldn’t work as what about my WFH days?

If I put in a flexible working request, I’d need to request starting an half an hour later and finishing half an hour earlier on office days. Or alternatively, going full-time WFH.

I think it’s obvious which option would negatively affect the business more. Allowing WFH as and when needed benefits the business as much as the employee.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 22/02/2026 19:56

There’s no right or wrong answer.

I do think though that WFH is a bit like a boiling frog situation in many instances, and often people don’t realise it until something changes.

For many people, working from home means being able to have a social life during working hours. Going out to the gym, having a coffee, picking up the kids, and the reality is that many work hours are lost. But for those people it’s a convenience which means having to spend less time at their desks.

But for others in customer facing rolls, call centres, webchat services etc it’s a different story.

I WFH full-time. I have a disability and it has been ideal. I don’t have to commute. I can go straight into my office and I’m at home as soon as I log out. And I have a dedicated workspace, so there’s no overlap between my home and work environment. I am also fairly recently immune suppressed following a transplant, and so WFH gives me the opportunity to not have to come into contact with to many germs, especially in the first year which is the most crucial. But….

I’ve worked for the same company for 3.5 years. During that time I’ve spent every day talking to customers, initially on digital webchat, and then on the phone. I did all my training remotely. I am good at my job. But there’s no opportunity to pop out for coffee or the gym etc, I’m there to work, my office is my office and I get two ten minute breaks and a lunch break. If I’m on not available for more than a couple of minutes management want to know why. Ditto comfort breaks.

Again, it’s an ideal situation on the face of it.

But in those 3.5 years I’ve never met a single one of my colleagues in person. Not one.

I also live mostly alone. My DC are here, but mostly not, and so it’s possible to go days without seeing another human being in person.

And whether people admit it or not. Talking to people on teams and the phone isn’t the same.

And it took me spending 4 months in hospital where I spoke to people every single day to realise how isolated I had become.

It honestly hadn’t occurred to me, because I was working, it’s what I do and it was convenient.

And then I came home, and back to work, and am back to not seeing people. My customers are now on the phone, so I do at least physically speak to people, as opposed to when I worked in a digital team and I spent all day typing to them instead.

But still there is no physical interaction with actual people.

Staff who work closer to the office are now highbrid as the company changed its policy from full-time wfh where they hired people all across the countries.

And those who were told to go into the office two days a week were absolutely furious at first. They objected to having the rules changed, although most of them had come from working in a full-time office environment to WFH in lockdown and had got used to the new culture.

And within weeks of having to go back staff started to say how much they realised they’d missed interacting with people in a real environment.

They all work highbrid still and still enjoy working from home. But they do now admit that going into the office has benefited many of them mentally.

There’s no right or wrong really.

But I do think that we need to think about what this level of isolation is doing to us as a society.

We now live in an era where people are communicating ore and more via social media and online, via teams etc, and we’re losing the ability to communicate in person.

And as social animals, what is that going to do in the long term?

WFH works, but we do need to look at the bigger picture. Because the truth is that most people’s interactions happen at work, and now we’re seeking to remove those. So where are those interactions going to come from? Or should we just accept that actually humans should now be solitary beings?

Auburngal · 22/02/2026 20:24

One advantage with WFH - have fewer sick days off. Obviously my last job was at a supermarket and couldn't work a month due to badly twisted ankle. There was no opportunity to rest the foot all day.

If the situation happened again at my current job or any hybrid/WFH role, providing I can get the affected foot raised - no sickness.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 22/02/2026 20:41

Auburngal · 22/02/2026 20:24

One advantage with WFH - have fewer sick days off. Obviously my last job was at a supermarket and couldn't work a month due to badly twisted ankle. There was no opportunity to rest the foot all day.

If the situation happened again at my current job or any hybrid/WFH role, providing I can get the affected foot raised - no sickness.

There is definitely that. However one disadvantage is that if you’re really sick if you work from home you’re less likely to take time off, or I am at least. Always feel like a fraud.

I’ve had a horrendous cold for the past three weeks, and haven’t felt able to take time off. Not least because I had months off because of my transplant anyway and now that I’m back feel I need to be giving 150%. And not having to commute in I feel I need to make more effort.

This definitely benefits the employer but it’s a disadvantage to the person who is ill.

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:44

usedtobeaylis · 22/02/2026 15:43

The people on this thread are mothers, or mostly mothers, and very very few employers have accommodated us. It's not our job to make everything perfect for everyone else. We're allowed to enjoy something that works for us for once.

Wait till your kids enter the workforce.

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:48

TheBestThingthatAlmostHappened · 22/02/2026 16:46

Oh yes, I remember being in my early 20s and having senior partners spend hours every day teaching and guiding me. Oh hang on, no they didn't, they spoke to me when they wanted a coffee and sometimes handed me something and asked me to photocopy it, but wow, those 5 minutes spent queuing in Costa or photocopying documents really did give me some incredible experiences to add to my CV. 🙄

I’m talking about my child’s real life experience working in the City now. They go to work hoping to talk to partners and seniors about issues and then find that they are the only one in. They are not the only young person experiencing this. And they are independent, hardworking and keen to learn.

It is interesting how people can’t see the impact on the younger generation, whilst acknowledging the advantages to themselves.

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:52

A young new graduate, might find it easier to ask a colleague a quick question face-to-face, rather than having to approach them on teams. I can understand that. I think there should be a certain number of senior staff in the office each day on a rota. I definitely think that would help new workers. But I can see I am a lone voice on here so I’ll bow out.

mel78y5 · 22/02/2026 20:58

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:52

A young new graduate, might find it easier to ask a colleague a quick question face-to-face, rather than having to approach them on teams. I can understand that. I think there should be a certain number of senior staff in the office each day on a rota. I definitely think that would help new workers. But I can see I am a lone voice on here so I’ll bow out.

I only got my first open plan office job in my 30s (different kind of sector prior to that) and I HATED having to walk up to someone at their desk when they were locked into work (often in headphones as so many seem to keep in), I much preferred when they were not visible and I could justify a Teams message instead that they’d pick up at their own convenience. I think today’s generation are even more accustom to the Teams style of working than we were back then.

FunnyOrca · 22/02/2026 20:59

It’s so refreshing to see the overwhelming positive attitudes to WFH here. From the media and my retired relatives I assumed differently!

I am a teacher so can’t WFH (except every bloody evening 😅) but my husband has been WFH since Covid. I have mixed feelings about it. He doesn’t clean up after himself (desk a mess, lunch crumbs, loo etc). It’s REALLY annoying in the school holidays because I am essentially trying to wind down in someone’s work place. I also think it has encouraged a more sedentary lifestyle in him. He has gained weight and has to be prodded to go outside daily.

On maternity leave it has its pros and cons. Pro, always a pair of hands to go to the loo or whatever, but con, raising a baby in an office? I miss him when he goes into the office, but also feel like there’s some breathing space and baby is actually much calmer.

More broadly, his workplace has become more diverse. They have had more women join, more physically disabled people and a people from a broader geographic range (which is relevant to what he does). I think a win overall. I definitely wouldn’t chance the ability to WFH, but I might like my own husband to go in a couple of days per week!

My parents cannot comprehend WFH and don’t understand that my husband is happy. “Doesn’t he want to see people?” “How will he ever get promoted?” (He has been twice since Covid) “Is the office not nicely furnished?”

Binus · 22/02/2026 20:59

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:44

Wait till your kids enter the workforce.

Obviously hasn't occurred to you that some of our kids do/will benefit from the greater availability of remote working.

I accept that you'd have disliked it and your DC does now, but do you honestly not get that others will differ?

JacquesHarlow · 22/02/2026 21:06

I can work 5 days a week from home if I want; I choose to go in for one or two of those, to meet internal stakeholders for whom I provide our solutions etc

I state that as a disclaimer for what I’m about to say:

I can’t stand the colleagues I occasionally come across who, having cashed in on their Zone 6 property and moved to Stroud or Chippenham or Cambridgeshire or wherever during lockdown, assuming that everything will be remote forever…

are now bitterly complaining about £90 a day rail fares, 5 hour round trips etc.

SUCK IT UP. You bet the house (literally) on things “never going back”, and I’m tired of hearing them moan about bosses making decisions to have in office days. I live in a lovely part of the world near London and I’m happy here.

Could I have more space further out? Absolutely! But would I then accept my life choices instead of browbeating my bosses to let me work from home 5 days a week? Of course I would accept that my life choices are my own.

Secondly, our hospital near us which supports my sick DC just shows me how working from home isn’t necessarily working for all services..

In the nine months in which I’ve had to call the co-ordinator for information or to speak to the team, I get the same answer phone message : they never ever pick up.

“some days I am working from home. I will be occasionally checking my messages and will call you back when I can”.

They never answer the phone in real time, they never call back, and they even have a mitigation message to explain that “working from home” means a reduced service.

just wild to me , I have of course complained gently to the dept, but it’s a public service so they just ignore and close ranks.

gannett · 22/02/2026 21:13

ThePeachHiker · 22/02/2026 16:42

Without meaning to sound rude I think this thread just highlights the class system in this country. The ‘ haves’ who have adequate space, money to pay increased utilities to work comfortably at home and the ‘have nots’ who are shivering sitting on their beds in their cramped rentals.

I was a "have not" when I started WFH in 2009. Cramped, slightly dilapidated London houseshare with 4 other people. WFH = working from bedroom 99% of the time.

Like I said before: so much better than the office! No soul-crushing commute, no forced chat when you were trying to do your job, no higher-ups lording it over you.

Every bedroom I've ever had has been a more comfortable place to work than an open-plan office where some to all of the noise level, brightness, temperature and company were intolerable.

Yuja · 22/02/2026 21:16

I’m hybrid and I very much agree. Whilst I quite like my office days once I’m there, the commute takes up huge amounts of time and is busy and horrible on the train, and I get less done in the office (and spend more money). Wfh is a game changer and has enabled me to work full time

Ponderingwindow · 22/02/2026 21:17

Jamesblonde2 · 22/02/2026 17:10

How insular and depressing. I always thought humans were generally social beings. I can see some fell from a different tree.

Was it depressing when the world was biased solely in favor of social extroverts? Now there is a mix of employment available. People who don’t thrive in a certain type of environment can look for other options.

wfh has not hurt my career. I have been promoted and survived harsh rounds of layoffs. I am a better worker remotely than I ever was in the office.

gannett · 22/02/2026 21:17

RosyCam · 22/02/2026 20:52

A young new graduate, might find it easier to ask a colleague a quick question face-to-face, rather than having to approach them on teams. I can understand that. I think there should be a certain number of senior staff in the office each day on a rota. I definitely think that would help new workers. But I can see I am a lone voice on here so I’ll bow out.

Oh god no, it's so much easier to drop someone a message on Teams or even an email. You're not worried about interrupting them and I find it easier to put any query I have in words.

It's also much easier being asked a quick question on Teams because if you are in the middle of something, you don't have to break your train of thought to answer. You do it at your convenience.

gannett · 22/02/2026 21:21

Jamesblonde2 · 22/02/2026 17:10

How insular and depressing. I always thought humans were generally social beings. I can see some fell from a different tree.

WFH was a blessing for my social life as well. Because I actually had energy for it rather than being knackered from having to be "on" in an open-plan office and an hour's commute each way, and having no energy after that to do anything but slump on the sofa in a darkened room.

With WFH, I had the energy to go out and socialise with my actual friends after work, rather than my social life being based around awful post-work drinks with colleagues who were never going to be real friends.

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