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Mother is weird about birthdays

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Treetopsyellow · 16/02/2026 23:01

Every year she seems to cut contact for the weeks lending up to and after my birthday. Normally we speak 1-2 times a week. There is never any falling out about it and she’ll phone me afterwards and talk completely normally like nothing happened. I just cannot work out her reasoning. Birthdays as a child were also minimal acknowledgment and never a party/cake etc but she did once throw herself a party with her friends on my birthday when I was like 7. I’ve never been that bothered by it but now I’m starting to think that she might have some issue with me.

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purpleygrey · 17/02/2026 05:41

could you have been a twin and your twin passed away during pregnancy/birth and the day is difficult for her ?

malificent7 · 17/02/2026 05:51

It might have been a traumatic birth but that is no excuse.
M mum died of cancer the day before dds birthday. I still did presents, cake etc even though I was devadtated inside.

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