University maintenance for stepchildren

[Givenup2026]

I was on a random FB group the other day today and they were talking about how much they’re saving towards their DC uni years. I said that we were giving our DS (my DSS) £250 because we expected him to work.

Many women told me I was being tight, but from my POV his parents would not be able to afford much more than that (probably less if anything) and I have to think about my own DD who will only get the minimum amount. My DH agrees with me, but I don’t know if we’re being unreasonable towards our DS.

For reference as much as we share our day to day expenses, my DH have always had the understanding that I’m not financially responsible for his DC.

Eh? Of course what you borrow impacts on what you pay. You're assuming someone will always be lower paid which isn't always the case. You're also assuming that the payments are so small that they have no impact on your take home pay which is bollocks. I certainly noticed my payments coming out and I didn't pay things off until I was in my mid 30s.