Would you consider swapping nudes and messaging someone daily for months cheating?

[Thewovendiary]

I’m shamelessly posting here for more traffic (have posted in relationships)

I’m so upset to find out that my partner has been messaging another woman for months and swapping multiple nude photos - I feel he is now gaslighting me and minimising the situation - he says there was no physical intimacy so it’s not cheating.

Please help me :( feel like I’ve been gut punched - I thought we were so happy

Definitely cheating. Dump this arsehole.

It doesn’t really matter what you call it, just end the relationship. He doesn’t respect you.

Yes I would

Yes, this is cheating and a complete lack of respect and care for you or the relationship. The fact that he is trying to get away with it based on a technicality is all the more disgusting & shows that he has no remorse. I’m so sorry that you are going through this but please do leave this horrible man.

I’m sorry.

absolutely this is cheating.

ask him straight out how he would feel if you were sending nude photos to another man and receiving them to masturbate over. Because that’s what is happening here.

It is cheating no matter what. Tell him you have also been sexting someone and sending them nudes and watch his reaction that will tell you if he really classes it as cheating or not.

Of course.

I'm sure he would consider it cheating if you did it.

It absolutely is cheating and you deserve lot better op.

100% it’s cheating. Regardless if what label he puts on it, it’s an unforgivable betrayal of trust and I couldn’t come back from it.
He’s a lying cheating scumbag

Hell yes.

No, this is all fine and normal and is in no way cheating.

If you had been messaging another man for months and sending him nudes, I'm sure your partner would unequivocally consider it cheating.

He's gaslighting you. Dump him, he's a creep.

Of course it is cheating

It doesn't matter whether or not he considers it cheating. You clearly do and that is all that matters. You understandably feel betrayed and he doesn't care.

And he is such a lying bastard, whatever label can be applied to his actions he knows that you wouldn't consider this acceptable

Anything that you wouldn’t wish your partner to see or deliberately from you partner, is cheating.

This definitely counts

Yes, it’s cheating. Don’t let him gaslight you-get rid of him.

Thank you all for taking the time to reply - I think I was in shock to start with but I’m starting to see it for what it is :(

Absolutely I would considering it cheating, and I’m sure your partner would if it was the other way round. Don’t listen to his gas lighting, just focus on what you want to happen next.

Of course.

I don't know anyone who wouldn't?

Yep
Bin him
Bet if you did the same thing the prick would consider it cheating

It's definitely cheating, and pretty cheap and nasty cheating too. Sorry this is happening to you, I hope you're able to kick this waste of space to the kerb.

Who the fuck has voted YABU? I hope it was a mistake.

yes @Thewovendiary it’s 100% cheating. Ditch him right now.

Yes it’s absolutely cheating! Do not let him try to minimise it. In your shoes, I would end the relationship.

💯 percent cheating. He’s minimising his behaviour.
I’m sorry OP

Of course it bloody is. Hence him hiding it from you.
Regardless of what others think - if it upsets you and crosses a boundary for you, then pop the sleazy loser in the bin.