Would you consider swapping nudes and messaging someone daily for months cheating?

[Thewovendiary]

I’m shamelessly posting here for more traffic (have posted in relationships)

I’m so upset to find out that my partner has been messaging another woman for months and swapping multiple nude photos - I feel he is now gaslighting me and minimising the situation - he says there was no physical intimacy so it’s not cheating.

Please help me :( feel like I’ve been gut punched - I thought we were so happy

That's revenge porn and it's a crime.

Just dump. He's a lying cheater and he's not going to change.

i don't think its exactly the same as cheating but it's awful also and in a different way especially as over months. You are in your right to vall it cheating and his reaction is even more telling imo. What I always do with men is swap positions - I.e. how would he feel in the same position? But yes your feelings and the betrayal does not hinge on whether or not it sits within the definition of 'cheating' - don't let him misdirect you by focusing on semantics. But it's bad enough without needing to be called cheating imo.

Oh he is a peach isn't he. Get rid

He’s a lying cunt. Yes you do sound ridiculously naive if you believe that bollocks.

He is taking you for a complete mug if that’s the best he can come up with.

It’s cheating, a betrayal and a complete disrespect for you and your relationship.

If he tries to roll out that ‘not cheating’ bs, ask him if he feels it was respectful. If he was treating you with respect.

What a twat

Well, yes. Obviously.

He knows her awfully well if he knows how to contact her father and boss to send the criminal revenge porn.

He threatened his affair partner with a criminal act if she disclosed the affair.

He's been giving her money. Check your accounts ASAP.

Your partner has shown you a nice facade until now and you see that he's capable of some nasty and vicious acts under that facade. Run.

Well isn't he just lovely!
Get rid. Quickly. Like, now!

Don’t give this scum bag another thought
Get rid , block and concentrate on yourself for a wee while
Don’t listen to his excuses , his lies or his rationale - you deserve 100% better .

Of course it is cheating!

It's disrespectful to you in so many ways.
He thought you were too dumb to find out. He thinks you are so desperate and he's so irresistible that you will put up with anything.
He thinks you are so stupid that you will believe his bollocks of an excuse.

Dump him immediately. You are none of those things. You deserve so much better.
He's a total insect.

I’m sorry that this absolute dick has messed with your head so much that you have to even ask the question.

He probably acted single then she figured/found out he was married & wasn’t happy about it! No doubt threatened to tell you.

have you seen the messages?

how were things in your relationship before this happened? I would see it as cheating but due to the type of person I am, I would want to know why he did it & why I wasn’t enough.

only you can set your boundaries and decide where you go from here. You can see his gaslighting so absolutely do not let him talk himself out of it

Yes it is cheating. But also it doesn't need to be cheating for it to be unacceptable behaviour and for you to leave.

I would absolutely class this as cheating!

Yes

Blows my mind one of my friends partner has been doing this on and off with the same person for 10 years and she’s still with him.
I don’t get it

He's certainly not prioritising you in his thoughts, so you no longer need to prioritise him in yours. Get rid

What a horrible, horrible bloke.

Yes.

Definitely cheating.

He sounds lovely. I couldn't even look at him again let alone shag him.

yes - I contacted her and she forwarded me a voice note of him saying he’d break up with me!! And said they had swapped loads of photos - he said he wasn’t happy etc :( he told me he would propose this year!! Feel like I have been punched

Oh OP... :(

Please get yourself as far away as you can from this lying, cheating, awful man. No one deserves to be treated like this. Ever.

Honestly I am in absolutely shock - I feel like a total idiot, I never saw this coming - never had any suspicion whatsoever :(

At least you found out before you drop 25K on a wedding and had children