Worst Valentine’s Day ever

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It’s Valentine’s Day.
My daughter isn’t speaking to me.
I have just said goodbye to my grandsons (her children) for what might be the last time in a while.
And my DH (bless his cotton socks) has gone to the football in a town two hours away leaving me alone with only the dog for company until at least eight o’clock.
Please will someone tell me I have a right to be miserable, or am I supposed to invoke the wartime spirit and keep calm and carry on. I’m beginning to lose my grip on reality.

Sorry you are having a rubbish day op. Relationships with adult dc are harder than raising small dc ime.
Actually had a row with ds 22 last weekend and we spoke today.. All good. But I am estranged from a ds who has a dc - haven't seen either for 6 years. It's tough.
Hopefully ddog is giving you loved vibes. They are good at that aren't they? Hopefully dh's team win and you have a good evening together..

What's for dinner?

Open the first bottle of wine.

You have a dog! that is unconditional love on valentines day

I don’t think it’s too early to crack open the gin…

And what if the OP was a recovering alcoholic? What if she just didn’t drink?! It’s so annoying seeing people casually recommending others to use alcohol when they’re having a bad day without even knowing their circumstances.

That sounds really tough op.

It may help to start a thread for advice on the issues with your dd when you feel up to it, see what advice you can get.

For now pour yourself your drink of choice, get your comfies on, stick on a weepy film, snuggle up with the dog and wallow away for a few hours.

Oh for goodness sake. What if she isn't a recovering alcoholic, but has enough common sense and nous to appreciate the spirit in which the post was made?

I wouldn’t care about the Valentine’s Day part. I’m on my own with my dog too, DS(16) is at his girlfriend’s for their first Valentine’s Day and DH is playing darts with his mate. I’m quite happy with this arrangement 🤣. I would be upset about your DC and DGC though 🙁.

Relish the time to yourself- just because it is valentines it does not mean you cannot relax watch a movie / mini series your partner would not be so enthusiastic about.
Do not fill your time with drudge spoil yourself cleaning etc can wait for another day.
You can still have a nice time

I don’t observe Valentine’s Day myself but I’m sorry about your difficulties with your family. Take the dog for a walk and do some self care whatever that looks like for you.

Are you sure the situation with your DD isn't fixable?

In the meantime, if it's dry where you are, take the dog out for a walk, then come home and run yourself a hot bath, pour a glass of wine/fruit juice or make a nice cup of tea, and have a nice long wallow. Then when your DH is home, talk it through with him over a takeaway.

Im sorry you feel low, things can feel worse on "special"days. Particularly celebrating love when you feel for whatever reason love is evading you right in this moment.
I hope things resolve with your daughter and that it isn't your last contact with your grandsons ,thing can turn around.
Get through the day any way you can.
Since my husbands death 3 yrs ago i find valentines day tough (not that my husband ever pushed the boat out,he thought it nonsense! but he did sometimes buy me flowers) . A bit of self care helps me survive it. For me its lunch with a friend,a walk on the beach and a candle lit bath.
I hope you find a way to feel easier and it will pass...
Virtual hugs.

Fun police alert.

Yep. Best way 🍾🍾. Stroppy kids are nothing to do with this day.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Urgh. You. Are. The. Worst.

Your day sucks.

Why is your DD not speaking to you? Is it fixable?

As you are on your own, go and do something fun!

Maybe I'm weird but I absolutely love being by myself at home, even more so with my dog, so this sounds great

Good grief, chill out! Have a large gin, it will help you unclench 😄

Well I’m joining you in the crappy valentines club. My partners also gone to the football today with his family. When we were meant to have plans for a meal and a movie. I have chocolates and crappy tv on.

It’s Saturday….just like any other Saturday. Would you be sad to be left alone any other day or is it just because it’s Valentine’s Day? Because honestly valentine day doesn’t mean anything. I thought once you were married it just got ignored 😂

If I looked a bit down in the dumps, my dog used to rest his head on my legs and look up at me with his big saucer eyes, I miss those moments with him.
Tell your husband how you feel when he gets back, it might give him a bit of perspective?

I love an evening in with the dog (and a couple of cats). Treat yourself to a nice bottle of wine and something tasty for dinner and put your feet up. A nice peaceful evening.