Worst Valentine’s Day ever

[Nothavingagoodvalentinesday]

It’s Valentine’s Day.
My daughter isn’t speaking to me.
I have just said goodbye to my grandsons (her children) for what might be the last time in a while.
And my DH (bless his cotton socks) has gone to the football in a town two hours away leaving me alone with only the dog for company until at least eight o’clock.
Please will someone tell me I have a right to be miserable, or am I supposed to invoke the wartime spirit and keep calm and carry on. I’m beginning to lose my grip on reality.

Ps. Can you txt, write a letter? To your dd. At least then you’ve said your bit, it’s out your mind and hopefully help to heal things in the near future.

I am not being insensitive OP but valentines day is commercial and not in tune with reality.
I am truly sorry for your daughter not talking to you. Families are complicated and fall outs and uncertainties are normal for most.
My son is in prison which is crucifying me and I am permanently sad.
I am learning to take it moment by moment and painting a smile on my face for relevant people.
All about perspective.
Pour yourself a glass of something.
Take care OP

I am a recovering alcoholic and I still think you're being ridiculous.

Haven't seen the toy boy since July last year. I wished him a Happy Valentine's (although it was his birthday yesterday, so he also got birthday wishes, which were responded to very quickly indeed).
Friend's birthday today, wished her a Happy Birthday, so far no response, which is worrying me as she is 83.
Saw my SIL creating a WhatsApp group first thing this morning with my brother's name as the title, my heart ran cold. Turns out my brother has had a heart attack and is in hospital. SIL very communicative. This afternoon I messaged my brother and got communication. He is ok-ish, but having planned surgery on Monday or sooner, if things deteriorate.
Not the best day, not especially bothered about the actual date.
I am alone and haven't been able to live in my house for over 2 years, in clinch with the insurers regarding water damage, but have come to the conclusion that I was damned if I did (no advice there) and am now damned that I didn't. No job, no income, except a very small widow's pension. I am almost past caring.

The Mumsnet mantra!

So am I. And I think it’s ridiculous that we just offer alcohol as a solution to anyone having a hard time, whether it lighthearted or not. Shows how completely normalised it is in society which is so jarring when you’re on the other side of it.

Plus the replies about lighten up/unclench/have a large gin just further prove my point. Sad really.

Also, just because you’re a recovering alcoholic and don’t take issue with it, doesn’t mean another won’t. Everyone has different triggers, and things they are able to deal with. But you should know that, being in recovery.

I think the fact it’s Valentines Day is irrelevant. It’s sad you’re not speaking to your dd and that you aren’t going to see your dgs for a while, but I always think Valentines Day should be what it was originally intended for - anonymous declarations of love for somewhere via a secret card. Not for the BS it’s currently marketed for - cards for wives, husbands, sons, daughters - madness. Hope your day turned out not too bad OP.

So sorry, I know how heartbreaking it is to lose a beloved pet 😢

You can feel a bit sad. But at the end of the day it’s nothing that can’t be fixed.

Yes I think you're right, its inappropriate, she might be a problem drinker.

OP - do a couple of lines or smoke a joint instead.

She’s blocked me on the phone and I don’t know where she’s living atm. Reluctant to use SIL or DGC as postmen.

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