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Reform wants women barefoot and pregnant

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Sweetiedarling7 · 14/02/2026 07:57

Reform candidate Matt Goodwin wants women to have children early in life and introduce extra taxes as punishment for anyone who chooses not to have children.

Misogyny in plain sight.

How long till they ban abortion too?

Women voting Reform may want to consider if they are turkeys voting for christmas.

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Carla786 · 15/02/2026 19:33

Imdunfer · 15/02/2026 12:21

Have you read the title?

I am against encouraging British women to have more children with the aim of preventing immigration for several key reasons. The first is that the world eventually has to learn to share its wealth equally among its nations and properly controlled immigration so as not to disadvantage each nation's own people is a very good way of doing that. (Stealing poor nations' doctors is not. Taking someone as a lower skilled care worker and upskilling them into a nurse or therapist is.)

Secondly, it's cheaper to take in an adult than it is to raise a child, so it's potentially to the benefit of over-populated poor countries without work for people to do and the wealthier country for that exchange to take place.

Thirdly, the more room we have available to give help to those escaping war and tyranny, the better.

There's no doubt Reform's policy will be intended to reduce the further dilution of British culture. But as long as women actually want more children, and many on this forum and elsewhere say that they do but cant afford them, I don't think that policy would be as evil as many people on this thread are suggesting.

As a woman who is childless by choice I'm conflicted, in an over populated world, about paying higher taxes to enable British and NI women to have more children while there are adults desperate to live in this country who are refused.

I agree re war & tyranny but unfortunately mny men from eg. Afghanistan seem to have poor attitudes to VAWG.

pointythings · 15/02/2026 19:33

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:47

My comment though I didn’t think needed explaining obviously does. In the context of economy, a person having children are providing potential future tax payers. Birth rates are dropping & that’s a problem you will have to face & live with. So in old age those coming for me please don’t complain if you can neither retire or get the care you need (which is dire now). Saying that incentives are a good idea to encourage people to have children isn’t saying we should adopt a handmaid tale existence for those who wish to not have children. Nor do I think their value is irrelevant. I acknowledge people who have children are part of the solution. I’m sorry if you’re childless due to circumstances out of your control doesn’t mean my point becomes mute.

It's 'moot'.

But aside from that.

Consider a woman who is diagnosed with cancer. Because of her chemo/radiation/surgery, she ends up never being able to have children.

Now she is punished for that for the rest of her life by having to pay more tax. Her every P60 is a reminder of what she has lost.

Moral? Ethical? Acceptable? Fuck no.

StandFirm · 15/02/2026 20:55

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:39

Ffs where has that been insuniated.

Unfortunately the horrors of eugenics, euthanasia and forced sterilisation all derive directly from a purely utilitarian viewpoint, such as 'more kids= more value'. Not to say that you support those horrors, but sadly that's where history has taught us such reasoning tends to land (way down the line maybe, but that's the end point of the logic).
Edited to expand on the point so that it makes more sense. The problem with 'more kids= more value' is (as PP pointed out) not just about the mother v childfree woman, not just about the volume (someone with 3 kids being superior to someone with one) but down the line, thinking about different people having different worth for society always ends up with 'which kids/human beings are valuable and which aren't'. And that's where you end up with disabled people in death camps.

Allisnotlost1 · 15/02/2026 21:48

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 15:20

It was an example of politicians not future proofing society. Do you want a population collapse to happen before they deal with it & then like they have with net zero put in damaging policies in place that see us getting poorer and poorer. I wasn’t saying we don’t need to move to renewables but I’m 45 and the climate was a big talking point yet we have solutions that are not going to work & to hit our own target we now import our gas by more expensive and more dirtier means than drilling our own. My energy comment was making an example about not future proofing against problems they know that are coming.

i didn’t say any ones physical life was of less value, i was on about the value you are providing society. The minute you’re claiming more than you’re contributing. As a person you should be looked after in old age, but the people who’s made that a possibility are the ones having children now. So not only are most contributing as well as raising children now they’ve secured the future providers. I think that’s worthy of subsidy to their income. Trust me they’re still massively out of pocket raising a child.

Life expectancy is currently declining, realistically ‘population collapse’ is a distant nightmare.

And much as there is a logic to your ‘creating future value’, that value isn’t as huge as you think at an individual level. Children born today benefit from all adults financial and social contributions, and in future those children (in theory!) will contribute more financially than the older people. But it’s still a collective effort. People who have children benefit from a society that welcomes them, just as we all collectively may benefit from those children in future. It’s not possible to quantify each person’s ‘value’ and is, imo, dangerous to even try.

Otherwise a child who grows up to earn minimum wage their whole life, then be signed off sick is of less value than a childless person who pays huge sums of tax. A child who survives leukaemia will likely never repay the ‘value’ they have received. And very likely not have children of their own. Are they less valuable now than other children, ergo their parents should be less applauded? How shall we pick all that apart?

How many children do you have, and how much are they worth to us all?

SynthEsjs · 15/02/2026 22:04

Rewarding people having children with lower income tax is not the same as penalising people who don’t. Our entire society is rewards based.

You get a better paying job, you get better pay. Is you getting a better paying job penalising other people on lower paying jobs because they didn’t also get that pay?

I don’t think so, but if you wanted to you could see everything in that way.

Offering lower income tax to people having and raising children is not the same as penalising people for not having children. It’s an incentive.

PeppyCoralTiger · 15/02/2026 22:11

I don't think those that see merit in discussing future fertility imagine there to be a "worth" to a particular child and their future tax revenue. That will happen the same as it does today, some earn more and contribute more tax. Members of society will contribute different amounts of tax and everyone contributes in their own way, but it isn't all financial - it is family, freindships, communities, support, inventions, music, literature etc etc.

We are talking about future society.

I find it odd that people on the left are so determined they wouldn't pay potentially more tax (in fact for the purpose of this discussion it's a benefit really) as being supportive of society. Surely that is what the left is meant to be about in theory, maybe not reality as is apparent from some of the input on this thread.

I also find this Labour's government extreme push for the suicide bill extremely concerning and would expect there to have been a push for better palliative state suported care. Labour seem to in fact be everything they accuse others of.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 15/02/2026 22:13

StandFirm · 15/02/2026 20:55

Unfortunately the horrors of eugenics, euthanasia and forced sterilisation all derive directly from a purely utilitarian viewpoint, such as 'more kids= more value'. Not to say that you support those horrors, but sadly that's where history has taught us such reasoning tends to land (way down the line maybe, but that's the end point of the logic).
Edited to expand on the point so that it makes more sense. The problem with 'more kids= more value' is (as PP pointed out) not just about the mother v childfree woman, not just about the volume (someone with 3 kids being superior to someone with one) but down the line, thinking about different people having different worth for society always ends up with 'which kids/human beings are valuable and which aren't'. And that's where you end up with disabled people in death camps.

Edited

This is bang on the money and encapsulates why as a sick/disabled person I'm finding the current trajectory extremely concerning and frightening. And I'm sure I'm not alone in this.

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 00:48

PeppyCoralTiger · 15/02/2026 22:11

I don't think those that see merit in discussing future fertility imagine there to be a "worth" to a particular child and their future tax revenue. That will happen the same as it does today, some earn more and contribute more tax. Members of society will contribute different amounts of tax and everyone contributes in their own way, but it isn't all financial - it is family, freindships, communities, support, inventions, music, literature etc etc.

We are talking about future society.

I find it odd that people on the left are so determined they wouldn't pay potentially more tax (in fact for the purpose of this discussion it's a benefit really) as being supportive of society. Surely that is what the left is meant to be about in theory, maybe not reality as is apparent from some of the input on this thread.

I also find this Labour's government extreme push for the suicide bill extremely concerning and would expect there to have been a push for better palliative state suported care. Labour seem to in fact be everything they accuse others of.

’The left’, is characterised economically by higher taxes and wealth redistribution yes, but not by random measures like how many live births you’ve had.

Personally I think we should all pay more tax and that the state should invest in better public services for all. The evidence on giving families tax breaks is that poorer families still don’t do much better, whereas better public services - eg education, green space, healthcare - improves outcomes for children in all income brackets (which is good for us all). So if we really care about children, and future proofing the nation, let’s lobby for better investment in public services, rather than tax breaks for big families.

SynthEsjs · 16/02/2026 02:13

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 00:48

’The left’, is characterised economically by higher taxes and wealth redistribution yes, but not by random measures like how many live births you’ve had.

Personally I think we should all pay more tax and that the state should invest in better public services for all. The evidence on giving families tax breaks is that poorer families still don’t do much better, whereas better public services - eg education, green space, healthcare - improves outcomes for children in all income brackets (which is good for us all). So if we really care about children, and future proofing the nation, let’s lobby for better investment in public services, rather than tax breaks for big families.

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But having better public services doesn’t incentivise people to have more children. There are already astronomically better public services now than there were 100 years ago. And yet people are having fewer children.

You need to incentivise having children.

SynthEsjs · 16/02/2026 02:28

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 00:48

’The left’, is characterised economically by higher taxes and wealth redistribution yes, but not by random measures like how many live births you’ve had.

Personally I think we should all pay more tax and that the state should invest in better public services for all. The evidence on giving families tax breaks is that poorer families still don’t do much better, whereas better public services - eg education, green space, healthcare - improves outcomes for children in all income brackets (which is good for us all). So if we really care about children, and future proofing the nation, let’s lobby for better investment in public services, rather than tax breaks for big families.

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What you’re missing here is this is not about improving outcomes for children, which is obviously a great thing.

It’s about getting more children to be born in the first place. The key to that is not improving outcomes for parents.

Why would someone choose to have children, potentially tank their career, have to take a lifelong lower salary, work through pregnancy, then have to put their children in full time nursery to be looked after by someone else, go back into work they probably aren’t as motivated to that just takes away from time with the children they’ve just had?

Why would anyone do that?
What does improving outcomes for children have to do with someone deciding whether they want to be a new mother struggling to cope with sleep, a baby, potentially breastfeeding or then also being in work, pumping, watching someone else raise their children and all the risks that entails.

Where on the flip side you can enjoy a higher disposable income, none of the sleep issues, none of the separation anxiety, none of the childcare costs, none of the need for bigger houses or cars and go out whenever you feel like it, on holiday for a fraction of the cost if you just don’t have children.

These are the individual decisions we need to incentivise more in favour of people choosing to have children.

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 05:53

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:39

Ffs where has that been insuniated.

Thats exactly what you've insinuated, in fact you stated it!

Children, in your opinion, carry economic worth, the accountant, paying more tax, is worth more, the disabled child, is worth nothing.

Imdunfer · 16/02/2026 08:18

Most of the contributors to the latter stage of this discussion write as if they are completely unaware of the millions of adults who will willingly come here to make good any population decrease caused by women choosing not to have children.

The only good reason to have children is if you want them.

The only reason to encourage women already here to have more children if they don't have a strong desire to have them, but are essentially bribed to have them, is to protect the current cultural mix, which is very strongly Nationalist if not outright racist.

pointythings · 16/02/2026 08:22

SynthEsjs · 16/02/2026 02:13

But having better public services doesn’t incentivise people to have more children. There are already astronomically better public services now than there were 100 years ago. And yet people are having fewer children.

You need to incentivise having children.

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You do that by making housing and childcare affordable.

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 08:30

Accept this is anecdotal but the people i know who don't want children are those who are quite well off.

It is the restrictions they feel children will cause & the world they are bringing them into which is the block.

TBH i only had one for these reasons too.

The less well off, seem to still want children, probably because children or not, they still wont be buying a house, having city breaks and 3 week foreign holidays.

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 09:12

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 05:53

Thats exactly what you've insinuated, in fact you stated it!

Children, in your opinion, carry economic worth, the accountant, paying more tax, is worth more, the disabled child, is worth nothing.

No I didn’t. I did not say that.

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 09:26

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 09:12

No I didn’t. I did not say that.

You said this about women who have children.

Because your value is more. I’m sorry but it is. You’re providing the future workforce who will be paying your state pension, potentially your additional care. Paying for the NHS

Thats putting monitory value on women and children, more kids = more value & its the children who will pay for these things you mention via taxes, so the more you earn, the more tax, the higher the value on the individual.

Conversely, the carer & the disabled child have limited or no monitory value, in fact both can, under you definition, be considered "takers".

This is exactly what the Nazi's started with, the Insane, the Disabled, these were the first to be killed, they were treated as worthless.

People should not be monetised like this.

AmusedAquaTraybake · 16/02/2026 09:33

We're globally going towards a population collapse. Politics is waking up to that, in many countries. The current system isn't sustainable.

Either healthcare and retirement funds collapse because there aren't enough workers to feed money into the system, or we get people to have more kids. (Doesn't work that way, pressure of any kind is what makes women have fewer kids, but anyway they're going to try pressuring people anyways because pressuring people into doing anything really is what we've been doing for a few decades now.)

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 10:01

SynthEsjs · 16/02/2026 02:28

What you’re missing here is this is not about improving outcomes for children, which is obviously a great thing.

It’s about getting more children to be born in the first place. The key to that is not improving outcomes for parents.

Why would someone choose to have children, potentially tank their career, have to take a lifelong lower salary, work through pregnancy, then have to put their children in full time nursery to be looked after by someone else, go back into work they probably aren’t as motivated to that just takes away from time with the children they’ve just had?

Why would anyone do that?
What does improving outcomes for children have to do with someone deciding whether they want to be a new mother struggling to cope with sleep, a baby, potentially breastfeeding or then also being in work, pumping, watching someone else raise their children and all the risks that entails.

Where on the flip side you can enjoy a higher disposable income, none of the sleep issues, none of the separation anxiety, none of the childcare costs, none of the need for bigger houses or cars and go out whenever you feel like it, on holiday for a fraction of the cost if you just don’t have children.

These are the individual decisions we need to incentivise more in favour of people choosing to have children.

Edited

I agree, the personal cost of having children is difficult for the rest of us to mitigate. Which is why people who don’t want them, won’t have them, no matter what financial incentives are offered. And the small group that do have them just for the financial incentives will be rubbish parents, because they didn’t want kids, and the rest of us will have to pick up the pieces.

What financial incentives would encourage you to have a child you didn’t want?

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 10:05

SynthEsjs · 16/02/2026 02:13

But having better public services doesn’t incentivise people to have more children. There are already astronomically better public services now than there were 100 years ago. And yet people are having fewer children.

You need to incentivise having children.

Edited

Generally speaking, there’s a strong correlation between an educated female population and a decline in the number of births per woman. That’s why campaigns in developing countries often focus on educating girls. So how do you reverse that in OECD countries? Well reduce the level of education accessible to women, make contraception a dirty word, make it so women who don’t have children or have a small number feel inadequate. Essentially, remove women’s choice. That’s what you’re advocating? Are you sure?

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 10:10

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 09:26

You said this about women who have children.

Because your value is more. I’m sorry but it is. You’re providing the future workforce who will be paying your state pension, potentially your additional care. Paying for the NHS

Thats putting monitory value on women and children, more kids = more value & its the children who will pay for these things you mention via taxes, so the more you earn, the more tax, the higher the value on the individual.

Conversely, the carer & the disabled child have limited or no monitory value, in fact both can, under you definition, be considered "takers".

This is exactly what the Nazi's started with, the Insane, the Disabled, these were the first to be killed, they were treated as worthless.

People should not be monetised like this.

I’ve repeated numerous times I didn’t mean the value of a physical life. We were talking about the perceived unfairness of parents getting a tax break. Which I said there isn’t one because being a parent is neither easy or cheap. That if there is a future problem then the value of working parents is of more importance. In this SPECIFIC scenario. as we were talking about this specific tax break and why it’s being discussed.

people thinking it unfair because either they don’t kids or can’t have them. Either way that’s not a reason to not try & encourage those that can and will have children

the whole disabled discussion was used as a whataboutery. Which I debunked straightaway by those saying it. And people like you devaluing the atrocities of what happened by the nazis. I actually said these future kids will be needed to take care of vulnerable people & it’s a worry there may not be enough people around to do so. So straight back all of you who think me saying potential parents are inportant because if I apply the same logic you lot do, you must by default think it’s acceptable for the vulnerable to be left to fend for themselves when there’s not enough people to either pay or care for them. Not every vulnerable person is cared for by a loving family member.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 16/02/2026 10:11

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 00:48

’The left’, is characterised economically by higher taxes and wealth redistribution yes, but not by random measures like how many live births you’ve had.

Personally I think we should all pay more tax and that the state should invest in better public services for all. The evidence on giving families tax breaks is that poorer families still don’t do much better, whereas better public services - eg education, green space, healthcare - improves outcomes for children in all income brackets (which is good for us all). So if we really care about children, and future proofing the nation, let’s lobby for better investment in public services, rather than tax breaks for big families.

Edited

Where is this evidence. Child poverty fell with the introduction of free nursery hours, working family tax credits and sure start under the Blair government of the noughties. You know what those children still have better outcomes today and the birth rate climbed. Please show me the evidence these pro family policies made no difference.

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 10:13

Neurodiversitydoctor · 16/02/2026 10:11

Where is this evidence. Child poverty fell with the introduction of free nursery hours, working family tax credits and sure start under the Blair government of the noughties. You know what those children still have better outcomes today and the birth rate climbed. Please show me the evidence these pro family policies made no difference.

I think we’re agreeing. Under NL there was massive investment in children and families. Much of which was cut during austerity and much more has fallen away since the theoretical end of austerity. Bring it back, is my point.

Imdunfer · 16/02/2026 10:22

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 10:10

I’ve repeated numerous times I didn’t mean the value of a physical life. We were talking about the perceived unfairness of parents getting a tax break. Which I said there isn’t one because being a parent is neither easy or cheap. That if there is a future problem then the value of working parents is of more importance. In this SPECIFIC scenario. as we were talking about this specific tax break and why it’s being discussed.

people thinking it unfair because either they don’t kids or can’t have them. Either way that’s not a reason to not try & encourage those that can and will have children

the whole disabled discussion was used as a whataboutery. Which I debunked straightaway by those saying it. And people like you devaluing the atrocities of what happened by the nazis. I actually said these future kids will be needed to take care of vulnerable people & it’s a worry there may not be enough people around to do so. So straight back all of you who think me saying potential parents are inportant because if I apply the same logic you lot do, you must by default think it’s acceptable for the vulnerable to be left to fend for themselves when there’s not enough people to either pay or care for them. Not every vulnerable person is cared for by a loving family member.

it’s a worry there may not be enough people around

Why do we need to pay more to get women here to give birth when we can welcome a fully grown healthy adult?

There is going to be a plentiful supply of people on the planet for a long, long time yet while life expectancy continues to rise in poorer countries.

There doesn't look like any end to the number of people fleeing war coming any time soon, before we even start on the displacements that will be caused by climate change.

jasflowers · 16/02/2026 10:24

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 10:10

I’ve repeated numerous times I didn’t mean the value of a physical life. We were talking about the perceived unfairness of parents getting a tax break. Which I said there isn’t one because being a parent is neither easy or cheap. That if there is a future problem then the value of working parents is of more importance. In this SPECIFIC scenario. as we were talking about this specific tax break and why it’s being discussed.

people thinking it unfair because either they don’t kids or can’t have them. Either way that’s not a reason to not try & encourage those that can and will have children

the whole disabled discussion was used as a whataboutery. Which I debunked straightaway by those saying it. And people like you devaluing the atrocities of what happened by the nazis. I actually said these future kids will be needed to take care of vulnerable people & it’s a worry there may not be enough people around to do so. So straight back all of you who think me saying potential parents are inportant because if I apply the same logic you lot do, you must by default think it’s acceptable for the vulnerable to be left to fend for themselves when there’s not enough people to either pay or care for them. Not every vulnerable person is cared for by a loving family member.

I think that its "you lot/people like you" (as you put it to me & others) are the very people who put a "Value/Worth" on people in the 1920s, that led to such atrocities in Nazi Germany.

You may be well meaning, but placing a value on people, is how the Nazi's began, they didn't begin with a Gas Chamber.

NoisyViewer · 16/02/2026 10:38

Allisnotlost1 · 16/02/2026 10:01

I agree, the personal cost of having children is difficult for the rest of us to mitigate. Which is why people who don’t want them, won’t have them, no matter what financial incentives are offered. And the small group that do have them just for the financial incentives will be rubbish parents, because they didn’t want kids, and the rest of us will have to pick up the pieces.

What financial incentives would encourage you to have a child you didn’t want?

Exactly but for those who would want one now & can’t afford it because they’re trying to be responsible & for those who may want another. However, it’s not enough to encourage women who don’t want to have a baby to have one they tax break would only make things slightly financially better. I think it’s really telling that this incentive has caused some outage in some people whilst the biggest incentive to whack out kids you don’t want is already in play. Benefits of non working parents. I grew up on an estate where my peer group who have multiple kids and they have never worked a day in their life. If that’s not a policy that shackles women to the patriarchy and promotes dependency and lack of options. My old school friends have openly admitted that child 3 onwards have been a financial decision opposed to wanting one. Yet a policy to encourage those who don’t choose to work and want a family, that’s somehow akin to a handsmaid dystopian system.