Is DH being mean or am I being precious?

[TumbleLeaf10]

DH works at a school, he has had 2 periods of absence since September, one for illness and another for a workplace injury.

DS5 had a sick bug tail end of last week. I now have this sick bug. Have been chucking up every 15 mins since 4am. I’m beyond exhausted already and feel absolutely terrible.

I’ve asked DH to take the day off to look after baby DS1, do the school runs. He said no, he can’t because of this other absences.

There is no one who can help. Wtf am I meant to do?! 😢 How can I do the school run without being sick and what do I with the baby all day. I guess I know where he’s coming from but I just don’t know what the days going up look like for me!

Have you misunderstood this thread? This is not about a sick person going to work. Its about the OP expecting a perfectly healthy person to take time off work because she has a minor tummy bug.

Crikey how would you manage as a single person with kids

Can he not take carers leave?

Reading back from other posters, I worked for the NHS for many years. I had an RTC one day,off sick just that day with shock, same year I had dental surgery booked with a max fax. It was mid December. It was planned shown to ward manager. Unfortunately I got a "Dry Socket" was off Christmas. That particular year, dentist and clinic were closed from Christmas Eve till gone New year, local hospital doesn't have a dental department. I almost went mad with the pain. Got email from ward manager demanding certificate from dentist otherwise she was putting me down for unauthorized leave. They weren't open!! Next thing I get a written warning, she made it official and meeting with matron. I had been on the ward over 10 years, never off sick. I didn't get colds, norovirus nothing. Other staff members came to work sick, because they were frightened to be off.

I understand the thread, yes. A person asked me to expand about sick days and productivity, and my response here was answering their question.

My posts, if you read any of them, were referencing the whole sickness culture in the UK and how bloody stupid and self-defeating it is.

OP is sick and needs to properly recover with the support of her DH, but he can't help her because of ridiculous workplace policies towards sickness and absence in the UK.

In the UK, employees have a statutory right to take a "reasonable" amount of
Time off for Dependants (often called emergency family leave) to deal with unexpected, sudden illnesses or accidents involving a child, partner, or someone who relies on them for care.
This is designed for immediate crises, not planned situations, and can be used to deal with the initial emergency, such as taking a child to the doctor or making alternative care arrangements.

Not sure that a partner that has a sickness bug would count, its not the children that are sick.

Try being a single parent.

Hello.
Thank you so much for everyone who offered advice, didn’t want to never come back, but it’s been rough 24 hrs.
So DH did take the day off work, think when he came downstairs and realised that yes I was in fact very poorly. His work were ok. I’m now ok but have to say I’ve never felt so horrendous in all my life! I spent the entire day and night in bed and just trying to get up was a nightmare.
DS has this bug over the weekend and was still happily playing, nothing hurt. Funny how it all effects us differently.