To not want baby near unvaccinated toddler?

[victoriaspomge]

So basically my partner wants his half brother's (same dad) younger half brother (same mum) to come and meet our baby.
He has a daughter who is 2 years old who he says is our kids cousin.

My partner is no relation to him or his daughter biologically but because they share a half brother he feels as if it's his brother as well and that they are family.

He dosent really know him and doesn't have his number and has only met him in the last 10 years.

They only hang out if it's with their mutual half brother.

I know the 'brother' is very anti vax and has not got his 2 year old vaccinated despite living in a city where it has had a lot of cases of measles.

Baby is too young to be have the MMR and I am extremely worried about my baby meeting this 2 year old.

AIBU to feel like this?

Do you leave the house?

It's quite irrational to think in that way... The risk is so minimal and I'm sure the PPs parents see that it could've been so much worse.

A friends daughter went blind because she caught her eye on a coat hook at school - really really unfortunate freak accident. Just to make the point that unfortunate luck can happen to anyone; vaccinated or not.

The fact any human can think a government should have rights over another human beings body, is utterly insane.

I meet people in theirs 90s that decline the flu vaccine every year. Not everyone is a follower. Should they go to prison too?

So what’s wrong with being judgemental about people who are stupid and easily influenced by idiots on the internet, to get their young children vaccinated?

Anyone with any sense would be equally judgemental, when it comes to the health of their own baby too young to be vaccinated.

Well of course. But theres nothing i( or my parents) couldve done differently. Unless they didnt send me to school

While breastfeeding does pass on immunity it is not 100% so the baby can still be at risk of catching viruses.

The risk of vaccines is even more minimal. Take the lowest risk for your child

YANBU
You are absolutely right to be concerned.
Your job is to protect your baby first and foremost.

If you think it’s the same risk, you don’t understand risk at all. There’s already enough information on this thread to gain a better understanding, if you want to.

You manage the risks you can manage. Unmanageable risks are by definition unmanageable. Passing someone in a supermarket queue is not the same as inviting a known risk into your home.

That’s so helpful I don’t have kids and I’ve never read any measles data.

My eldest had measles despite the MMR.

TOO stupid, that should have read!

You don't have kids but your eldest got it?

What?

You are well within your rights to refuse for your newborn to meet any unvaccinated child.
Anti-Vaxxers can tell you all they like, it doesn’t really matter what they spout.

Just like they don’t want to vaccinate their kids, you don’t want your child to meet the toddler and thats that!

I think you are totally reasonable to be worried about this… honestly, it beggars belief that some people choose not to vax their kids 🤦‍♀️

I don't see how it's bullying?

It's purely a majority and minority thing.. If you're offended by me referring to an unvaccinated 90 year old and a non-follower, then okay.

At the end of the day you cannot control the general public. So unless you never go near other people you have risk of catching something. Many people take babies to groups.Thedefore all the other babies there are also unvaccinated.

Which is why risk assessment is important.

OP could compromise and meet this family outdoors, in a park or large open space, the baby can be snuggled in a sling or pram to prevent the toddler holding the baby... But a very rigid NO, regardless of the baby's dads thoughts on the matter, is a bit unfair.

No-one is saying she has to invite this toddler into the home, have photos of it snuggled on the sofa holding the baby and that they have to share a sippy cup.

No, a rigid NO is not unfair.
People stupid enough not to vaccinate their children don't do subtlety, and are unlikely to help you minimise the risk to your own children.

Engaging in risky and antisocial behaviour has consequences.

Comparing a freak accident to a perfectly avoidable illness is bonkers, as is the choice that people in their 90s make compared to vaccinating children.

i’m wondering at what point you took your current stance on vaccinations and if it was during the Covid pandemic.

Measles isn't always avoidable though. I didn't avoid it

This is ridiculous some people need to seriously get a grip!! Does the toddler have measles or a deadly disease or leprosy ?!! No!! It’s fine to see the baby! Non vaccinated kids aren’t poisonous monsters 🙈

It's it mainly measles that you're worried about. Are you concerned about whooping cough too?

As mentioned multiple times by many different posters. An unvaccinated child is more likely to have a harmful disease.

Measles can be transmitted 4 days before the rash shows.

OP is making the safer choice.