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To think the roots of the grooming gangs go back to failures from the 1950s on?

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Carla786 · 09/02/2026 11:32

I was reading Hina Husain's excellent article here and it made me think

https://unherd.com/2025/06/mirpuris-and-the-problem-of-integration/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

that discussion of the roots of the grooming gangs tends to focus on Blair's failed multiculturalism policies, local council/police etc failings.

But what rarely gets talked about is why and how large parts of the northern Mirpuri Pakistani communities were allowed to get to such a self-segregated and dysfunctional state to begin with.
Why was there no research in the 1950s-60s on the clan systems, misogynistic practices prevalent in rural Mirpuri villages when they were encouraged to immigrate? Why PMs from Wilson, Heath, Thatcher etc never appear to make integration of such communities a priority to some extent?

Most stuff just seems to blame PC culture & Tony Blair, who do share a huge amount of blame, but less is asked about why this situation, clearly full of potential issues, was never addressed much from the 60s to 1997...

Mirpuris and the problem of integration

https://unherd.com/2025/06/mirpuris-and-the-problem-of-integration/

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PrincessofWells · 09/02/2026 13:40

No, I don't think it's necessarily the Pakistani culture and failing to integrate because the culture, for example in the 70s, was misogynist in the UK. Dreadfully so, I was there, and sexual abuse, assault and rape were rarely investigated. If complaints were made, my experience, anecdotal though it is, was the police laughed and the culture was one of disbelief.
If you think it's awful now, imagine how really bloody awful it was then.

timetogoandstop · 09/02/2026 13:41

Isn’t the problem men, full stop. I’ve been on the sharp end of misogyny as has my DD and always been white men but basically men.

PrincessofWells · 09/02/2026 13:41

soupyspoon · 09/02/2026 13:35

Or the Romans and the Normans

I mean the fact that the whole aristocracy is formed out of the Normans means the French should be crying into their baguettes for what they made us do.

There's a book addressing the white slavery, it's called 'White gold'.

soupyspoon · 09/02/2026 13:41

Octavia64 · 09/02/2026 13:32

I don’t know why but I could make some informed guesses.

firstly, I grew up in a northern mill town, there were many Pakistanis there. They were largely encouraged to get jobs at factories and mills etc and were scattered around the country.

many of the Afro Caribbean people who came were focused in London - and our media and government has always been very London focused.

secondly, many of the Afro Caribbean people who came had been educated and were expecting to be treated with respect in Britain and when they were not there were reactions.

the Pakistani people who came were generally not as educated and those who were often had English as second or third language. They were better off in Britain and were (largely) happy with how they were treated. (Please note I am not saying they were treated well, just that there were fewer protests, etc),

again for cultural reasons the Pakistani people largely got married, had children, lived within their own community. The West Indians less so - you can read articles from the 70s and 80s getting very worried about the mixed race marriages that were happening, and the number of children born outside marriage. These were considered signs of “social breakdown”.

at the time the Pakistani immigrants aligned better with the values then in play - get married, don’t have kids before marriage, don’t have affairs, don’t get divorced, and get a job and work hard.

Yes I think largely, to give a blanket summary, West Indians were here to work for 'us' to clean up, mop up, build up after the war, so lots of jobs in industry, nursing, local authorities, public services like transport, trains etc

Asian populations (and I take the posters point above about lumping together so may get some terminology wrong), were here to build up their own businesses, shops, factories, merchants, trade etc etc

Im not sure exactly how that affected how big government or big society viewed each demographic.

Religion would have played a part in how people were seen, Christians at the time would have been seen to be more 'like us' I suspect.

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 13:47

Speaking from experience, young Pakistani boys from that period of time were conditioned to believe that non Muslim girls spent their time sleeping with anyone available. Even boys that were born in Britain were taught this from a young age. I’ve met young men who came here via arranged marriages who have been genuinely surprised that every single British woman isn’t happy to sleep with them if they request it. This was around 20/25 years ago. So, yes, I do believe there have been failures in integrating immigrants into society.

From another side, I know Pakistani men who are currently in prison after being convicted with very little evidence of this type of historical crime. 2 of them were 14 when the ‘crime’ was committed, as far as they were concerned at the time, the girl was their girlfriend and was the same age. I remember this myself as was at school with them at the time. Both women have apparently been moved away and given new lives and identities - fully funded.

I also expect that there will be a similar scandal in years to come around Eastern European men and sex trafficking

One thing I do ask though, is why were these girls in such vulnerable positions? Why were 13 yo’s hanging around takeaways etc at night? That is also a huge failure imo

Cheese55 · 09/02/2026 13:49

timetogoandstop · 09/02/2026 13:41

Isn’t the problem men, full stop. I’ve been on the sharp end of misogyny as has my DD and always been white men but basically men.

The difference is they were operating quite openly and the victims were ignored on such a large scale, we have to talk about how that happened and why.

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:51

Dappy777 · 09/02/2026 13:27

The depths of masochism and self-loathing in this country staggers me. The Left really have done a superb job of teaching us to hate ourselves. So many people now respond to these issues like brainwashed prisoners, or well-trained seals - just mindlessly repeating the woke narrative. I can’t be bothered to challenge your crude and simplistic post. The idea that other cultures learned sexual abuse and exploitation from us is beyond ridiculous. Men throughout history, in every culture from China to Mexico, have raped and abused and exploited lower class girls.

Still, at least you’ve got the courage to openly say what so many on the Left really think - which is that those girls in Rotherham were paying off a colonial debt and deserved it. We all know the Left couldn’t care less about them and wish they’d just shut up.

You talk about reaping what they’ve sowed, well the Left better pray there is never another major war, because the Left will reap what they have sowed. After the fall of Dunkirk, when Britain was on the brink of invasion, my grandfather cycled into town to join the RAF and defend his country. If that happened today, I wouldn’t lift a toenail to defend this country, nor would millions of others like me.

Tbf, we don't know if SummerFenice IS British.

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CostadiMar · 09/02/2026 13:51

First of all, the authorities didn't do their job - there is this belief, also on this board, that with even very young girls, it's only their own business if they want to have sex and with whom. These men (like many others i.e. Epstein) simply exploited this - they knew nobody would care. I also suspect that very little has changed and the police is still very unwilling to investigate such cases.

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:52

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 13:47

Speaking from experience, young Pakistani boys from that period of time were conditioned to believe that non Muslim girls spent their time sleeping with anyone available. Even boys that were born in Britain were taught this from a young age. I’ve met young men who came here via arranged marriages who have been genuinely surprised that every single British woman isn’t happy to sleep with them if they request it. This was around 20/25 years ago. So, yes, I do believe there have been failures in integrating immigrants into society.

From another side, I know Pakistani men who are currently in prison after being convicted with very little evidence of this type of historical crime. 2 of them were 14 when the ‘crime’ was committed, as far as they were concerned at the time, the girl was their girlfriend and was the same age. I remember this myself as was at school with them at the time. Both women have apparently been moved away and given new lives and identities - fully funded.

I also expect that there will be a similar scandal in years to come around Eastern European men and sex trafficking

One thing I do ask though, is why were these girls in such vulnerable positions? Why were 13 yo’s hanging around takeaways etc at night? That is also a huge failure imo

Eastern European men and sex trafficking-

What countries?

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Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:54

TansySorrelCelandine · 09/02/2026 13:39

Source: ChatGPT

Yes, I asked it about this subject and it recommended the article. It's a good article : read it.

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Slyolfox · 09/02/2026 13:57

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 13:47

Speaking from experience, young Pakistani boys from that period of time were conditioned to believe that non Muslim girls spent their time sleeping with anyone available. Even boys that were born in Britain were taught this from a young age. I’ve met young men who came here via arranged marriages who have been genuinely surprised that every single British woman isn’t happy to sleep with them if they request it. This was around 20/25 years ago. So, yes, I do believe there have been failures in integrating immigrants into society.

From another side, I know Pakistani men who are currently in prison after being convicted with very little evidence of this type of historical crime. 2 of them were 14 when the ‘crime’ was committed, as far as they were concerned at the time, the girl was their girlfriend and was the same age. I remember this myself as was at school with them at the time. Both women have apparently been moved away and given new lives and identities - fully funded.

I also expect that there will be a similar scandal in years to come around Eastern European men and sex trafficking

One thing I do ask though, is why were these girls in such vulnerable positions? Why were 13 yo’s hanging around takeaways etc at night? That is also a huge failure imo

There were quite a few in care, I remember seeing this man saying it was the parents fault for letting them go out. Not everyone has amazing parents, irrelevant though, that doesn’t mean you get to rape kids.
In Pakistan women and girls are considered whores if they go out with uncovered hair. When I was 13 I used to go out and do my own thing at that age in Pakistan a 13 year old girl wouldn’t be allowed to do that and if something happened to her she’d be blamed. Do we really want that here

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:58

RichardOnslowRoper · 09/02/2026 13:36

All ' Asians' are not the same. We may look the same but we are not. Personally, as someone of Southern Indian heritage, from a community that values education for women, I resent being lumped in with grooming gangs, madrasas and women denied education.

And no, colonialism is never an excuse for women being raped and assaulted. Absolutely vile to blame colonial debt for grooming gangs. But yes, lumping all Asians in one category has muddled government policy.

Good point. I can imagine it must be very unpleasant to have your community lumped in with the most regressive elements like Mirpuri community ..

The 'Asian all the same' ideas surely did influence government policy badly..

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JustSomeWaferThinHam · 09/02/2026 13:58

SummerFeverVenice · 09/02/2026 13:21

Sigh, British men told them by doing it in India to local women while claiming that British is best, our culture is more civilised, you need to be more like us etc.

Sigh. Your simplistic and utterly biased framing of this in an attempt to derail from OPs interesting point is tedious.

Start your own thread if you’re that keen.

TansySorrelCelandine · 09/02/2026 13:59

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:54

Yes, I asked it about this subject and it recommended the article. It's a good article : read it.

May I suggest:

The Age of Consent: Victorian Prostitution and Its Enemies by Michael Pearson.
It explores prostitution and reform debates in Victorian Britain, so is valuable for understanding the legal and moral environment in which child sexual exploitation first came into public awareness.

Knowledge of Evil: Child Prostitution and Child Sexual Abuse in Twentieth-Century England by Alyson Brown & David Barrett
A historical study documenting and analysing child prostitution and sexual abuse in England from the late 19th century into the 20th century, looking at social context, policy responses, and legal history across multiple decades.

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 13:59

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:52

Eastern European men and sex trafficking-

What countries?

To give an example, a car wash not far from me is run by some Romanian guys, their office is often frequented by young girls, sat chatting to the men in there. It’s open until late at night, girls are still there.

I could give other examples from the early 90’s, of none Pakistani men who passed young girls about. A night club near to where I used to live was notorious for the bouncers sleeping around with the same girls after buying them drinks

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 14:00

CostadiMar · 09/02/2026 13:51

First of all, the authorities didn't do their job - there is this belief, also on this board, that with even very young girls, it's only their own business if they want to have sex and with whom. These men (like many others i.e. Epstein) simply exploited this - they knew nobody would care. I also suspect that very little has changed and the police is still very unwilling to investigate such cases.

Yes, and yes.

I think there was definitely a class element too. The girls were seen as chavs, promiscuous troublemakers rather than vulnerable teenagers with neglectful or absent parents often.

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Quine0nline · 09/02/2026 14:01

There have been instances of "rape gangs" or colonising rape from the day that the Ug tribe ravaged the lands of the Ig tribe.
The rise of the Roman empire, the Islamic Empire etc. When Soviet troops "liberated" their way through Poland and the eastern part of Germany in 1945 "booty" and what some posters here would say "reaped what they sowed" happened to thousands of women - raped often many times and not infrequently to death - yes thank you poster. Did that "serve then right" in your eyes?

Even today in the wars in African countries, where one African country ravages and rapes the women of another African country. Is that western colonial influences? Bad whitey even though the European colonists left decades ago?

Innocent women have suffered throughout history, and if be naive to think it's not going to stop anytime soon.

KnittyNell · 09/02/2026 14:02

Isn’t it about time we accept and put the past to bed?
The present and future are much more important.

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 14:02

Slyolfox · 09/02/2026 13:57

There were quite a few in care, I remember seeing this man saying it was the parents fault for letting them go out. Not everyone has amazing parents, irrelevant though, that doesn’t mean you get to rape kids.
In Pakistan women and girls are considered whores if they go out with uncovered hair. When I was 13 I used to go out and do my own thing at that age in Pakistan a 13 year old girl wouldn’t be allowed to do that and if something happened to her she’d be blamed. Do we really want that here

Of course not, but 13 year old girls should not be hanging around on the streets at night or in takeaways with men. And I’m not blaming the girls of course, but the people looking after them should be taking some responsibility for this. Or the authorities that are supposed to keep them safe

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 14:03

BeWiseTurtle · 09/02/2026 14:02

Of course not, but 13 year old girls should not be hanging around on the streets at night or in takeaways with men. And I’m not blaming the girls of course, but the people looking after them should be taking some responsibility for this. Or the authorities that are supposed to keep them safe

Some of the girls had neglectful parents. Others were in care, and there had been a lot of discussion on MN at least about failings to protect there.

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FrizzyFrizbee · 09/02/2026 14:04

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 13:51

Tbf, we don't know if SummerFenice IS British.

My thoughts exactly. I wondered if this person is actually female, or a male of Pakistani heritage. There is at least one other regular poster on mum’s net I am convinced is such.

canuckup · 09/02/2026 14:09

At the end of the day, Pakistani or otherwise, people (men) need to be held accountable for their actions.

I grew up in East Lancashire (huge Mirpuris population) and I can say that the boys from these communities did not have any respect for white girls. This extended towards the female teachers too. And the radicalisation happened later, not when they arrived. They were all dressed like the Beatles in the 60's, and the women wore colourful salwar kameeze. Now they are head to toe in black nylon, the men in pyjamas.

Pakistani men would hang around the school gates and target vulnerable girls, of which there were many, in deprived Lancashire mill towns.

A lot of what happens is brushed under the carpet because:

A. Most people in Britain have never been to Stoneyholme, Blackburn with Darwen, Oldham etc and wouldn't believe that ghettos like this actually exist outside of Tower Hamlets, and

B. The government doesn't give a shit about working class, disaffected kids from the North of England.

Slyolfox · 09/02/2026 14:10

FrizzyFrizbee · 09/02/2026 14:04

My thoughts exactly. I wondered if this person is actually female, or a male of Pakistani heritage. There is at least one other regular poster on mum’s net I am convinced is such.

Yes potentially An attention seeking troll on the windup or a male of Pakistani heritage as you say, I’ve seen many such cases on facebook under posts about this topic leaving insensitive comments or calling the victims names like whores or slags etc

Carla786 · 09/02/2026 14:10

FrizzyFrizbee · 09/02/2026 14:04

My thoughts exactly. I wondered if this person is actually female, or a male of Pakistani heritage. There is at least one other regular poster on mum’s net I am convinced is such.

I don't think SummerFever is male. She does have a long posting history on a big topic range. Someone having imo unpleasant opinions doesn't necessarily mean they're male.

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canuckup · 09/02/2026 14:11

😂 at girls hanging around takeaways who shouldn't be.

Of course they shouldn't!

Their mother isn't at home, she's awol. Neither is their father, he's in prison. Perhaps the child is in care?

And that's what happens when you're desperate. Someone shows you attention and gives you a free chip naan, then abuses you.