to think it’s a bit depressing that women still use these terms against other women?

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I’ve noticed that the harshest, most misogynistic insults on mumsnet I hear are actually coming from women directed at other women. Words like cunt, bitch, cow, etc.

When men are criticised, the language often seems much milder or at least less specifically gendered.

Is it internalised misogyny? Habit? Just how people speak now?

Where are you seeing this? It’s not something I have come across on here.

Cannot go wrong with slapper
Equally we should revive Cad, Dog and Himbo

I fear that if I ever got into a fight irl, I’d call the woman a slapper, whilst slapping her!

(how awful that there’s no kat slater gif on here!)

If it helps, that poster's SIL behaved like a bitchy cunting cow, which is probably why people have used those words to describe her.

I don't find that there's any disparity between men and women when it comes to slurs.

So one thread? Out of many thousands of active threads on here.

How do you know they are women?

I agree. Can’t believe the names women call other women on here.

No, I happily call men cunts too if they are.

I see it every day. “Bitch” is commonly used.

Don’t worry op, I call men cunts too.

I think posters are being disingenuous in saying this isn’t a thing. Or they are really new. It’s constant let’s not pretend otherwise,

I called my partner’s ex wife a cunt the other day. Won’t catch me apologising for it, she is one.

I call spades spades, even if that does mean using a “bad word.”

What offensive terms are we allowed? Do I have to settle for calling them an inconvenience?

I think you’ve misunderstood what the op is saying. She’s said the harshest comments are women on women, not please don’t use offensive words.

Bitch and cow are pretty mild, to my mind. I would use both jokily face to face with female friends, and I certainly also use ‘bitch’, less jokily, to describe men who behave in ways that would attract the term ‘bitchy’ if they were women. I used to work with a definite male bitch.

Cunt isn’t one I use myself.

If cunt is good enough for Olivia Coleman, it's good enough for me.

OP doesn’t know if the people using these terms are women.

Well, that's a bit rich coming from a gay man.

Not particularly. I call my definitely male ex husband one too.

I personally think that it’s either a case of not being Kind enough, when sometimes Kindness isn’t the answer, or some warped idea that women should always be nice to each other because men are already horrible enough.

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I dislike the idea that women are never allowed to speak negatively against other women, even when it’s fully deserving. If a woman is acting bitchily, she’s a bitch. I don’t think it’s misogynistic to say that.

I agree.

Dictating how women should behave simply because we are women is pure misogyny.

Olivia Colman has ‘always felt sort of non-binary’

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/16e9be90e9acf538

“I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, ‘Yeah, I get that’. And so I do feel at home and at ease.

This is the internet. People will say what they want to. If it breaks the rules it gets taken down. If it doesn’t and you don’t like it, scroll on by. Women trying to limit what other women say is as bad as men doing it.
And RTFT, the SIL deserves criticism.

YANBU but I don't care very much.

Insults are gendered both ways - I would call a man a wanker, knob, dickhead, etc, far more readily than a woman. If the insult has anything to do with genitals, the tendency is to use the one relating to the target's sex.

Although I make liberal use of the word cunt, it still feels like the worst one so I'll call either sex a cunt if I want a strong epithet. I've got nothing against cunts 😂 and am quite fond of my own! It's unfortunate that none of the slang words for a penis carry the same weight, but it is what it is.

Motherfucker isn't in common use in the UK, but is more suited to men than women. Either sex can be an arsehole, we've all got one of those.

Well, the SIL STOLE HER SPECIAL CAKE!!! So, yes, anyone of either sex deserves all those epithets. If anybody stole my special GF cake, I would be incandescent with rage. Cake-stealers have it coming.