My MIL lives at the end of our road but she is very hands off. We invite her over for meals. and DH goes to see her every week, but she never visits us, calls, or messages. She shows no interest in the children and can’t afford the interest in them or their activities, exams, or sports. We only ever hear from her when she wants something or needs us to do something. I have to spend every Christmas, Easter, and Mother’s Day with her, and have done for the past 20 years at the expense of spending it with my own family, or having to bring her along to theirs. She never goes to her daughter’s house, but she always goes on about how close they are.
My older son is going to be leaving home this year, so I want this Mother’s Day to be spent with just me and my kids. I have said that I will take them out on my own, and DH can take his mother out so she doesn’t miss out. He thinks I’m being unfair. Am I being unfair for putting my own family first this time? Am I right to think that she could go to her daughter’s for a change, or at least make some effort this time so I can enjoy it too? She never invites us over.