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Time for Women with Talent to Take Back Older Female Roles in Pantos

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

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Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:32

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:28

The % of musicals written by women is less than 9%. Talk anecdotally all you like but ask women writers and actors if they think they are properly represented on stage and they’ll tell it to your straight.

There is a long way to go, I agree. There has been progress re big hits by women like Waitress, Six, Hadestown, Fun Home, but I agree the situation overall is very unfair.

Is it equally bad re straight plays?

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:33

JHound · 08/02/2026 18:22

It’s really not the same as blackface remotely. The history of drag and the history of blackface are not remotely similar.

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Yes, I have issues especially with RuPaul's show but I don't think the histories are comparable.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:34

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 18:26

This.

Oh, and er... avoid the musical Hairspray too.

Isn't the mum in Hairspray quite a positively portrayed character? I never know how I feel about John Waters stuff but from what I've heard of Hairspray, it's not women-hating.

99bottlesofkombucha · 08/02/2026 21:38

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 16:40

It's a highly visible role and one designed for older women.

By the time it’s been this way for 200 years I think we can leave any origin story to the historians, I don’t know your credentials for your assertion here but based on your understanding of the Victorian period they are non existant. Let’s leave panto alone, because this is a non issue. I’d like to remind you you don’t have to buy tickets.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:38

Madlentileater · 08/02/2026 18:51

don't worry, I'm sure plenty of posters disagreeing with OP are feminists
I don't know why the principal boy role is discounted because she wears tights?
Then the principal girl role is played by a woman
And depending on the story there could be other female roles- fairy godmother, Queen in sleeping beauty, etc

Yes, I think it's counterproductive for a woman's role to be dismissed because it was partly intended to be sexually alluring. As I said, if principal boys were seen as hugely sleazy, Princess Elizabeth wouldn't have been doing it as a teenager in Windsor Castle.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:39

TofuTuesday · 08/02/2026 20:41

@ErrolTheDragon we go every year and weirdly enough I was just thinking about this as he was the King in 2025 in wonderful costumes and full make up. I’m sure he’s been a more traditional dame at points but I’d have to think back. He was married to Jane MacDonald for 2024 so not then.

i don’t care about dames being played by men but what I hate is interesting roles for women being played by men for laughs. Like Trunchbull or Miss Hannigan.

Miss Hannigan is also played by a woman and the role is played exactly the same

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:39

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:16

Or Matthew Bourne's Swan Lake (absolutely beautiful btw)

I don't have an issue with either of these as they are presented as an all male show. I wouldn't bother going though as I prefer the original Swan Lake to a gimmick.

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Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:39

99bottlesofkombucha · 08/02/2026 21:38

By the time it’s been this way for 200 years I think we can leave any origin story to the historians, I don’t know your credentials for your assertion here but based on your understanding of the Victorian period they are non existant. Let’s leave panto alone, because this is a non issue. I’d like to remind you you don’t have to buy tickets.

To be fair, OP is correct that the panto dame tradition really took off with Dan Leno & similar in the 1860s, definitely the Victorian era. It did start around 1806 but wasn't so popular until then.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 08/02/2026 21:42

Keep bringing on the men. Can't wait for Ru Paul to make an appearance.

I the past maybe Hyacinth Bouquet could have been a guest dame.

Not forgetting the most famous dame of them all

The one and only
Hello Possums
Dame Edna Everage
👑👠👛🕶️🎊
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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:42

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:26

That’s musical theatre. I’m talking about drama. In any case less than 9% of musicals are written by women. It’s dire.

Musical theatre is pretty much the backbone of modern theatre and is just as relevant and dramatic and emotional

But nice bit of snobbery there

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:44

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:26

Yes. Evita was on last year at the Palladium. And Hadestown is written by a woman and has good female parts.

Waitress is another one touring with a heavy female lead

But the PP just meant "plays" because musicals don't count

A snobbery level which is actually harmful to theatres...

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:46

Why is saying that musicals are not my thing ‘snobbery?’ It’s a personal preference. I don’t for one minute look unfavourably on them.

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:47

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:38

Yes, I think it's counterproductive for a woman's role to be dismissed because it was partly intended to be sexually alluring. As I said, if principal boys were seen as hugely sleazy, Princess Elizabeth wouldn't have been doing it as a teenager in Windsor Castle.

Queen Elizabeth wore a Rococo aristocratic man's suit and wig - not a Robin Hood style tunic with tights which is what the actresses wore during the Victorian era. Nice try though.

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Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:49

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:44

Waitress is another one touring with a heavy female lead

But the PP just meant "plays" because musicals don't count

A snobbery level which is actually harmful to theatres...

The fact I prefer straight drama to musicals is not remotely harmful. I tell you what is harmful though, men dominating musical theatre in virtually every respect-composing, writing the book, directing, producing… I wish people would admit this is a huge issue. Don’t get me started on working class creatives…

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:51

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:47

Queen Elizabeth wore a Rococo aristocratic man's suit and wig - not a Robin Hood style tunic with tights which is what the actresses wore during the Victorian era. Nice try though.

Well then, maybe the solution is to change the costume to something more like that?

Did 20th century principal boys still have to wear tights and revealing tunics?

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:52

99bottlesofkombucha · 08/02/2026 21:38

By the time it’s been this way for 200 years I think we can leave any origin story to the historians, I don’t know your credentials for your assertion here but based on your understanding of the Victorian period they are non existant. Let’s leave panto alone, because this is a non issue. I’d like to remind you you don’t have to buy tickets.

200 years is a drop in the ocean.
Blackface started around the same time but no-one's saying that tradition should be preserved...

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:53

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:32

There is a long way to go, I agree. There has been progress re big hits by women like Waitress, Six, Hadestown, Fun Home, but I agree the situation overall is very unfair.

Is it equally bad re straight plays?

Straight plays aren't popular and are mostly based off old stories because people like "classics" - but a fair few of those are Agatha Christie plays

Smaller, local theatres are more likely to host newer plays and put calls out specifically for under represented voices

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:53

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:51

Well then, maybe the solution is to change the costume to something more like that?

Did 20th century principal boys still have to wear tights and revealing tunics?

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Why have women play prince charming at all?
I'm sure young girls would much prefer a good looking boy in the role.

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:55

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:39

I don't have an issue with either of these as they are presented as an all male show. I wouldn't bother going though as I prefer the original Swan Lake to a gimmick.

Matthew Bourne's Swan Lake isn't a gimmick

It's a beautiful interpretation intended to subvert expectations, as are most of his work

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:56

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:46

Why is saying that musicals are not my thing ‘snobbery?’ It’s a personal preference. I don’t for one minute look unfavourably on them.

You have dismissed then as being a valid form of theatre where female lead is thriving

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:58

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:49

The fact I prefer straight drama to musicals is not remotely harmful. I tell you what is harmful though, men dominating musical theatre in virtually every respect-composing, writing the book, directing, producing… I wish people would admit this is a huge issue. Don’t get me started on working class creatives…

Dismissing Musicals as you have is a harmful practice because, like it or not, musicals are the current "popular" form of entertainment

Women are also coming stronger and stronger on to the scene, having more of a say and being seen and visible, making their mark

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:00

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:53

Why have women play prince charming at all?
I'm sure young girls would much prefer a good looking boy in the role.

So it's ok for them to cast a "good looking young man" that the women can ogle?

Hippocrasy

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:01

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 18:40

Have you actually asked any female musical theatre performers whether they would want to play the dame in panto? Surely they are the ones who would be pushing for it if they thought it was unfair that only men get to play that role.

I also think that perhaps Equity, the Actors' Union might be pursuing it as well, if their female members wanted it.

There are plenty of older actresses who would jump at the chance but are excluded from playing these roles reserved for men only - even though the character is female.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3925808/Having-male-panto-dame-sexist-claims-Caroline-Quentin-Christopher-Biggins-says-Oh-no-isn-t.html

Is having a male panto dame is sexist? Oh no it isn't!

Actress Caroline Quentin has called the tradition of the pantomime dame inherently ‘sexist’ and ‘unflattering to women’ but actor Christopher Biggens believes it's a role nest played by a man.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3925808/Having-male-panto-dame-sexist-claims-Caroline-Quentin-Christopher-Biggins-says-Oh-no-isn-t.html

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:02

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:52

200 years is a drop in the ocean.
Blackface started around the same time but no-one's saying that tradition should be preserved...

Edited

But it's not the same as blackface and throwing that around as an equivalency isn't helping

(On a side note, yellow face is still a thing in Panto, with Aladdin, and Ballet, with The Nutcracker, that is only just being moved away from and only then slowly)

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:03

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:47

Queen Elizabeth wore a Rococo aristocratic man's suit and wig - not a Robin Hood style tunic with tights which is what the actresses wore during the Victorian era. Nice try though.

Re this : Victorian principal boys usually wore tights and short tunics or breeches in a storybook/pageboy style — showing legs, yes, but not burlesque-style or “barely covered.” It was standard theatrical costume, closer to ballet or operetta than anything sleazy. If the tradition had been seen as indecent, it’s unlikely Princess Elizabeth would have been allowed to take part at all.
I agree there was a male gaze element but I don't think Victorian pantos as a whole were as sleazy as you say. The dame tradition is definitely sexist imo but otoh Victorians had burlesque and other more risqué forms or entertainment for prurient men to go to- family pantos would presumably not have been their main outlet.

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