To be concerned that a Mum from another class is still in our class WhatsApp group?

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DC's in reception and at the start of the year I noticed a number in the class WhatsApp group whose name I didn't recognise. I assumed it was possibly a grandparent of one of DC's classmates, Anyway, I also felt it was a bit busybody-like to look into it especially as I'm not even a class rep so left it. Fast forward five months and after I posted in the group offering some items for a school activity, the mysterious number messaged me asking if I could pass them one. I joked that I hadn't met them yet and they said that their child is in one of the other Reception classes. I'm not sure what to make of it as although our class WhatsApp isn't very active, some parents do post photos of their children after a party and to me it just feels weird (with privacy concerns) that this mum is still in a class WhatsApp group when her DC isn't in it. My question is: is it something I should mention to a class rep as she's been in the group for almost half a year already. WWYD? AIBU to mention it to a class rep?

People moderate WhatsApp messages?? Who has the time to do that 🤣

She's not an unknown lurker, she's another parent of a same year child. It's a non-issue.

This. Can't believe people get worked up about a social media platform with people they barely know.

Combined with the thread about sleepovers and parents being in each other's houses for pre prom drinks, this is too much.

A parent from the other class would be no more known to me than a parent from the class my child is in. I honestly couldn’t pick out the vast majority of parents of kids in my son‘s class in a lineup. I’ve never met them! Aren’t class WhatsApp groups just meant to be about boring things like ‘have you returned this letter and did anyone take Xs coat home’?

No parent in our year-group WhatsApp would post photos of children. It’s just an admin group really

I volunteered to admin the class WhatsApp in nursery being supremely naive to the fact I’d still be doing it in year 6.

Send a DM to that admin or rep for your class, just in case they don’t know. Leave it with them and be done with it. Don’t give extra context because anything else is speculation. Just screenshot their contact in the chat members list, say ‘just a heads up this person doesn’t have a child in our class.’ And nothing else. It may be that she’s in both class groups because she picks up a child in your class or a friend hates WhatsApp and has delegated that to her or she got lost finding the right class chat. But the admin will know or find out if they don’t.

Then it’s off your conscience and in the hands of someone who has a better picture of the situation. Easy.

I'm not sure I could get too bothered about this, to be honest. If the child was in a different year group or had left the school, then fair enough, the parent shouldn't be in the WhatsApp group. However, the Mum has a child in the same year group, just a different class.

We used to have groups for parents of the whole year group (large school) when mine were at primary school. One day when my child was in y5 or y6 I was looking through the members for a specific person and noticed there was a mum of a child who’d left the school years ago. She’d been reading all the messages over the years. Just why?! I removed her from the group, she had no business being a spectator, even if it was just a boring school parents group.

I can't believe parents have what's app groups for classes! I can't think of anything worse!

@vladimirVsvolodymr some posts on class WhatsApp groups can be awful if someone has a grudge against the teacher, who can’t answer back. So in those circumstances I can see why posts could be moderated. But these chat groups should purely be about don’t forget packed lunch for school trip tomorrow type posts, not children’s birthday parties, not photos of children etc. If you want a social chit chat one, you set up a separate friends one

@ImageNet I noticed Whilst going through the whatapp name list!

This would not even enter on any radar i have in the world, Why do people turn neurotic when it comes to school parents

What privacy concerns do you have exactly, that dont exist with the other parents in the group ? You’re hardly sharing risque content or matters of national security? And if she was to suddenly join your childs class, would the privacy risk magically disappear?

I think youve done enough by asking her who she was. If she is accidentally in the group she will probably now leave. But it’s a non event if she doesnt.

In my experience (three different schools), they were friendly, useful, and not over-used, just occasional questions about homework a child hadn’t written down, reminders about sports day or school trips etc, and a quick and convenient way of issuing invitations to birthday parties.

I got put into my own child’s class WhatsApp group for ten minutes before I left. Ghastly Experience.

@BendSinister I assume only invitations for whole class parties

Precisely. I’ve had 3 kids and been in class WhatsApp groups and not once thought to police who was in it. They were the most mundane conversations ie, is it PE today? Sounds like this mother’s kid is in the other reception class at the same school. Maybe she wants to keep in touch with that group of parents for play dates etc! I mean seriously who cares 🥱

This is outrageous. How dare you. I'm calling the police 🤣

Oh, don’t be silly. Next thing you’ll be priding yourself on not answering the door, and not having fruends because of ‘all the drama’.

“The one where a whole class whatsapp group was used to send invites to a selective-group-only birthday party” would be a GREAT thread!

Does the prime minister know? How soon can you get information together for him to call a cobra meeting?

What on earth does a class rep do?

We used to have class WhatsApp groups which then became a pain because the school muddle up the classes twice in their time in primary so that they are both similar in behaviour and ability.
When they did this everyone would have to leave one and join another to swap over.
My youngest started last year and a community WhatsApp was set up for the year group as both classes spent a lot of time together as it was a free flow through the classrooms as side by side with a middle door.
Now they are in year 1 they don’t spend so much time together but children still have friends in both so it really makes it easier to invite children to parties etc if they are whole year group ones. Perhaps this parent feels similar and it’s easier to contact parents if she is on all the reception ones. As long as she is a parent of a child in your year group and not a random person I don’t think it’s a problem.

Well I have now, I muted it back in the summer and completely forgot until I saw this thread 🤣 my life doesn’t revolve around social media and I mute group chats all the time