Pregnant. Just found messages to another woman behind my back…

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Waiting until tomorrow when he goes to work to lock him out the house as he won’t leave. So in the meantime he’s fallen asleep and I’ve poured tuna juice in all his favourite designer shoes if he wants to go out looking for fishy fanny he can do it smelling like one. Has anyone else done anything in revenge like this? He also said he knew I was a slag from the first day I met him.. deflecting behaviour (I’ve never looked at another man since the day we met)

Me either.

I would get an appointment with the Citizens Advice Bureau to get legal advice on your rights as a joint tenant OP.
Have there been Safeguardings in the past regarding you and your children if your partner has substance misuse issues?
I’ve been through the same but my ex didn’t cheat on me (as far as I know) and I was told that my young son should have been on the At Risk register as my ex was using weed and was an alcoholic. He refused to leave as we were joint tenants and my parents helped me buy him out in the end. Less than a year after he moved out he had lost his job due to the drinking and he died.

You missed the point. The goodness was at your behaviour I surmise.

You sound as bad as each other. Both misogynists.

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Why? Just why?

messaging someone else? Proof that he is with another woman?

joint tenancy, you can’t just lock him out, he has some rights.

fishy Fanny? Oooo classy lady. Your behavior is terrible, are you a child or just act like one?

you both sound better off without each other 👍

No, you haven't

Will you be keeping the baby? This all sounds a bit ridiculous tbh. Not sure why you’d be bringing another baby into it.

or are you one of those people that are on and off and airing their business on Facebook all the time? Sounds a little like you love the drama tbh because I’m not sure why wrecking his shoes would be your first port of call in this situation

You will probably end up
in family court so don’t send him anything you wouldn’t want a judge deciding on your child’s future to read that you’ve written

Imagine shaming a pregnant woman who has just been betrayed and heartbroken she is vulnerable have a day off

First of all I’m very sorry. When I was a teenager my ex who I lived with had been cheating so I put used kitty littler in the pockets of all his suit jackets and put the back in their plastic covers then in their suit bags. Also put raw prawns in the hem of the curtains when I went back to get the rest of my stuff which rotted and stank the place out. To be fair his fault for leaving me alone in his house.

Shaming her? If I was pregnant and heartbroken my knee jerk reaction would not be pouring fish oil in someone’s shoes. Hitting the roof, throwing his clothes out etc. yes absolutely. but what she’s done requires a number of pre meditated steps. She’s already said they’re on and off. She sounds like a drama queen. Even the OP is crass and silly.

You had great advice above- citizens advice bureau. You're both on the tenancy so if you follow through with yiur plan tomorrow you are simply escalating the issue further and making it harder for your kids.
Other great advice was to make sure that all communication is in writing, screenshot and make sure it is suitable for the court. If you need to rant or offload then do it to a friend of chat gpt. When you're writing a message to him, write it in chat gpt, and then ask chat gpt to make it BIFF and emotionless. That will annoy him more and look better if you do end up in court. Document everything time, date, what was said with no emotions, impact on the kids.
Now is the time to get smart, retaliate by getting him out of the house and keeping the kids safe- both in a legal way.
Feel for you, and it's hard to keep your head screwed on when you're angry, but you have to for your kids. Also, go to the GP and get some counselling, reallt important.
If he shouts, becomes violent- don't hesitate to contact the police.

Are you 5yrs old?
Grow up and get your shit together rather than focusing on revenge. You've got a baby on the way to prioritise and like it or not, you will need to find a way to co-parent with this man in the future despite what hes done to you.

Nah, talking about fishy fannies? That's gross. And why insult the other woman? She knows nothing about her.

Joint tenancy

Are you married?

Why are you choosing to have a baby with a drug addict and in the context of an unstable relationship?

And sleeping with him yourself was a great idea? Where is your self respect? in the gutter? Take this as a life lesson for the next one and the one after

Why have you chosen to have a child with this loser?

@ValidPistachio
This is her 3rd child with him.

Oh come on people! She’s understandably upset and lashing out!

I threw exh out. Landlord sent over via email a new single person tenancy.. The next day.
Exh didn't argue..

Why on earth are you having a baby with this man with addictions issues????
id consider a termination myself keep him out your life!

I know you are upset and hormonal and probably acting out, but you are pregnant and have vulnerable children at home. Please don't antagonise a drug user with these kinds of petty revenge while you are alone with them, its dangerous, they are not in their right mind. Call the police and get him removed. Or go somewhere safe yourself and the kids.