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Vocal fry

147 replies

Idleplum · 02/02/2026 17:02

Is it just me or are more and more people speaking with a vocal fry? It’s so common, it has to be intentional. I absolutely can’t stand it.

MAFS Australia used to be my guilty pleasure but I had to give it up because I couldn’t take listening to all those guys horrible voices. Now I feel like every video I see online has someone speaking like it and my body does this weird, scrunched up thing because I hate it so much.

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Idleplum · 02/02/2026 18:57

Shitmonger · 02/02/2026 17:19

There are now several years of research and publications about the misogyny behind the “hatred” and criticism of vocal fry. Linguist Dr. Geoff Lindsey has some good videos about the dislike of young women speaking or appearing confident/knowledgeable as well as how men’s voices are not policed and criticised for their vocal fry.

Well, as evidenced by my original post I can’t stand anyone who does it. Not just women.

I’ve always thought men must think it sounds sexy. It has a repellent effect to me.

Sometimes if my DH has had to take a larger dose of his medication (which can make him drowsy) he gets a fry. I have to control my irritation because I know he doesn’t even realise he’s doing it, I just hate it so much.

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WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 02/02/2026 18:57

Shitmonger · 02/02/2026 17:19

There are now several years of research and publications about the misogyny behind the “hatred” and criticism of vocal fry. Linguist Dr. Geoff Lindsey has some good videos about the dislike of young women speaking or appearing confident/knowledgeable as well as how men’s voices are not policed and criticised for their vocal fry.

I don’t know the research to which you refer but if anything to me is the antithesis of someone appearing knowledgeable or confident it is changing your voice to ape a trend on social media. It’s annoying, affected, inauthentic and hard on the ear. I don’t care who does it nor their reasons. They might have something earth shattering to say but I won’t be listening because it makes me want to pull my own ears off.

orbital12 · 02/02/2026 19:05

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 02/02/2026 17:27

I absolutely adore David Mitchell and love listening to him reading his book 'Unruly' because it really makes me laugh. But the vocal fry makes me shiver so I am caught in something of a dichotomy.

Oh wow, really? I never noticed this with David Mitchell. In fact his voice sounded more nasal which is kind of the opposite. I'll have to re-listen to him.

I notice it with Banjo (surname?) the interior design guy on TV but can tune it out after a while.

Idleplum · 02/02/2026 19:06

Agree David Mitchell has always just sounded nasally to me, I don’t think I’ve ever picked up a vocal fry from him

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Bertiebiscuit · 02/02/2026 19:16

Totally with you on this, unbearable, i can't listen to it, worse than chalk on a blackboard - and no good reason for it, no one learns to speak like it as a child, it's a pointless idiotic affectation, copied from U S as usual.

FeteofOphelia · 02/02/2026 19:24

men’s voices are not policed and criticised for their vocal fry

Let me help you out. I can't bear how Rory Stewart fries his way through TRIP.

GreenRedFlowers · 02/02/2026 19:37

This is the the coffee shop sketch - vocal fry-abungo. It's so funny because it's so true.

Katemax82 · 02/02/2026 19:40

My daughter says ok and thank you with vocal fry for some reason (nothing else). Yes it's annoying

DustlandFairytaleBeginning · 02/02/2026 19:45

I was told I slip into vocal fry on a public speaking/ confidence course (I am in my 40s). I am nervous speaking publicly anyway and now its made me even more paranoid. i don't hear myself do it and certainly don't mean to. I appreciate it sounds much nicer when people don't talk that way but I also feel quite forgiving of it because I don't think its intentional or even necessarily apparent to the speaker.

nomas · 02/02/2026 19:47

DustlandFairytaleBeginning · 02/02/2026 19:45

I was told I slip into vocal fry on a public speaking/ confidence course (I am in my 40s). I am nervous speaking publicly anyway and now its made me even more paranoid. i don't hear myself do it and certainly don't mean to. I appreciate it sounds much nicer when people don't talk that way but I also feel quite forgiving of it because I don't think its intentional or even necessarily apparent to the speaker.

Look how quickly David Mitchell was forgiven for it on this thread, whereas women are ripped apart for it.

Tulipvase · 02/02/2026 19:47

I’m often surprised that quite a few people on tv, that speak for a living, have awful voices. Well, to me any way.

HellsBells13 · 02/02/2026 19:48

All the women on Instagram and who have proper regional accents, now have the vocal fry. It drives me bonkers.

Upstartled · 02/02/2026 19:48

LoyalMember · 02/02/2026 19:43

Prepare yourself for this. The worst vocal fry ever..

Yeah, I'm giving a pass to anyone who's been terrified by some creepy dude.

nomas · 02/02/2026 19:49

PurplePantsofPower · 02/02/2026 17:25

I find younger women in my workplace often do this and I just want to tell them to speak with their full voice! It feels diminishing to me, it makes the speaker sound less confident.

Younger women don’t need your advice, let them be.

I’m middle aged but the young women I see in my company are more confident than you or I could ever dream, which seems to annoy some women unfortunately.

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 02/02/2026 19:49

David Mitchell doesn’t have vocal fry! Where is that coming from? Agree that Rory Stewart’s voice is unbearable.

LoyalMember · 02/02/2026 19:49

Shitmonger · 02/02/2026 17:19

There are now several years of research and publications about the misogyny behind the “hatred” and criticism of vocal fry. Linguist Dr. Geoff Lindsey has some good videos about the dislike of young women speaking or appearing confident/knowledgeable as well as how men’s voices are not policed and criticised for their vocal fry.

Research by whom, Katy Perry and Kim Kardashian...?
😄

Odditea · 02/02/2026 19:50

Totally agree. There’s a character on Platonic that starts a podcast and suddenly starts talking like this. Had me in stitches

NewGirlInTown · 02/02/2026 19:50

I’m just so sick of it. When oh when is it going to die out?
It makes them sound so dense.

Gloopsy · 02/02/2026 19:51

David Mitchell does not read with a vocal fry voice 😂

APatternGrammar · 02/02/2026 19:52

LoyalMember · 02/02/2026 19:49

Research by whom, Katy Perry and Kim Kardashian...?
😄

She says in the post who the author of the research is. Find a equally robust study that reaches the opposite conclusion if you want, but what’s the point of making fun of her?

ValidPistachio · 02/02/2026 19:53

nomas · 02/02/2026 19:47

Look how quickly David Mitchell was forgiven for it on this thread, whereas women are ripped apart for it.

He's quickly forgiven for it because he doesn't bloody do it!

FeteofOphelia · 02/02/2026 19:54

I’m middle aged but the young women I see in my company are more confident than you or I could ever dream, which seems to annoy some women unfortunately.

Oh bless you @nomas - trying in vain to make this a feminist issue!

ACommonTreasuryForAll · 02/02/2026 19:54

David Mitchell is pathologically nasal. He doesn't have vocal fry.

VF has got to be the most contrived bit of 'self expression' around. Gross.

nomas · 02/02/2026 19:54

ValidPistachio · 02/02/2026 19:53

He's quickly forgiven for it because he doesn't bloody do it!

So defensive.

But others have said his vocal fry is so bad it makes them physically react.