Social time for sending WhatsApp messages

[Olive42]

Do you think there is a reasonable time window for sending WhatsApp or similar messages to people? When I was brought up pre-digital era in the 80s/90s, I was taught you should not call someone before 9am or after 9pm for example, barring an emergency or very close relationship!

I find I have time to answer a few messages early am (like now, around 6) but don’t as it feels anti-social.

I know - they could have their phone on silent overnight but equally might not. Small issue but what do you think, please?

I dont care when people send me things as I reply on my time not theirs

I tend to go to bed early and wake up early, so I have my do not disturb on. I assume other people use it too.

I don’t really understand why people can’t just ignore messages until they’re ready to read them.

A call at 6am (unless urgent) is a bit of a pisstake. But you don’t have to respond to a WhatsApp.

It completely depends on who you are messaging. I’ve got groups chats that have been going since we all had babies and were up at all hours and a few friends in friends in different time zones so we all message when it suits us and know we all use do not disturb. Older relatives or newer friends I would always be cautious and broadly stick to 8am to 9pm ish.

For me I don’t mind when people send messages to me, the app is muted until I want to read them so it makes no difference.
some people can be funny about it though so if I’m catching up on replying and it feels a bit early I’ll type the replies then leave them as draft to click send later.

I reckon 7.30am earliest and 9.30pm latest.

Send whenever you like. I would expect people to have do not disturb on overnight.

I have DND on overnight for everyone except close family, so I tend to assume most other people do that too.

I’d only message one of my siblings overnight if it was an emergency, because I’d expect the message to wake them.

I respond when I remember to, that could be immediately, a day or sometimes a week.

If it’s urgent the person can call me, a don’t class messages as overly important or needing a response in a specific timeframe.

This nails it.

In my friend WhatsApp group we often send early messages as that's when people are up for work/kids.

WhatsApp/messenger etc all count as being like emails. Send when you like, as any sensible person will have DND on.

People respond when they can. I am in several group chats, including people with young babies who might be up feeding in the wee hours, so often catch up with messages then.

I don't understand people getting upset about receiving a WhatsApp message too early or too late. Surely, the point of messaging is that you reply when you want to.

I send and receive messages at all hours of the day and night. I have multiple friends and family spread over different time zones so it would be a nightmare, if I could only message them between 7:30am and 8:00pm their time.

If I have time to read a message, I have time to reply. And I always do immediately.

I don't mnd much really - I have my phone on DND between 9pm and 7am so that I am not disturbed by notifications in the night. I am assuming they are not neccesarily expecting a reply.

What I do object to is 10 minute voice notes (I don't even like a short one to be fair) - send a summary on a text or ring me!

I send messages at a time thats convenient for me/when I remember what I needed to say. If people dont put their phone on DND then thats their issue.

All my WhatsApp groups are muted except one that my friends and i use in an emergency. Kids dogs elderly parents that kind of thing

Yeah I'm the same, it feels rude. I only send early messages to my proper friends who are also.

However not everyone is this considerate. I run a business and there is the odd customer who will send a non urgent message at midnight and then a follow up at 6am. I make a point of not answering them until the afternoon.

I've never used do not disturb and wouldn't expect anyone else to. If someone messaged me at 6am and it wasn't an emergency, I'd just ignore and think they were a twat

I respond when I wake up, which can be between 4am and 7am depending on my shift at work / DCs waking. People will have their phones on silent / DND and respond when they’re ready. I have no expectation on the time of reply. Just like they have no expectation of me to respond to something they sent at 6pm and I only get to it at 5am.

I don’t have dnd on overnight, but I mute on for all of my friends that send messages before 8am and people who live in different time zones.

I do think there's a reasonable time window for messages.

Personally I wouldn't message anyone other then one or two good friends after 9.30/10 pm
In the morning, I wouldn't message before 7am.

I absolutely hate waking up to 20 or 30 WhatsApp messages.
Personally, WhatsApp has become like emails another daily job.

I really hate voice notes but what really annoys me is a friend who sends ridiculously long detailed messages about her daily life, I didn't realise she wasn't messaging me personally until I seen her message on Instagram... WTF!

Everyone has DND surely?

I have family who live the other side of the world so 99% of the time message are sent when the other side is in bed so no I don't think you should be time bound in sending messages. I ignore message until it is convenient for me to reply.

People either have DND on over night or mute notifications if they don't want to be disturbed. Or just ignore it if they don't mind the notifications.

Set up a scheduled Do Not Disturb (with exceptions as appropriate) and live your life.

And if anyone has a problem with that, it's on them ....

I don't mind when people send me messages because i read them when i've got time and answer them when i CBA whenever that might be. Everyone knows i hate txt'ing so replies are normally random. If you want to speak to me call me.