Please tell me what is going on with me ..
I started a new job Jan 2025, change department/different area of work but within the company. Been with company for 12 years. Doing the same role for 11 years and wanted to do something different but I had some transferable skills from my old role to new role.
the problem is since I started working in the role I have been working with a manager (not my direct manager) who has been nothing but horrible to me, shouting at me, questioning me checking if I know what I’m doing infront of colleagues, the biggest was last November 2025 when he screamed and shouted at me infront of the open office floor.
my direct manager spoke to me and said that his behaviour towards me wasn’t acceptable and that he will talk to him.
few days later he then apologise to me very informally standing over my shoulder and said sorry.
After that incident I said to my direct manager I don’t want to work on his projects, and requested to be moved to another project but nothing has been done. My direct manager just said yes but nothing has been done. So consequently I have just accepted and carry on working with the horrible manager. As feel like I don’t have a choice
Now after that incident every time I had a check in with my direct manager she will say “I think he is really sorry and has changed to a new person” then she will say to me “with the new you have forgotten about that incident and moved on, starting all good” I usually don’t reply. I really feel like she want to down play the incident but why?
I hate going to work and constantly feeling anxious and stressed.
I'm I overthinking, I want to find a different job and leave but thinking maybe the grass is not greener on the other side.
what should I do