I cannot stand watching my child do dance /shows !

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Now I know what I put my parents through when I was a kid (which they also agree with ) and how mind numbingly boring it was for them to endure. My 12 year old regularly shows me dances /songs/ shows anything drama she's created with her self/ her siblings god it's so mind numbing to sit and entertain.
I know I'm being unreasonable but nope can't stand that part of parenting anyone else with me ?

"Ah," said the school, "We know - let's get all the Y2 kids to buy an ocarina each. They can play them at the end of year concert."

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My mum and dad used to sit through acting skits that my brother and I used to make them endure. There was six years between us and one time my brother forgot his line so I whispered it to him. (“How are you?”) and he replied “fine, thanks” My parents just pissed themselves laughing. It was a truly funny moment and regardless of how bored they were, they always looked in enthralled. It’s part of parenting - one day they’ll be too old and far too cool to do it so I’d say just enjoy it.

I can tell you this much if you look bored they will know it and then they’ll need therapy when they’re older.

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Yea its boring. Yes its mind numbing.
At the moment DD insists everyone gets ip and dances at the hint of any music (even a TV advert) if the TV is off he finds a way to make music... there is no escape haha.

What gets me through is that there will come a time my 3 year old DS barely talks to me let alone wants to dance with me. I try to treasure the moments (as hard as it is to get up for the 10th time in an hour!)

😂 whats your problem! Last para was a joke, clearly.

Yep mind numbing, I was a guide leader, and it's a great fuller activity as they love it so much.

i have very outdoorsy boys so they have never really done dances / shows etc but I do get “mummy watch, mummeeeee watch” as they do endless variations on back / front flips on the trampoline or climb very high trees or kick rugby balls around in our fields. I don’t mind the first few but after 20 mins of the same things it gets a bit tedious! It’s part of having kids though I suppose isn’t it, and I’m lucky in that mine play for hours by themselves in the garden, in between wanting me to watch them do some trick or something.

With you OP

I had no problem with the proper shows/school assemblies/ballet parent days and os on. And when DD was a bit older and learning guitar, she'd sing me a little acoustic song - lovely

But the home-made 'shows' were mind-numbing. In our house, they would consist of one or two full dance routines that had to be 'started again' if something went wrong and several full length songs with no musical accompaniment. There was also often a Recorder finale... Worst of all we would often be handed a hand-made programme, so we understood how much we were going to have to endure. There was sometimes an interval where we would get orange squash and a rich tea biscuit, and usually a lot of fussing about making sure we were in our 'correct chairs' (tickets were issued).

Dire.

DS not DD

Sorry - I took it seriously!

My DD (now 42) or my DGD never did this,but they WERE heavily into 'imaginary play' which I was frequently expected to take part in. And which I absolutely hated. Partly because they were so bossy! If I didn't use the exact right tone of voice or say the exact thing that Barbie or whoever was meant to say,DD or DGD would start getting in a strop. And it was so mind numbingly boring! All I can say is that now DGD is 19,thankfully that is all firmly behind me!

I can’t bear musical theatre and all the overwrought acting that goes with it. Friend’s kid does it and we’re all regularly ‘treated’ to phone-recordings of her singing some show tune or other. Mind-numbing stuff.

Christ alive. How many mind numbingly dull people are commenting here? Whats wrong with you all. They're your kids and they're just after some validation and creative expression. It's the parents who are arrogant and dull in here. Are you adults? Not everything is about you and your enjoyment. Grow up

It is a privilege being a parent. Enjoy these years where she wants to share moments with you, because they go fast and before long, she'll be off into the world doing her own thing and you'll be wanting these years back.

My kids dance 4 days a week, they also compete and do a Xmas and Summer show. Competitions and shows I show up for even though they dance 3 minutes each dance and usually at least an hour between them. It can be mind numbing and to make it worse, you best believe they’re gonna show me loads of dances they’ve made up on the spot🙈

Was also thinking, don’t start swimming galas, got to be the most boring events ever. Also the most uncomfortable seats and having to pay to sit and watch them.

No, quite frankly.

I used to do the same, loved making my own radio shows!

I have very strong memories of tripping over my words and have to rerecord sections! (And the amount of times the tape would get caught up around the spools of the recorder and I would have to use a pencil to unhook it and roll it back up again!) I had all sorts of different 'spots' too, like 'Guess the Sound' (usually one of the three cats and my parents weren't allowed to say "A cat" they had to work out WHICH cat, obviously!) and 'Guess the Song?' based off just the introduction to some music. I also seem to recall doing a 'joke of the day', which given my age would probably have been some awful Christmas cracker-style puns! I am starting to feel a bit sorry for my folks after all!!

I remeber me and my cousins doing shows and asking everyone to come and watch. I feel like I need to send a written apology, it sounds like hell to watch talentless children do a shitty play.

I felt the same but mine is grown up now. I remember he was doing something at school which he wouldn't shut up about but I found the conversations mind numbingly boring Then I found out from someone else just how much this meant to him and how invested he was. Chokes me up even now just thinking about how disinterested I was to begin with. No judgement from me though I have been there

Agree with this I am sat here now feeling a bit crap because it has got me thinking how I could and should have been a better mum. I have a good relationship with my son but OMG I want those years back 😥

Thankfully my kids didn't do this. Me, my sister and cousins used to make our parents sit through many (obviously absolutely brilliant) shows that we put together.
They used to watch us but I feel sorry for them now, must of been so boring.

I can’t lie, being subjected to friend’s children ‘performing’ endless dance shows I was expected to sit and be enthusiastic about was absolutely a factor in me knowing I didn’t want children.

If you can encourage them and find a good dance school...I promise it could become something everyone looks forwards to. I have had years of enduring painful violin practice or watching terrible dance and gym routines but practice makes perfect. One day it all clicks - they find a hobby they love and then excel at. I now love watching my son perform in gigs and music festivals (he got into Brit school to study music) and my daughter is going to World of Dance finals to represent the UK in LA this summer. Seeing her solos, trios and her dance squad performances at dance competitions is so much fun...she would have been on BGT but one of the schools wouldn't give permission for her squad mates to miss 1 day of school, so they couldn't get the license to film. It has brought her so much confidence, strength/stamina, pride and amazing friendships and keeps her from being glued to a screen.