Been on a couple of dates with someone online, however one was mid December, the last one was a couple of weeks ago. He couldn't meet over Xmas due to being busy, away and not very well. First one was a drink and second one was a coffee date, meeting half way location wise.
He does text me but hasnt asked me out again, and to be honest I don't reply for a few days because it's in the back of my mind that interested men who are looking for a relationship act more assertively than this and are trying to meet you once a week or something. I can't tell if he's just laid back, because he also does seem that way. I gave the benefit of the doubt over Xmas but to be honest I thought he would be trying to meet up with me sooner after the second date, but already two weeks have gone by and he hasn't asked again. Yes I know I could ask but I don't want something where I have to drive everything.
Would you ever bother replying to messages from this man or regard him as a time waster? Or I sometimes think, maybe men hold back effort of they think you are chilled and not that interested. I'm looking for something long term and also going on dates with others. I just don't want someone where every date is 3 weeks apart.