What would you do P6 hit my P2

[Mummy2both1991]

So yesterday my DD told me a P6 hit my DS hes 5 years old in P2 (hes ADHD) he was lining up at breakfast club and a P6 boy was trying to make him drink this thing he made at home containing blue and green food colouring salt and sugar (shouldn't even be in school) my son told him to stop many times ( sister saw this and shes a big tout lol) and when he didnt my son pushed him away then the P6 boy hit my DS in the face. School never told me this happened. The boys is big for his age and obviously alot older than my son.
I know my DS pushed him away but should I be furious he hit him on the face. How would you mums feel? Should I speak to the principle. Conflicted cause my son did push but he shouldn't have been trying to make him drink something.

You absolutely need to report this to the school. Your son pushing the boy away was reasonable and he should be seen as the victim in this. I work in a primary school and your DS would not be punished for pushing away an older and larger boy in that scenario.

Who was supervising this club and where were they? your child is not in the wrong at all he issued a verbal statement more than once then pushed him away. no the other child needs reporting

I'd be raging!! Definitely speak to the school, firmly

Thank you! I did believe this myself as he shouldn't have been trying to make him drink anything at all. Good know what was really in the bottle. I told my son you are not in trouble for pushing him you told him to stop and he didnt listen. I dont even want to take this to his teacher thinking straight to principle

report to the school, tell them you think is an extremely serious failure of safeguarding, ask them why you weren’t told about this (sounds like a cover up) ask them if the incident has been recorded in SEEMIS, and ask them how they intend to safeguard your child going forward.

Make them see you mean business.

Of course you should speak to the school. I can’t believe this is even a question. Forcing another child to drink something dodgy is bad enough. A girl got excluded at our primary for putting hand sanitizer in someone’s water bottle and the kid’s parents sued the school. But a big kid pushing a little one is not acceptable. I would have been in there like lightening yesterday.

Classroom assistant supervised the club and DD said all the CA did was say dont do that again. Sounds abit pityful considering hes a P6 big boy hitting a P2 and my DS isn't a big boy at all

It didnt get mention until school was closed my DS said nothing was my DD told me so couldn't contact the school yesterday

In the first instance, I would speak to your child's teacher. If you're not happy with the response, I would then escalate and ask for a meeting with the headteacher.

If your son isn't said anything about being hit then probably not a big del for him

I'd be more concerned about your child being forced to drink something potentially dangerous.

Does it matter if it isnt a big deal for him. My son is so laid back and nothing in this world annoys him but isnt it the principle that a 10 year old hit a 5 year old on the face.

Yes the drinking thing concerns me too!

The little boy not saying something doesn’t mean it isn’t a big deal to him, it probably means he’s frightened. Email it in now and go Monday, then it is in writing explaining what happened and that reasonable action wasn’t taken just incase you need to take it further after reporting to the head.

I don't understand your question?

An older child tried to bully another child into drinking a concoction of god knows what. When the younger child tried to get him away, he was struck.

Yes. Obviously you need to tell school.

What if your kid had drunk it? He could have been violently ill or even died depending on what was in it.

I can overreact and was asking am I overreacting cause my DS pushed him. My DS tends to be the scape goat and blamed when stuff happens due to his ADHD.

Those of you who say you should “speak firmly” and let the school know you “mean business” are just not going to get OP anywhere constructive.

Schools are incredibly busy places, worked in by humans. Simply ask for a discussion with the teacher to find out exactly what happened and point out that you would like to be kept informed of any incidents like this in future. Express your concern that there was no communication about the incident and your concern about how behaviour incidents are managed (as trying to get a younger child to drink something is, quite rightly, a worry). Ask for close supervision of interactions between the older child and yours.

If you’re unhappy with the response from the teacher or a further incident happens, then request a meeting with leadership.

Being clear about your concerns and asking for a specific outcome (i.e. review behaviour policy, improve communication and supervise the children closely) should get you what you need. If not, then escalate.

There is absolutely no need to fly off the handle in order to resolve something with school.

PS: your child pushing the other is totally understandable in that circumstance. I would ask them to clarify that they know why he did it, as they should be reinforcing the message that “no means no.”

In my head I’d hunt the kid down, in reality I’d complain to the school and maybe give the kid evils in the playground

You start by speaking to the class teacher to find out if they were aware. If teacher didn’t know they can make enquiries with supervising staff. You would only escalate to the principal if you weren’t satisfied with the teacher’s response. I’m not sure why you need to post online about a logical process.

Dont see why people responsed to peoples post if your going to judge people on that post 🙄
Mind boggling

Already explained more than once I overreact at times!

A year 6 pupil wil be 10 or 11 years old. Bullying a 5 year old to drink something that may possible be toxic and then hitting him in the face is a serious incident. The school need to deal with this as it is a serious safeguarding failure. How has a yr6 child got access to 5yos? Your son was assaulted and could have been poisoned and there were no teachers watching what was happening. Massive failure.

I would speak to the Headteacher first thing on Monday morning (or the Safeguarding Lead if Head not there) and would expect an investigation to be carried out with assurances that your son will be kept safe. If the school do not take the incident seriously, I would report that a 10yo tried to poison and assaulted your 5yo to the police. Your son

I would be livid! Straight to head teacher and if you don’t get a satisfactory resolution I’d be taking it further. Rough and tumble is one thing but that’s outrageous trying to get him to drink something is almost worse to me than the hitting. That could have been so dangerous.

Nah..The slapping is bullying tyranny...but making a concoction and trying to force/persuade younger children to drink it is dangerous behaviour, needs addressed pronto. What if there was something in it that people are allergic to?...doesn't bear thinking about.

Firstly you tell your son not to put hands on anyone first; regardless of whether he feels it was justified or not. He should tell the grown up in charge!
Secondly obviously talk to the school!

Prancingpickle

Dont agree with you at all. My son made it clear and told him no and he didnt listen. So don't dare sit there and try and blame my child when hes someone is trying to get him to drink something. What if my son did push him away and ended up drinking something? You think about that!

I tell you more than once to leave me alone you bet im going to push you if you dont listen

Don't care what people think. My kids are taught stick up for yourself. He was crossing my sons boundaries and was told to back off and didnt. My son is tiny the P6 in a massive kid!