Well, given that we live in a society where it is completely acceptable to shame someone who doesn't, yes, I think she probably does deserve it. You can't have it both ways.
If I were to post that I just had ADHD, and it wasn't that bad but you can claim for it, if you word it right, so I do, what would you say? So if you believe that's acceptable to socially punish someone for (which is the norm), then you need to socially reward the converse. Which is not the norm. so, yep. Give her a pat on the head and do your bit. It wouldn't cost you anything.
Or we could live in a less judgemental and conditional society. I have tried to, but frankly it's not my world, and when you are ND you are pretty constantly blamed and shamed for not fitting in, and if there's no appreciation for the enormous effort you make to try to and achieve normal, why would I bother? Might as well claim the benefits and have a (very slightly) easier time of it.
Oh......
I'm feeling especially jaded and fed up of it just now. My point is that if MOST NT's were a just a little bit less shitty day in day out, ND peeps would feel less disabled and be capable of more. It's your world, not ours. You have the privilege, potential and capacity, we don't. And yet we absorb the cost for you utill we break. It can be a really shitty life at times, and you still have to pretend it's not.