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AIBU to refuse to pay cash in hand?

354 replies

Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 20:29

This recently came up in conversation with a friend and she disagreed with me.

I generally avoid hiring anyone who asks to be paid cash in hand. I don’t see how cash is more convenient these days unless it’s to avoid tax, benefits rules, etc., and I don’t want to be involved. I also rarely carry cash and getting to a cash machine is inconvenient.

Last year I stopped using a regular gardener when he suddenly asked for cash only, despite there being no payment issues (I always transferred the money on the day he’d done the work). My friend thinks I’m being ridiculous and that it’s none of my concern how people run their business. AIBU?

OP posts:
dnadiscoveryquery · 29/01/2026 09:04

Motheranddaughter · 28/01/2026 20:42

i really can’t see the issue
Asking for cash doesn’t mean they are up to no good

I had a couple of workmen who said it’s £££ price but if you pay in cash it’s £££. That’s most definitely a tax dodge.

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:05

HoskinsChoice · 29/01/2026 08:39

You're actually inconveniencing her. She has to bank that cash. Its considerably easier for businesses to trade cash-free, (which is why we are increasingly seeing businesses refusing cash). It's a myth that it's more expensive for businesses to take cards.

Who says she has to bank it? She can pay other people in cash also. It's worrying that some people on here want to almost encourage a cashless society. I
I find it amazing at how many 7 year olds can understand cash these days. Simply as lack of opportunity to handle it

liveforsummer · 29/01/2026 09:06

I’ll happily pay cash if it means a good discount. Doing us both a favour 😊 can’t get upset about one individual making a couple of extra £100 on top of all they do declare when companies like Amazon screw is out of millions of tax contributions

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:06

Runnersandtoms · 29/01/2026 07:11

People keep going on about card payment charges when the OP was talking about cash versus bank transfer. Taking bank transfer payments costs nothing.

I'm self employed and find it irritating when people pay in cash as then I have to queue up at the post office and pay it in. On the rare ocassion people can't or won't do a bank transfer I'd rather have a cheque which I can pay straight into my account using my banking app.

I would agree with OP, I'd assume a tradesman requesting cash was probably not declaring all their income.

Ok how many people are likely to be setting up bank transfers an the front desk of the takeaway ? Especially if it's not one they use regularly

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 29/01/2026 09:07

Motheranddaughter · 28/01/2026 20:42

i really can’t see the issue
Asking for cash doesn’t mean they are up to no good

Generally if someone wants cash you won't get an invoice. That may not matter for garden work (other than tree surgery) but for building work it can be more important to show that work has been done and to the correct standards.

MandingoAteMyBaby · 29/01/2026 09:09

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 28/01/2026 20:48

Cash jobs don't always go through the books but I think it's fair as self employed people don't get paid for annual leave or for being sick. If they don't work they don't get paid. It can also be complicated for households with a self employed earner to claim Universal Credit as a top up as earnings vary so much.
Sometimes doing a few cash in hand jobs are a little fuck you to the government.

But it’s not an FU to the government, it’s a FU to all of us.

Um, thanks plumbers I guess.

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:09

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 29/01/2026 09:07

Generally if someone wants cash you won't get an invoice. That may not matter for garden work (other than tree surgery) but for building work it can be more important to show that work has been done and to the correct standards.

My mechanic prefers cash. I get an invoice and guarantee for the work. What's the issue?

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:10

liveforsummer · 29/01/2026 09:06

I’ll happily pay cash if it means a good discount. Doing us both a favour 😊 can’t get upset about one individual making a couple of extra £100 on top of all they do declare when companies like Amazon screw is out of millions of tax contributions

If you think Amazon are tax evaders please do contact HMRC. By the way they aren’t.

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:11

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:02

The cash exchanged will only be subject to income tax if the person selling the goods is looking to turn a profit / run it as a business. If I do a car boot to declutter that’s fine. If I do a car boot to sell stuff that I have bought for resale or produced for sale myself that’s taxable.

Well I know that. Was a reply to the cash being " essential" only for stuff like county lines etc. Cash is used for perfect legal stuff also

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:19

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:11

Well I know that. Was a reply to the cash being " essential" only for stuff like county lines etc. Cash is used for perfect legal stuff also

Oh I see, agreed. Apologies.

but we can move to a non-cash economy quite easily by running an internal accounting system at things like car boot sales / school fairs with tallying up and paying by card at the exit. I think that’s the way things will move in the future as cash is so heavily associated with so many crimes.

SabrinaThwaite · 29/01/2026 09:22

Womaninhouse17 · 29/01/2026 07:42

Putting money in an ISA, for example, is tax avoidance. It's not 'using the tax system in ways... it wasn't designed for' though.

No, an ISA is not considered tax avoidance - here’s what HMRC says:

Tax avoidance is bending the rules of the tax system to gain a tax advantage that Parliament never intended. It often involves contrived, artificial transactions that serve little or no purpose other than to produce a tax advantage.

Tax avoidance is not the same as tax planning. Tax planning involves using tax reliefs for the purpose for which they were intended. For example, claiming tax relief on capital investment, saving in a tax-exempt ISA or saving for retirement by making contributions to a pension scheme are all legitimate forms of tax planning. While such actions may reduce the total amount of tax paid, they are not tax avoidance, because they involve using tax reliefs in the way that Parliament intended when it passed the relevant legislation.

www.gov.uk/hmrc-internal-manuals/avoidance-handling-process/ahp1300

Kubricklayer · 29/01/2026 09:25

I have no issues paying cash in hand and have had close friends do so for all range of things for me.

Recently someone grazed my car whilst I was in the supermarket and fucked off without leaving a note. So do I put this through my insurance and suffer an increase on my insurance premium, or do I get my close friend to repair it cash in hand, as if the incident never occurred?

looselegs · 29/01/2026 09:27

Their business, not yours. What they do with their finances is up to them, it's not going to come back on you!
Many people work for cash for various reasons, although mainly for tax avoidance reasons. However if it saves me a few quid, then I'm not arguing. Got a guy at my house right now, fixing my car- he's knocked the price down by £210 because I'm paying cash. It's an expensive job in the first place, so I'm not questioning it....

decenteringmen · 29/01/2026 09:27

It is absolutely none of your business how people manage their money. People who are trying to climb out of an overdraft might want cash in hand, consider that before you assume someone is avoiding paying taxes etc which again, is none of your business.

It IS fair for you to pay them in a way that conveniences you. If they suddenly ask you to change that, you have a right to say no. That's it.

BeaLola · 29/01/2026 09:28

You're actually inconveniencing her. She has to bank that cash. Its considerably easier for businesses to trade cash-free, (which is why we are increasingly seeing businesses refusing cash). It's a myth that it's more expensive for businesses to take cards.

I don't think I am

She pays a transaction fee on each card transaction so to my kind ends up with less cash

She quite likes the cash I give her (btw we are talking £20-25) as she uses it for parking or for her daughters school lunches (primary school) or teenage babysitter

Monty34 · 29/01/2026 09:30

I am afraid it is the world we live in. Cash in hand.

The numbers of self employed people have apparently rocketed. Which will reduce tax receipts. Which impact on us all.

And self employed people will ( if they have good sense) ensure they factor in absences like holidays in quotes over the course of time.

It is a culture shift from a time when many were employees. And the tax office could rely on PAYE.

By refusing to pay cash you are being upstanding but limiting your options of people who will do work for you.

Hoppinggreen · 29/01/2026 09:38

Its your choice but its also none of your business how other people decide to take payment
I don't like paying cash as its not as convenient and I have to go to a cash machine to get it but thats the only reason
DS's driving instructor changed to cash only as they were getting charged for every transaction by their bank and its a pain to get cash for each one (plus DS keeps the £3 change each time ) but if it makes their lives easier then fine. If I don't like it I can go elswhere

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 29/01/2026 09:42

MarshaMarshaMarsha · 28/01/2026 21:38

And a “fuck you” to everyone legitimately paying their taxes too! 🙄

Including me as I am a taxpayer.

Far play to anyone who can pay less tax.

Kubricklayer · 29/01/2026 09:55

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 29/01/2026 09:42

Including me as I am a taxpayer.

Far play to anyone who can pay less tax.

Amen. The people who run the country dodge taxes and piss away our taxes on all the wrong things. Yet OP is living by this naiive moral code of never using anyone requesting cash in hand. I understand for large jobs of not leaving yourself vulernable, should something go wrong and there's potentially a lack of traceability. But for small jobs with someone who has a good rep, I wouldn't have an issue one bit.

Womaninhouse17 · 29/01/2026 09:56

@SabrinaThwaite Thanks for that! It's always good to get the facts and to be given a reliable source. I stand corrected (and a bit embarrassed that I didn't know this before!)

zingally · 29/01/2026 09:58

I'm a primary teacher, and I know a LOT of teachers, myself included, who offer private tuition, cash in hand. I don't know of any family who have objected to that. None of them are stupid, they all know we're doing it in the evenings as a little extra to help pay for things like activities for our own kids, holidays, etc.

It would be two-faced of me to object to anyone else doing the same thing.

Womaninhouse17 · 29/01/2026 09:58

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 29/01/2026 09:42

Including me as I am a taxpayer.

Far play to anyone who can pay less tax.

Why is it 'fair play' when they are doing something illegal that means that you have to pay more tax? Surely, that's entirely unfair.

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:59

decenteringmen · 29/01/2026 09:27

It is absolutely none of your business how people manage their money. People who are trying to climb out of an overdraft might want cash in hand, consider that before you assume someone is avoiding paying taxes etc which again, is none of your business.

It IS fair for you to pay them in a way that conveniences you. If they suddenly ask you to change that, you have a right to say no. That's it.

In what way does getting cash in hand help someone climb out of an overdraft?

brunettemic · 29/01/2026 10:07

Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 23:09

Have I touched a nerve? Are you one of the cash in hand tax evading types?

Edited

Haha, no…my skills are largely excel based and I highly doubt anybody would pay me cash for that. If you want some forecasting models then let me know. My point is, people charge a lot for services you can’t do specifically because you can’t do them, if you don’t want to pay their fees then do it yourself. . If you were paying attention you’ll see I responded to your question of why people charge so much for services.

Kubricklayer · 29/01/2026 10:08

Womaninhouse17 · 29/01/2026 09:58

Why is it 'fair play' when they are doing something illegal that means that you have to pay more tax? Surely, that's entirely unfair.

Not entirely true that someone paying less tax is doing it illegally and thus everyone else pays more tax.

For example, I used to pay my monthly pension contributions after tax and NI was deducted. Then it was pointed out I could pay pension contributions via salary sacrifice (i.e. tax and NI taken after my pension contributions come out).

The result is I pay less tax, I pay less NI, my company pays less NI. I have more take home pay. I am paying less tax but perfectly legal.

Morally though it's one of these loop holes created to benefit employers into paying less tax and to a lesser extent the employee.

Not all companies offer a salary sacrifice scheme. So is it fair that I pay less tax than those that don't have an option to use salary sacrifce? No it probably isn't fair. But it's legal and I'd be absolutely stupid to decline this option and have less take home pay each month.

Keep your moral high ground, because I'm doing what benefits me and my family first and foremost.

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