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AIBU to refuse to pay cash in hand?

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Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 20:29

This recently came up in conversation with a friend and she disagreed with me.

I generally avoid hiring anyone who asks to be paid cash in hand. I don’t see how cash is more convenient these days unless it’s to avoid tax, benefits rules, etc., and I don’t want to be involved. I also rarely carry cash and getting to a cash machine is inconvenient.

Last year I stopped using a regular gardener when he suddenly asked for cash only, despite there being no payment issues (I always transferred the money on the day he’d done the work). My friend thinks I’m being ridiculous and that it’s none of my concern how people run their business. AIBU?

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Jellycatspyjamas · 01/02/2026 10:22

Newusername0 · 28/01/2026 21:43

How are credit control and cash flow improved through cash receipts?

i run a small business in addition to being employed. If someone pays me cash I, and they, know I’ve been paid. Paying by bank transfer means I need to chase payment which is credit control - it takes time and therefore costs me money to keep track of who has paid and to follow up when they don’t. It also costs me money if they simply don’t pay - small amounts so no worth chasing through more formal means.

Cash flow because I can then use that cash to pay for services that I use as part of the business, eg I always pay my clinical supervisor in cash. I also don’t pay charges for paying in cash but do for using card transactions as well as needing to pay for the card machine itself.

It’s all accounted for and taxed accordingly, it’s just easier as a very small business. I’m already paying 40% tax on my business earnings so the 2/3% for banking services and the loss of money if people don’t pay starts to make the business unviable.

swingingbytheseat · 02/02/2026 18:58

@Jellycatspyjamas
you get instant notifications if you’re paid via bank transfer

PensionedCruiser · 03/02/2026 11:14

swingingbytheseat · 02/02/2026 18:58

@Jellycatspyjamas
you get instant notifications if you’re paid via bank transfer

I always send a copy of the bank's notification of payment. With my bank (Lloyds group) it actually formulates a generic message too. Makes life easy for me and the recipient cannot deny that the payment was made to their account. So easy to keep track of too.

decenteringmen · 04/02/2026 20:22

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:59

In what way does getting cash in hand help someone climb out of an overdraft?

It means their wages aren't going into an account that's nearing the bottom of the aforementioned overdraft, so the overdraft isn't eating it.

Awkwardisfunny · 18/07/2026 14:30

Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 20:40

Since the vote is so close, could someone explain why I’m being unreasonable? I genuinely want to understand people’s reasoning.

It's never unreasonable to pay how you prefer but making assumptions is unreasonable.

AgileMentor · 19/07/2026 08:15

My partner requests his wages in cash. Still pays tax NI and into his pension though.

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:51

I don’t understand why anyone wants cash. It’s totally inconvenient

so many places are cashless, it’s becoming hard to spend

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:56

@CandyColouredEggshells

the HOC subsidised restaurants is not exclusively for MPs. They are only a small part of the workforce

Also, most MPs are normal people, they don’t earn a huge wage. There are easier ways to make money than doing that job! They’re not all Boris Johnsons and Rishi Sunaks you know

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

Thechaseison71 · 20/07/2026 11:32

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:51

I don’t understand why anyone wants cash. It’s totally inconvenient

so many places are cashless, it’s becoming hard to spend

What places are cashless. None o know of in my town

Q2C4 · 28/07/2026 13:34

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

It’s very unlikely that you could and if you tried you might be accused of aiding and abetting tax evasion. The bank may have to close your account as banks cannot handle the proceeds of crime (ie the unpaid VAT remaining in your bank account).

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:41

Bemyclementine · 28/01/2026 21:00

I dont think its always as clear cut as you might think.

Person A - single parent, works part time as no support with DC. Lives somewhere with no breakfast/after school clubs. Huge credit card bill for legal fees trying to divorce abusive ex. Works a few hours a week "on the side" cash in hand, to survive. Second hand clothes, freezing house, ex pays little to nothing. Does no "childcare" Would i begrudge her few hours a week cash in hand? Absolutely not.

Person B - self employed, numerous cash jobs as a tax fiddle and to avoid child maintainence. Prolonging the divorce from person A, simply by refusing to engage. 5 vehicles (2 motorbikes) expensive hobby. Do i begrudge him? Yes.

This is actually a real life example

And important for us all to bear in mind.

This is a very good case where things are not clear-cut.

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:45

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

Not a chance.

MandemChickenShop · 28/07/2026 13:45

is not unreasonable to make decisions that only impact you based on flawed assumptions

Q2C4 · 28/07/2026 18:14

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:41

And important for us all to bear in mind.

This is a very good case where things are not clear-cut.

Imagine trying to operate a tax system which had to take a myriad personal circumstances into account when calculating the amount due. Our tax code is already one of the most complex in the world!

There should be legitimate help available to person A so they don’t have to commit a crime to survive. Potentially funded by greater sanctions for person B…

BooksnChocolate · 07/09/2026 22:12

On the gov.uk website it shows that £6.5bn is lost to benefits fraud per year and 5.5bn to tax fraud, but a whopping 59.2bn shortfall in the difference between tax expected and tax paid! This is largely undeclared earnings I assume...

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