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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 18:51

You think they’ve always done it but you haven’t noticed until now?

this is a little strange

2026new · 28/01/2026 18:52

Im confused. Does this actually make any difference to you ?

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 18:52

me too confused

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 18:52

They are taking the fucking piss.

Block access with planters. Much cheaper than a fence.

Also, strategically place your bins where she crosses your drive / park your car there so she cant cut across.

Your NDN is a fucking cunt of the highest order.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 18:53

I think your neighbour slightly drives over your drive in order to park fully on her own drive

Shinyandnew1 · 28/01/2026 18:53

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow

Adding a fence won't make it any narrower though, will it?!

If it pisses you off, that's what I'd do.

ThePoshUns · 28/01/2026 18:55

Does It inconvenience you? Or cause damage? Are they generally good neighbours? If no no and yes I’d leave it to be honest.

MindYourUsage · 28/01/2026 18:55

This really would not bother me. Their tyres must touch your land for a few nano seconds?

ETA maybe not nano seconds. Perhaps 2-3 normal seconds.

Thecomedyclub · 28/01/2026 18:56

Not sure why so many people think you’re being unreasonable! It’s your property and she should not be driving over it. There was a similar thread where the owner was annoyed as they’d just paid a fortune for tarmac and were worried that the constant use would damage it. You’ll find it in “similar threads”.

viques · 28/01/2026 18:56

I think I would be putting a concrete filled planter at the end of the green line. Her issues with the neighbour and her landlord are her issues. Not yours.

where and how does she park when you are parked on the drive?

MumOryLane · 28/01/2026 18:56

Do you mean they're parking on your drive or their wheels are going over the top of your land? If it's going over the top of your land, is it affecting your ability to park or is it an issue of principle?

Seeline · 28/01/2026 18:57

How can they drive across if there is a fence between?

But yes, put a planter on the corner, or your bin.

Beautifulsunflowers · 28/01/2026 18:57

It’s wear and tear to your driveway. They are not going to pay to maintain it.
id speak to them again to ask them to speak to the neighbours on the other side to see if they can move their car over a bit.
You could look into a fence if it won’t take up a lot of room. Or put large rocks down the boundary?

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 18:57

I seriously can't see the problem. I have a dropped kerb and drive but my neighbour doesn't have a dropped kerb so drives slightly across my drive to get onto hers (used to be grassed, now paved over). This has never, ever occurred to me as being a problem. Am I missing something?

9champions · 28/01/2026 18:59

2026new · 28/01/2026 18:52

Im confused. Does this actually make any difference to you ?

What do you mean, is it affecting me? It’s my drive that I paid a lot of money for I guess? Would you want random people using your drive every day? If (and I know that it’s a big if) they damaged it or something, how would I prove that? I seriously doubt they’d own up to it or pay for it.

OP posts:
Lovelynames123 · 28/01/2026 18:59

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 18:52

They are taking the fucking piss.

Block access with planters. Much cheaper than a fence.

Also, strategically place your bins where she crosses your drive / park your car there so she cant cut across.

Your NDN is a fucking cunt of the highest order.

Wow, this is so harsh, a cunt, really? I'd hate to see the virtiol if someone did something really serious to you!

OP, it's not ideal, the extra wear and tear may affect your drive in the long run. Personally, I think I'd speak to next door but one and ask them to pull forward, but realistically no one is entitled to park outside their house or use someone's drive....

JanuaryJasmine · 28/01/2026 19:00

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 18:52

They are taking the fucking piss.

Block access with planters. Much cheaper than a fence.

Also, strategically place your bins where she crosses your drive / park your car there so she cant cut across.

Your NDN is a fucking cunt of the highest order.

Blimey.

i think you'd do well to work out your anger issues, or you're going to give yourself a heart attack.

BobInABoat · 28/01/2026 19:00

Drives are not cheap and the more cars driving on it the more wear and tear the drive has. I paid for a new drive a couple of years ago and I would be pissed if someone was using my drive to access theirs.

I would honestly put in something temporary such as planters or rocks to stop her doing it. Plus get a door camera.

FeralWoman · 28/01/2026 19:00

They’re taking the piss. They need to speak to the other neighbour who is hanging over the driveway so they can park properly.

Big rocks on the boundary. They can piss off.

NoYourNameChanged · 28/01/2026 19:00

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 18:52

They are taking the fucking piss.

Block access with planters. Much cheaper than a fence.

Also, strategically place your bins where she crosses your drive / park your car there so she cant cut across.

Your NDN is a fucking cunt of the highest order.

Steady on 😂

Can you please, op, clarify why this actually is a problem? Or is it just the cheek that she’s using your drive as a bit of extra manoeuvring space? Of course that’ll cause extra wear on your drive, but I wanted to make sure I’m not missing something. Something along the boundary makes sense I think.

edited as I posted rather too quickly!

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 28/01/2026 19:01

is there a history between you? Because if not then I wouldn’t give a shit about this and in fact I’d say she’s welcome. I’m assuming there’s no danger, no risk of damage and no actual inconvenience. It feels a bit petty without something more to explain it.

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:02

Seeline · 28/01/2026 18:57

How can they drive across if there is a fence between?

But yes, put a planter on the corner, or your bin.

The fence is only halfway up, it doesn't extend all the way to the end of the drive.

OP posts:
viques · 28/01/2026 19:04

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 18:57

I seriously can't see the problem. I have a dropped kerb and drive but my neighbour doesn't have a dropped kerb so drives slightly across my drive to get onto hers (used to be grassed, now paved over). This has never, ever occurred to me as being a problem. Am I missing something?

If your neighbour doesn’t have a dropped kerb then what they have is a paved front garden, not a drive.

They should bite the bullet and apply and pay for a dropped kerb. If they sell they won’t be able to market it as a property with a drive so it would be an investment.

The8thOfThe7Dwarfs · 28/01/2026 19:05

Would a small slim planter or series of plant pots work as a barrier in the 'gap'?

Could be done for relatively low cost.

JanuaryJasmine · 28/01/2026 19:06

its just a car (not a tow truck or something), so if they are otherwise nice neighbours it wouldn't bother me. If they were shitty neighbours I'd put concrete planters or something in their way 💁🏻‍♀️

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