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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
9champions · 28/01/2026 21:07

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 28/01/2026 20:59

It would take them what? A whole afternoon to take down the fence that stops them parking comfortably on their own land? But they can’t be arsed

They rent and don’t want to pay. Their landlord said we can take it down, but we need to make good any damage / holes etc, but he won’t cover the cost.

OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:07

How long have you been neighbours ?

Aquarius91 · 28/01/2026 21:08

Wear and tear over a tiny corner of your drive for a literal second? I can’t imagine giving a shit. Honestly life’s too short OP, you’re being INCREDIBLY petty.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:08

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:07

How long have you been neighbours ?

I’ve lived here 4 years. They were already here when I moved in, not sure how long they’ve been here.

OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:09

If you’re honest, do you find yourself getting cross about lots of things @9champions ?

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:10

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:08

I’ve lived here 4 years. They were already here when I moved in, not sure how long they’ve been here.

So they likely have been doing this for 4 years
You only noticed very recently
proving it’s actually caused you no bother at all for years

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:13

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:09

If you’re honest, do you find yourself getting cross about lots of things @9champions ?

Oh my goodness, what??? The OP is annoyed that the neighbours are not sorting out their own problem and instead are using her new drive. Her reaction is totally normal.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:14

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:13

Oh my goodness, what??? The OP is annoyed that the neighbours are not sorting out their own problem and instead are using her new drive. Her reaction is totally normal.

Guessing you do!

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:10

So they likely have been doing this for 4 years
You only noticed very recently
proving it’s actually caused you no bother at all for years

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:18

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

So she’s been doing it for a year on the new drive and you only just noticed her doing it

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:19

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

So many posters don’t read the full thread nowadays.

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:19

Sorry I had not noted that, I would block their access and let them either sort it out with the other neighbour or they decide to pay for removing the fence, either way it isn't up to you to be their easy 'do nothing' solution at your cost

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:19

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:19

So many posters don’t read the full thread nowadays.

As I thought, you do

Happyher · 28/01/2026 21:19

I’d complain to the landlord about his tenants. Explain to him that she’s driving across your drive because her partner obstructs their own drive so she can’t access it. Tell him you will hold him responsible for any wear and tear on your drive

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:20

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:19

As I thought, you do

🤣🤣🤪

BudgetBuster · 28/01/2026 21:20

At first read I thought you were overreacting to be honest @9champions
Realistically the damage they will do will inevitably be far far into the future and you haven't noticed before.

But the more I dwell on it... I WFH and if I saw someone edging on my property everyday it'd actually irritate me so much. Again I'd probably just silently moan and get on with it. But the fact that you mentioned it and she clearly is acknowledging the issue by contacting her landlord but she's too tight to pay for removing the fence.... that's what would push me over the edge and I'd probably be really petty and do lots of little things to inconvenience her.

Tomorrow do the bins, another day park your own car there, another day put something awkward like a planter there. I'd leave every 2nd day empty and see if she drives across those days. I'd probably pop a bed of old nails down as a last resort... but maybe not 😂

Also, I think.she parked on the road while the driveway was being done because it was too awkward for her to park on her own driveway with going across yours... not because she was trying to leave room for the builders

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:21

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:20

🤣🤣🤪

Yup!!

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:21

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:21

Yup!!

🤣🤪🤣

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/01/2026 21:21

Put flowers along the boundary. It probably wouldn’t bother me if they were otherwise nice enough neighbours.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

How is a car driving a bit on a new drive going to ruin the new drive? Genuine question

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:22

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:18

So she’s been doing it for a year on the new drive and you only just noticed her doing it

That's not what I said. I have no clue how long she's been doing it for. It could be years or only a month. I have no idea. I don't sit by the window every day keeping tabs. The fact is, I know now and it bothers me. Not sure why we’re arguing over dates 🤷🏼‍♀️

OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:21

🤣🤪🤣

Seething I reckon!

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:23

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

Seething I reckon!

🤪🤣🤣

Soontobesingles · 28/01/2026 21:25

One car occasionally goes over your drive to get onto their own? Twice a day or so? I cannot see how you could get worked up over that. I have a drive and this would not bother me in the slightest. Thirty seconds a day of someone else’s tyres on my drive is not going to cause significant wear and tear unless they are driving a tank. I honestly think this is ridiculously petty and unneighbourly to even mention.

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:28

I would feel really un-neighbourly driving over someone's else's property to save myself some potential costs