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'Taxes are the price we pay for a civilised society'

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Bargepole45 · 26/01/2026 09:17

Having just paid an enormous tax bill, I frankly am fed up with hearing this. There are lots of civilised countries that have a far lower tax burden than the UK. It's just a form of blackmail designed to make contributors believe that there is no other way other than to pay sky high taxes to subsidise people's crap life choices.

Have too many kids and can't afford them? No problem, the state steps in. Have a terrible lifestyle and don't look after your health at all? No problem, the NHS will treat you. Spent all your money with wild abandon and have nothing left to pay for your care when you get old? Don't fret, the state will fund the same care home as someone that has saved all their life.

Don't people understand that these 'safety nets' just facilitate reckless behaviour? We can have a civilised society where people aren't cushioned from all of their bad decision making. I say this as someone from a background where I didn't have much money and I am so fed up with people pretending that poor people don't know that an apple is healthier than a chocolate bar or that it's a good idea to actually attend school. It's insulting and disempowering to keep making excuses for people that simply aren't incentivised to make different, better choices.

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Goldenbear · 26/01/2026 12:25

Tauranga · 26/01/2026 12:22

The majority of people in the UK agree with the poster. Labour is out in force on mumsnet ( and SNP), botting away here to make it seem the poster has odd views.
They are not, they are entirely pedestrian.

Folks with low incomes can see that taxes are being squandered. They can see the mismanagement of Starmer and Co. We are not stupid just because we earn minimum wage.

If we scare off all the big earners we lose. They pay the majority of the tax and without them, the UK dies. Not just losing taxable earnings, but also losing our talent, our entrepreneurs, our highly qualified people who are wanted everywhere in the world.

Where is all this talent heading to?

PinkCloudOfHappiness · 26/01/2026 12:26

Wow. As long as Jack’s alright..

You are a serious accident or redundancy away from needing that “safety net”. Yes, there are some people that take the piss, but does this mean everyone else should suffer?

it’s like saying that because some people phone 999 spuriously, we are going to scrap the entire system?

What IS wrong with this country is a lack of empathy and compassion.

smashinghope · 26/01/2026 12:26

Honestly ive thought about this alot and im a high rate tax payer but i do think when its not your burden then you feel like its reckless and most probably ive felt like that at times myself.

However when it came to for example my child needing immediate intervention the secondary school and cahms stepped in immediatly whilst i was still reeling from the shock of it all.

When my mother in law requied life saving surgery the NHS stepped up and saved her.

And i dont believe the majorty of people want to rely on the state as they become elderly, its just that due to the cost of living sometimes you cant do it all, its between your pension pot or your weekly shop, its between paying for your boiler/car to be repaired or your pension pot.

So equally people are in crisis just as much as the governement is in crisis.

I do however feel that the health crisis is due to mismanaged funds and lack of any type of good strong social care/mental health care and a mentality of "it can be someone elses/this departments probem"

I am probably one of the few thats really happy to pay tax and and belive me i pay alot but i do feel like its notthe peoples fault, its the governements mismanagement.

LondonLass61 · 26/01/2026 12:27

@Bargepole45 and @Weetabixw
You make incorrect presumptions and it is in fact, you that is wrong. It's not just about tax though is it - it's neoliberalism that started with Thatcher and Reagan. Post WW2, governments tried to create a better world, a properly funded NHS, social housing, apprenticeships, pensions etc. The Tories objected from the start - voting against the NHS. Since 1979, Thatcher and her ilk (where did all the austerity money go?) have sold everything off - other countries own our utilities and use the profits there, Norway used the North Sea oil to create a Sovereign fund for the benefit of their residents - our governments flogged them off. We are never going to get the Covid contract money back either. Wealth was supposed to 'trickle down' but instead it trickles to offshore tax havens or to an already wealthy royal family who are vague about the tax they pay (or not). Now, everything is about money, exacerbated by the main stream media and social media that are all owned by billionaires who point at immigrants, the poor, pensioners, disabled in order to deflect blame from themselves. It is now time too to tax wealth not just earnings.

Peridoteage · 26/01/2026 12:27

the system was devised with the idea that there would always be enough people in the working population to easily fund the pensions of a relatively small number of retired people that would die relatively quickly and inexpensively.

In a nutshell. As opposed to the likes of my parents. Twenty years into state backed DB pension schemes with generous inflation uplifts. Starting to consume a bit more healthcare now, but both likely to live another 10-15 years drawing huge pensions.

For much of their careers they made tiny contributions and their employers often took "contribution holidays" thinking the investments would grow more than expected.

OnARainyDay2012 · 26/01/2026 12:27

It's great that you've never had to rely on these safety nets. You're very lucky. Anyone can have a life changing illness, or a marriage breakdown. You clearly don't understand how it feels to live in grinding poverty and have no way out. Visit any US city and see how many homeless people there are. That's what happens when you take away that safety net.

FancyEagle · 26/01/2026 12:28

LVhandbagsatdawn · 26/01/2026 12:03

Then quit your job and live off benefits, if it's such a good deal.

Stop whining and crack on.

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That's such a straw man argument.

The point is, it's extremely difficult to go from self-funding and never claiming benefits. Because the system will say you have savings to use up, and you used to work without claiming anything so why are you now?

And it is hard from that.

But if you've always claimed in one way or another it really isn't hard at all. And it's how you've always lived- off the state in one way or another.

You're already in the system.

You're already established as a benefits claimant from a benefit claimants family.

Monty34 · 26/01/2026 12:29

OnARainyDay2012 · 26/01/2026 12:27

It's great that you've never had to rely on these safety nets. You're very lucky. Anyone can have a life changing illness, or a marriage breakdown. You clearly don't understand how it feels to live in grinding poverty and have no way out. Visit any US city and see how many homeless people there are. That's what happens when you take away that safety net.

Apparently the majority of those bankrupt in the US is due to the inability to pay crippling medical bills.

Playingtowin · 26/01/2026 12:29

Weetabixw · 26/01/2026 12:20

Did you save during your working lives in order to retire?

I think the issue is that long retirement wasn’t a thing while many people who are now retired were working. They didn’t realise how much they would be expected to save but thought the state pension would meet all of their needs. Future generations realise they’ll have to fund virtually all of their retirement themselves and so are putting much more by.

Does this apply to younger generations who claim a myriad of benefits? Why haven't they saved for their rainy day?

bathsmat · 26/01/2026 12:30

Playingtowin · 26/01/2026 12:29

Does this apply to younger generations who claim a myriad of benefits? Why haven't they saved for their rainy day?

A lot of that will be due to housing costs though

Weetabixw · 26/01/2026 12:31

Playingtowin · 26/01/2026 12:29

Does this apply to younger generations who claim a myriad of benefits? Why haven't they saved for their rainy day?

They’re going to retire in grinding poverty.

Monty34 · 26/01/2026 12:32

The removal of plenty of council houses was a disaster. There will always be people who are unable to pay a mortgage or high private rental fees.
But still housing developers get planning permission for four bed executive houses and then say building council houses is not viable. Those in charge ( supposedly) should sort this out. It will help people enormously. And in the long term save a fortune in payments to private landlords.

bathsmat · 26/01/2026 12:32

Weetabixw · 26/01/2026 12:31

They’re going to retire in grinding poverty.

Exactly, less likely to have social housing or mortgage paid off & they will be waiting some years for that state pension.

Mischance · 26/01/2026 12:33

Peridoteage · 26/01/2026 11:53

But surely the majority of those elderly people have paid their taxes and national insurance over their working lives, so why shouldn’t they receive what they were promised?

Unfortunately what they paid in wasn't enough for what they were promised. Their contributions were set at a time when most people did not live as long, more people smoked and died prematurely of heart disease etc. They have had much longer retirements than were budgeted for, and have required more healthcare than was ever expected.

This discrepancy is of course a problem, but lowering taxes will not solve it.

I have retired and draw my pension. There is no way I could live on this. I have a small additional occupational pension plus a small NHS widow's pension plus I downsized and released some capital from my home.

I could not survive otherwise - it would be quite impossible.

So, whilst the discrepancy between expected state pension costs and the reality of longer lives is a problem, I would not like anyone to think that living on a state pension is easy. It is not - hence the additional top-up benefits that many need to keep warm and fed.

There are of course pensioners who are swanning about going on cruises for half the year but do not forget that their state pension is taxed.

PleaseAccepyMyUserNames · 26/01/2026 12:33

I couldn't resist, I asked co-pilot!
So interestingly, the UK has a liberal welfare model.
Benefits being we have low taxation
Trade off being - we actually have a very thin safety net, high amount of means testing, and higher social inequality

So maybe... We are all right... Maybe..the least able are being taxed proportionately too much, the most able too little, and we all focus on poor families getting benefits rather than, well, I don't need to say do I, surely it's obvious at this stage!!

Livpool · 26/01/2026 12:37

This is a depressing thread - some PPs (and probably OP) would prefer a return to workhouses.

My Nan once told me that she witnessed her grandfather on the parish council deciding which people were ‘worthy’ of getting money. She said it was heartbreaking watching people having to beg for enough money to feed their children. It turned her right off the type of politics some people would revel in.

Weetabixw · 26/01/2026 12:38

PleaseAccepyMyUserNames · 26/01/2026 12:33

I couldn't resist, I asked co-pilot!
So interestingly, the UK has a liberal welfare model.
Benefits being we have low taxation
Trade off being - we actually have a very thin safety net, high amount of means testing, and higher social inequality

So maybe... We are all right... Maybe..the least able are being taxed proportionately too much, the most able too little, and we all focus on poor families getting benefits rather than, well, I don't need to say do I, surely it's obvious at this stage!!

it’s not the level of taxation that is the issue in the UK, it’s how it’s spread between the earners. The tax on higher earners is disproportionately high. The high on lower earners is disproportionately low.

Crushed23 · 26/01/2026 12:39

Goldenbear · 26/01/2026 12:25

Where is all this talent heading to?

From my London graduate intake alone: Singapore, Australia, Hong Kong, US, Canada, Dubai, Qatar.

Bargepole45 · 26/01/2026 12:39

Goldenbear · 26/01/2026 12:24

So if you acknowledge that wages are higher and the outcome is a higher standard of living, why are you blaming your high tax bill on the 'feckless' scroungers on benefits, when we know that in the UK the tax payer is also subsidising big businesses with these welfare benefits?

GDP per capita is higher. This is the relevant point. That makes a country richer and provides a higher standard of living. Not higher wages in themselves which can simply drive inflation.

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LieInsAreExtinct · 26/01/2026 12:39

Araminta1003 · 26/01/2026 11:12

I do not think some of you understand what it is like to pay the 60%.

I paid the 60% per cent for 24/25. But now they want us to pay on account for 25/26 so we are trapped into having to work that much next year too, because we won’t get an adjustment until past January 2027. So we are forward paying now and again in July.

The trapped ones are us.
Other jurisdictions do not do this.
There really is no point working if you get to keep less for yourself than they take off you.

If you don't expect to be earning that much in the next tax year then you say so and ask for payments on account to be reduced...I stopped work to deal with some family estates but I have some income from property so I have just said that's my only income for this tax year and reduced payment on account by about 80%.

anterenea · 26/01/2026 12:40

Bargepole45 · 26/01/2026 10:05

This is what people are increasingly doing. They are reducing hours, retiring early and frankly just not trying as hard. Why would people battle on through difficult work conditions and often health challenges to see such large chunks of money go to the taxman? Look at our productivity figures and economic inactivity data to see that we are incentivising the wrong behaviours.

Alternatively emigrating to lower tax countries is an increasingly popular option. Statistics show this too.

Be very careful of shooting the golden goose. People with money and earning potential have options other than to stay working in the UK and be taxed to the hilt.

Well off they go then to Dubaï (other hellholes are available)

Weetabixw · 26/01/2026 12:41

Crushed23 · 26/01/2026 12:39

From my London graduate intake alone: Singapore, Australia, Hong Kong, US, Canada, Dubai, Qatar.

Medics I know are all off to Australia and New Zealand, but that’s an issue with getting UK training posts too.

Datgal · 26/01/2026 12:41

LondonLass61 · 26/01/2026 12:27

@Bargepole45 and @Weetabixw
You make incorrect presumptions and it is in fact, you that is wrong. It's not just about tax though is it - it's neoliberalism that started with Thatcher and Reagan. Post WW2, governments tried to create a better world, a properly funded NHS, social housing, apprenticeships, pensions etc. The Tories objected from the start - voting against the NHS. Since 1979, Thatcher and her ilk (where did all the austerity money go?) have sold everything off - other countries own our utilities and use the profits there, Norway used the North Sea oil to create a Sovereign fund for the benefit of their residents - our governments flogged them off. We are never going to get the Covid contract money back either. Wealth was supposed to 'trickle down' but instead it trickles to offshore tax havens or to an already wealthy royal family who are vague about the tax they pay (or not). Now, everything is about money, exacerbated by the main stream media and social media that are all owned by billionaires who point at immigrants, the poor, pensioners, disabled in order to deflect blame from themselves. It is now time too to tax wealth not just earnings.

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This is the most factual and sensible answer on this post. People should know exactly what has happened to this country before bleating on about a minority who abuse the system.
It is the rich getting richer. The poor get poorer. Nobody is angry about the super rich creaming off the top?! Misplaced anger fuelled by the right wing press and politicians.
Educate yourselves please.

FancyEagle · 26/01/2026 12:42

plsdontlookatme · 26/01/2026 12:17

But if someone cannot complete a task due to a disability, they cannot complete it. It isn't helpful to try and categorise disabilities into "real and worthy" mobility impairments vs "need to buck up their ideas" mental illnesses etc. A lot of rhetoric relies on the fact that the public understanding of mental illness is based largely on anxiety or depression (which in themselves can be incapacitating enough). A lot of people with psychotic disorders, severe OCD, severe eating disorders etc cannot safely or reliably function, and that is not some kind of pseudo-impairment they can overcome with a mindset shift, nor with six sessions of NHS CBT.

They say they can't.

That's all that's required.

There's no actual assessment. And couldn't be because it isn't actually based on physical functioning that can be assessed, it's based on perception and feelings.

There are questions which say 'is this the help you need even if you are not getting the help' which is odd when when talking about literal function.

Do you think it's a coincidence that the most common disorders 39% of PIP claims are psychiatric disorders where there is literally no way to prove the disorder, nor the impact that it has?

Do you not think that is odd for a disability benefit which is based on functional impairment?

Araminta1003 · 26/01/2026 12:43

People do not go to Dubai for good. They go for a few years to save enough to then be able to withstand a 60 per cent tax rate and buy a house or save into a pension!

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