AIBU to think that most men are.......a pain the butt

[Cottoncandy1983]

I've had an online male friend ( We've never met in person) on and off for over 20 years. At the beginning we were really close, flirting etc but we lost contact when I started a new relationship and have got back in contact now and then.

I sent him a merry Christmas email and he replied a few weeks ago and we've been chatting on WhatsApp. We get on great and I like his friendship.

But what I can't stand is the pressure to send him pics. If it's not of my face( which he knows what I look like), it's a pic when I get out of the shower in just my panties.....I mean really......wtf?????

We can have a perfectly normal conversation and then the sex talk creeps in.....do you have a toy......do you moan when you orgasm ....all that crap and then it really puts me off talking with him.

I've told him I'm off men in that way as I was in a controlling and abusive relationship but he just takes that with a pinch of salt.

AIBU to think it's a right prat?????

Why on earth have you not blocked and deleted him?
Wtf?

20 years is a long time to have an online friend you've never met.

I have now as it gets too uncomfortable but these questions and pressure has been in the last few days

Aye, right, lots of showers and ‘panties’ is it?

You are also sustaining this odd ‘friendship’. I’m sorry that you were in an abusive relationship. Perhaps it has skewed your view of what normal is.

What do you get out of this online friendship? Someone to talk to?

No man would get the chance to disrespect me more than once.

His arse would have been blocked immediately.

I don’t understand women who allow these messages to continue instead of simply blocking.

But mentioning that always leads to accusations of victim blaming.

To be clear (for those at the back) he is 100% to blame but still I don’t understand why you didn’t block after the first dodgy message.

This person is not your friend FGS he’s just some saddo random perv.

Why are you sending him pics? He could be uploading them god knows where. He could be waiting to use them to blackmail you.

Please tell me this is a troll post and nobody’s really this naive.

And no-one under the age of 80 uses the word ‘panties’ 🤮🤮🤮

I don't send him pics, that's the whole point. I'm not that stupid

Why are you still talking to him and why do you call your underwear panties??

Just stop messaging him!!

I don't, I was quoting what he says.

He’s not a friend. You don’t talk like that to your friends. He’s using - or hoping to use - your messages as wank fodder. Block the sad perv.

Not a friend. A predator.

A predator that only has the opportunity to say these things to you because he occasionally pretends to engage about other things to keep you hanging on.

He literally doesn't give a shit about you and does it because he only engages with vulnerable women who tolerate it because they haven't learnt better yet.

No man would talk to me like that because I don't let men like that in my orbit. If it did happen, it would only happen once and it would be a blocking offence, not a passive play-telling off or ignoring it or steering the conversation elsewhere.

You're gross, you're blocked. Fuck off. My life is immediately better.

Any man I've ever never in your case met who asked for photos in my underwear would have been blocked the first time. YABU to have continually entertained him for over twenty years.

He doesn’t respect you or see you as a friend.

He's not your friend. You have no idea who this person is. Cop yourself on.