When was the last time you were truly happy?

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In the womb

I’ve had fleeting feelings of happiness and enjoyment when the situation induces such but on a deeper level? Never, genuinely. I was born with an unfillable void of existential despair. I remember feeling things I’d now describe as depression even as a toddler.

29 Dec 2024. DH died unexpectedly the next day. Not sure I’ll ever be properly happy again.

I was often fairly happy. We had a nice life and I was grateful for it. Last time I was really joyously happy was the morning of 27 October last year. The day of my oldest daughter’s graduation as a primary school teacher. She died, totally unexpectedly, 2 days later. I’ll never feel happy again.

Not for a long while 😔

I'm truly happy most days.

My daughter got married in 2015 and we had boat rides on the lake in the evening.
I was on the last one of the day with the bride and groom as the sun set.
It had been the perfect day and everything in my life was just as I wished it to be.
I suddenly had a v strong feeling that this was the pinnacle of my life and that it would never be as good again.
It was a strong instinctive thought and by goodness it was so true.
Shortly after a couple of people I loved v much died and there was a series of events that decimated the life I had built up over many years.
I am still rebuilding and try to be positive and enjoy the good stuff but it is hard work now and I dont think I will ever be truly happy or carefree ever again .
As others have said I aim for contentment now.

Good Q. Likely when my family (the older generation) were still living. Lost them all fairly young and so my role now to be there for everyone else. Something amazing when had some folk there for me too.

I'm happy most of the time but I truly feel zen like on holiday when I don't have to follow a routine and can please myself.

26th October 1997,shopping with my husband,he died the next day,suddenly.

I’ve been miserable for the last few years. Really really really miserable. But today was nice and so was yesterday. And I’m a little bit happier right now

I'm neither happy nor unhappy. I don't really think about it.

I had dreadful depression as a toddler. That void is my earliest memory.

I'm always happy. Maybe because I'm not a worrier, I've always had a happy-go-lucky nature, and I seek out the things that bring me pleasure. E.g. I like a good laugh so I mostly watch comedies, I love to sing, so I have singalong music around me a lot of the time, I do the things I enjoy, I spend time with people who make me happy, I do a lot of hobbies that give me pleasure. I guess I often feel on a natural high from all of this.

Of course negative things happen to me - I have a possible life-changing condition that's under investigation at the moment which they are fast-tracking as it could be urgent, but that doesn't stop me being happy right now. If the diagnosis happens then I hope I'll find the most positive way to deal with it. There's a bright side to everything, if you look for it.

Exactly the same for me

Today. Im normally quite a content person, I would be glass half full. Earlier today my DD2 who has lived/worked away for a few years rang to say that she is being promoted and the promotion involves moving back home. We have all missed her, we're very proud of her but nothing feels as good as hugging her. Later DD1 was making a cup of tea and she started singing to our elderly dog who is going deaf. DD3 was passing and joined in prompting DD4 and boyfriend to join. The sheer joy and happiness listening to them, not a note between them, singing to the dog who was lying there loving it. I write down my three blessings before I go asleep at night. I think this helps me look for the good in life

1986, I was sitting on a chair in the house. Had finished cleaning, the sun was shining, I was having a cup of tea, and suddenly my brain said, I am really happy. I remember the feeling but I’ve not had it since.

Good things have happened in my life over the years, but I’ve never had that particular feeling again.

On May 1st 2023. Reverend & the Makers did a gig in the tiny (and I mean tiny!) micro-pub in my little town. The 3 of us had the best time, The Rev did a little acoustic set in the beer garden after the gig and I remember being so happy. It all went entirely Pete Tong the week after and I have never been truly happy since.

Honestly? 2009. I'd moved to a lovely flat with my boyfriend. New city, new job, lots of friends, young, no CoL issues, no real responsibilities and everyone I loved was alive. What a year.

I've had joy since obviously, but that was sustained happiness and optimism for the future. I can't get that back.

Um, yesterday, spending time with family, and then again last night watching Pottery Throw Down and comfy on the sofa.

I would say i'm low- level content with my life. DH is great, DS is getting on well and my job, whilst extremely frustrating at time, I'm well regarded and have colleagues i can have a laugh with.

I got a glow of warm happiness yesterday, watching DS read in a school church service. He had a confiedence i could only have dreamed of at that age, or even now!

Probably about 18 years ago.

Back then I felt my marriage was solid and happy. I then realised that I wasn’t his priority which made me put walls up to save myself the pain of feeling rejected but ultimately decided to stay in the marriage.

So whilst we generally rub along pretty well and have a nice life, I don’t feel truly content and my head is often in turmoil. Looking back maybe we’d have been better off splitting up there and then but I thought I could cope with things so have carried on muddling through.

On holiday with a group of friends in September. I really came down to earth with a bump when I got home.

I’m happy and contented the first half of my cycle, then flat and cynical the second half!!

21st December 2007. I went for a cold woodland walk with long term bf, I knew a proposal was imminent and sure enough it happened the next day. I remember walking and looking at the sky and feeling a happiness I've never felt before or since. I felt so alive and full of possibility.

BF turned into abusive husband, then into abusive ex husband, who has terrorised me and our DC since. Life has never been kind, or happy, before or after that moment I was walking in the woods.

Pretty depressing when I think I got married and had children since that moment and never felt properly happy. I would never say it to DC though