Being intimate while kids are downstairs

[LuckyAmberShark]

Hi everyone!

DH came upstairs today while I was getting dressed and tried to initiate sex while our two boys were downstairs. Both are kids are neurodiverse, our 8yo has complex needs (attends a specialist school etc) and our 4yo
is on the pathway for autism/adhd/hyperactivity.

DH said they were happy and settled on their tablets and that we had some time. And that it was exciting with the threat of being caught. I felt uncomfortable with this, and told him I couldn’t relax and enjoy it so I declined. DH has been off with me all day since and is sulking and grunting when I talk to him.

AIBU? Or prudish? It just doesn’t feel right to me. If they were in bed asleep then great! But they could have hurt themselves? Or escaped out the front door?

You felt uncomfortable and declined.
Enough said IMO
Let him sulk. His needs do not supersede your comfort

My husband often seems to think the kids being awake and downstairs, whilst I am trying to get ready, is a good time. I have told him being able to hear the two children, that came out of my vagina, playing downstairs, does not make me feel in the mood and he gives me the ick when he suggests it at these times.
He has never said anything referring to getting caught - that is really weird and I think he needs a pretty serious conversation about how that is wrong and also disgusting.
He also doesn't silk about it.

Every day on here I read about another one of these awful men. They walk among us!

That’s so weird of him to say that.

I'm with you. How could you possibly get into the mood in that situation?

I'd be fine with a quickie if the kids were happily occupied. However being excited that your children might walk in is creepy af. Sulking afterwards makes me as dry as the Sahara.

I don’t see an issue if the kids are occupied but him saying about them walking in is just weird

Why are these posts allowed?

Have none of you noticed that the fucking 3 random capitalised word username generator is the OP, who never returns because it’s AI trying to “learn” from your responses?!

Fucking sick of it. Stop replying to AI generated questions ffs 🤦🏽‍♀️

That may be the case. This “man” is an AI generated imaginary figure though

Absolutely disgusting.

The thrill of being caught having sex by your own kids is actually repulsive. 🤢

Obviously they can’t 🤢unfortunately what is not the norm for most of us,is the norm for others 🙄

Please, please, please be a troll.

I don’t want to think that this is true. 😫

If it is, your husband is a cunt, and i would lose all respect for him.

Now you’ve said this I’ve noticed SO many posts with the 3 word username and the spacing in the post and responses!!!? Creepy!

And that it was exciting with the threat of being caught.

This, and the sulking and grunting because you weren't comfortable with the likelihood of being walked in on by having sex by your young children is a massive no no.

Ooft. Sulking over sex is such a turn off. You can say no for any reason ffs. He needs to grow up.

AI has to learn from somewhere and apparently it’s fine that they use MN to do it

Ugh that is absolutely grim

Getting caught...by children? So effectively the children are part of his sexual fantasy? That's really not right at all.

And that it was exciting with the threat of being caught. - I would be very worried indeed about this. Especially when applied to one's own children that is very bizarre indeed.

The threat of being caught...by vulnerable children.

Yuck. That's disgusting.

Caught by children? Grim. Sulking also a turn off.

I’m sorry ? “The thrill of being caught” … by your young children ?

Thats vile .

He finds it a turn in that the kids might walk in any moment? That’s disgusting. Also sulking/grunting is very childish. I’d ignore him.

And, OP, you’re BU for using the word ‘intimate’.
It’s so ridiculously coy. 🤢