To ask if you would report a friend…

[Catsfredwilma]

….who regularly drives whilst under the influence of drink and drugs.
Not asking for all the reasons why reporting is the right thing to do. (Crime stoppers, anonymously).
Asking genuinely, would you honestly actually do it??
YABU….no, I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t get my friend in trouble.
YANBU….yes, absolutely, I would report.

Yep I would report, after seeing the heartache of a colleague whose daughter was killed by a drug driver I couldn’t live with the guilt if they killed someone

Yes I would - out of fear for them and fear for other road users. My aunt and uncle died when a drunk driver knocked their car off the road and down the side of the mountain. Maybe that colours my view. Double funerals when people die well before their time are honestly devastating.

Why should a shitty drug/drunk driver expect anything less than being reported?

100%, without a doubt. Would report my own mother. It's a horrendous crime and not trivial at all.

Yes, I would report them, but not anonymously. I would make sure they knew exactly who reported them and what a scumbag I thought they were.

Imagine yourself standing as at a witness at a trial or inquest if your friend killed someone. I couldn't stand there and say yes I knew but I did nothing.

How could reporting them do any good unless you had evidence? Don't think the police will get a conviction without a breathalyser? They might get them for possession of drugs I suppose.

I would yes. If in doubt, sadly, I suggest you speak to anyone who has lost a loved one in an accident where driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol was the cause.

Yes, I have and I would again.

Absolutely inexcusable to do it - or to turn a blind eye to it.

Because the police can set up road checks in the vicinity.

I'd report a family member if they didn't listen to me.

I have been the police officer sitting up waiting for them to leave the pub or work or other location. It's a very satisfying piece of work. Prevention of a fatal incident hopefully.

I'm intrigued how this would work? Say friend drove under the influence once a month, it's very likely the police would go to chat to them on one of the other 30 days, so how would this be proven?

Yep and I really wouldn't be their friend. Only utter cunts drive drunk and on gack.

100%.

A colleague of mine reported someone she knew - an acquaintance - to the police, as she drove off to take 3 children somewhere 12 miles away, after at least 4 glasses of wine. The police stopped her en route and she was 2X over the limit. She was fined £5000, and banned from driving for 3 years. Lost her job too, as it depended on driving. Ended up splitting up her and her partner, and she moved back with her mum.

Live derailed and upended. Because she chose to drink and drive.

Every single inch of her blamed the woman who reported her. Was 100% her own fault.

So yes report this woman. See if you can report her anonymously though. And make sure you report her when she goes to drive when she has had a drink of alcohol. Not much use if she hasn't!

They wouldn’t be a friend I’d keep. If you report the police are only going to take notice at the point they are actually caught in the act. Ideally you’d be able to call 999 at the point they get in and drive away under the influence.

I’m not 100% sure but I don’t think I would.

I can’t imagine phoning the police while theyre getting in the car and it’s not like you can report after the event.

it’s also hard to imagine why I’d be with them unless I was also drunk or high which would impact the thought process.

The woman who reported her might have saved her kids lives that night.

I dunno to be honest. I think it would depend on how regularly. I take this seriously but if it were a friend who admitted to doing it a while back and feeling bad about it then id probably not report them.
But if it were someone I knew to have some kind of alcohol issue and I knew for a fact they were regularly drunk driving then yeah.. id feel I had to

I went for a night out with a friend last year and was utterly shocked that she drove home. She wasn't just tipsy, she was drunk.

We had gone with a number of other couples. I'd stayed sober so I could drive me and DP home. I offered her a lift, she declined as it would mean having to go back for her car the day after. I even offered to pick her up again tomorrow so she could get it. She refused.

I seriously, seriously, regret not reporting her. It shocked me so badly. I don't want her to die, I don't want any innocent people to die because of her choices. It is just so utterly selfish.

She is a headteacher at a very large high school.

In a heartbeat- would you OP?

Absolutely definitely I would. Can you imagine how you would feel if they killed someone while driving under the influence and you'd done nothing?

Reported a neighbour who is an alcoholic on paper regularly drives drunk and nothing happens

Absolutely. I have done, twice.
When I mentioned it to colleagues at work I was surprised at how many people said they wouldn’t.
Although they agreed it was the right thing to do, there were mutterings of “…..would just stay out of it” and “….but not to a friend”.
It surprised me (although several of them were a bit younger so maybe not considering the impact as much), as I didn’t really find it a dilemma personally.
At the time the police advised to report through Crime stoppers, as a regular drink driver. That way they could pull her over, or observe the venue and vehicle where she regularly drinks etc and hopefully catch her at it.

Yes indeed. I remember saying that/thinking that at the time. One of the kids was hers, the other 2 were 2 of her daughter's friends. (From different families.) So she would have devastated multiple families. If she had crashed and killed them all.

The other parents were so angry when they found out she was drink driving that they never spoke to the drink driving woman again, and never let their daughters near her. So she lost 2 friends too. Sadly, the little girl lost the friends as well, as the mums wouldn't let them near her house IYSWIM.