To ask if you would report a friend…

[Catsfredwilma]

….who regularly drives whilst under the influence of drink and drugs.
Not asking for all the reasons why reporting is the right thing to do. (Crime stoppers, anonymously).
Asking genuinely, would you honestly actually do it??
YABU….no, I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t get my friend in trouble.
YANBU….yes, absolutely, I would report.

Yes indeed. I remember saying that/thinking that at the time. One of the kids was hers, the other 2 were 2 of her daughter's friends. (From different families.) So she would have devastated multiple families. If she had crashed and killed them all.

The other parents were so angry when they found out she was drink driving that they never spoke to the drink driving woman again, and never let their daughters near her. So she lost 2 friends too. Sadly, the little girl lost the friends as well, as the mums wouldn't let them near her house IYSWIM.

Were they having you on maybe? Why would they tell you to report through crime stoppers, it’s just a charity you anonymously report crimes to.

Yes, I would.

Imagine I didn’t and the person ploughed into someone and killed them? Or crashed and killed themselves?

And I could’ve prevented it but did nothing.

There is no one in this world that I wouldn't report for drink driving. I wouldn't feel conflicted at all, they are just as likely to kill themselves as someone else so I'd be doing them a favour (even if they didn't see it like that).

Yes and have done.

There is no excuse either than selfish stupidity to drive under the influence.

Yes. I would.

That is fucking shocking and I think you should still report her now tbh. It IS worth reporting.

Was coming on to say exactly this.

Yes I would and I would tell her that I was going to.Totally unacceptable.

I have regularly reported a family member who drives after smoking weed. I mean, pretty much every time he drives he is high, because he smokes weed every day, all day.

He’s never been stopped, never been tested. Still driving high & putting lives at risk.

So it’s all very well saying ‘yes I’d report’ - but honestly, I don’t think anyone acts on the reports. I will keep on reporting him, because I want him off the road, but I don’t think it achieves anything at all.

I wanted to do this when I suspected a family member was drink driving (he'd had a relapse of his mental illness which massively exacerbated the drinking and reckless behaviour) I actually came on here and asked for advice on what to do and some posters told me that I don't know he's drink driving and I have no proof! So there you go. He did end up getting stopped by police and got a driving ban for a few years.

Even just for their sake, I would.

A colleague of mine had a friend who drove drunk and killed two people. He went to jail for a long time.

If he’d been reported and pulled over those two people would still be alive. And he would have had either disqualification and a large fine or a short custodial sentence

Instead 3 families were devastated, those of the two people who died as well as the family of the drunk driver.

Denim Poet in your circumstances, I would have taken her keys away and physically barred her from her car before I’d have let her drive.

100% yes

If they had kids definitely.

Op i just had full information that my friend was driving drunk and I didn’t report her, I can’t bring myself too but I did offer to collect, I feel like it’s just not my place but reading these reply’s I’m going to next time.

Well done. You have probably saved some lives, possibly including the person you reported.
I would do the same.

I someone I knew regularly drove under the influence of drink and drugs they would no longer be a friend. YANBU.

I would report too and stop my child going to her house. However I would happily collect the little child for play dates etc as not her fault.

Yes, but only after telling them (more than once, probably — which is not something I would be proud of) that I was about to do exactly that.

I would never report a friend to the police for anything that wouldn’t end the friendship without having it out with them first. I could carry on being friends with someone who drove after drinking and/or taking drugs (take no pride in this, just how I know it to be) but I couldn’t with someone who had violently attacked another person, grossly bamboozled people, and many other things.

As you asked, this is not what I think someone should do; it’s what I would in fact do.

Without hesitation. I would never forgive myself if I didn't and they killed someone.

Yes I would. I suddenly felt dizzy when I was driving. Pulled over & had to be rescued by the motorway police. It was the onset of vertigo. Never have I felt more frightened, out of control and dangerous.
Knowing how it feels to be "drunk" beind the wheel it is beyond me & horrifies me how people dare to drive under the influence of drink or drugs.

Yes, I’d report in a heartbeat. A close friend of mine lost her 17 year old son to a drink driver. After seeing that utter devastation there is NO excuse for drink driving.

Absolutely YES 💯

How did you come to be doing that? I mean given that so many people do drink and drive how was it decided to allocate resources to this particular person?