6 week post stillbirth

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I recently experienced a stillbirth. I have my 6 week checkup coming up and im getting very nervous to go. Does anyone know if its ok to skip it? I also just got what i think is my first period. It was very light and lasted for 4 days. Did anyone else experience such a thing. Did you ovulate right away or did you have a few cycles?

A big thanks to everyone and their kind words. I find myself comfort eating. And probably gaining lots of weight but i cant care right now

Also the bleeding starts and stops.

I assume every woman is different, i know a girl who had 4 or 5 miscarriages before she started having children.

i had a lighter period for 4 days and than it stops for a few days and than im spotting some more, anyone knows what that can be?

I had this. It eventually stopped.

Thank you. its very difficult to deal with. I have other kids and didnt have this issue after their births. i only had it with a previous miscarriage. this still birth was a normal delivery thats why i dont know whats going on

Hi OP just checking in on you...how are you? Bleeding on/off is normal, but will settle after a normal cycle. I can relate to the comfort food, just do what helps, it's not easy, grief took it's toll on me.

I am so sorry. My friend lost her baby girl in similar circumstances. And after 2 regular pregnancies and births. Of course you can’t replace a child but she did go on to have a healthy baby. But it was awful for us to see her in so much pain, and doubly awful for her. Again, I am so sorry. Lots of love to you and your partner.

I am so sorry for your loss OP. Make sure you take care of yourself. Slightly different but I had a neonatal loss nearly three years ago and I felt I coped better in the early days than when it really hit me some months later, once I had gone back to work. Whatever you feel is natural.

Thank you so much for checking in on me. Some days are better than others. I would love to learn coping skills with comfort eating because gianing weight isnt helping me

My first child was stillborn 11 years ago. I didnt go to the 6 week check up, I couldn't face it but I got my mum to call them before the appointment to make sure they had it documented that the baby was dead. They hadn't and the GP called me back and went through a few things but I didnt need to go in.

We had another baby born 13.5 months after our daughter died so I obviously must have ovulated pretty quickly.

I would recommend finding someone that specialises in stillbirth counselling as that pregnancy was really hard and I needed a lot of reassurance

you could have retained placenta or anything which could make you very ill so it’s important you go to your appointment. You need to put yourself first now which I know is very hard but they also need to know how you are doing physically and mentally - I dreaded this appointment but they were really kind and took the blood test and luckily they did as my iron level was so low I needed a transfusion and it helped with how I was feeling too once it was done as not being well on top - which I didn’t know at the time as I was obviously just a zombie mess 🤷‍♀️ - was contributing to how bad I was feeling and helped me emotionally be stronger when I was feeling physically better if you know what I mean? Sorry I’m terrible for waffling 😩😁 x