To not want DH to WFH on my day off?

[thatsperfectlyfine]

I know. I am BU, but I really am a bit gutted.

He gets under my feet, leaves a mess in the kitchen, can hear constant loud Teams meeting, feel sort of watched even though I’m not.

Waiting to be roasted to a dry crisp now …

Poor bloke can’t exist in his own home without you getting upset? I’m don’t know why some people bother with relationships

Oh God the " poor bloke" brigade have arrived!
He's being annoying, messing up the kitchen and shouting
Op has needs and both could be content if he actually listened to her

My partner is off every Friday but i WFH every other. He got naffed off so I either go to the library to work if I've no calls or to a relatives who has an office.

How dare he mess up poor ops kitchen and annoy her. Why does what she want trump what he wants? He doesn’t sound like he wants or expects anything of her? She upset he’s breathing in another room

I wpuld be gutted if my DH was WFH on my day off. I love having a quiet day alone to potter around.
YANBU.

Is his job hybrid and does he have some choice as to when he is in the office or not? Though probably if he did choose Friday as one of his days in the office he might be a bit lonely.

When two days a week office attendance came back at my work in 2022, amongst the moans was one about finding meeting rooms. The head of department responded by saying there are plenty on a Friday!

Headphones for Teams meetings are something you should persuade your DH to have. So you don't hear confidential matters, of course(!)

Come retirement you’re going to be very upset

I am 100% with you!
It’s like taking your holiday in an office, but you are the cleaner!

I hate that my husband works from home. It makes such a mess as he does minimal clean up after himself and though he’s not “messy” it does mean the home is in constant use. It used to bug me if he didn’t put his cereal bowl in the dishwasher before going out to work. Now that’s the least of my problems.

Sometimes I just want to put music on or have a chat on the phone and I feel like I have to do these things quietly.

I am a teacher so never wfh, which means when my husband has days off he does get the house to himself.

Reading this, I actually feel better at myself for hating my partner being 'off sick' and sitting on the sofa all day every day.
He's quite capable of hoovering and dusting.
Yesterday he asked me to get him a takeaway and I 'forgot'-(he can drive perfectly well) lazy git.
I was hating myself until I read all your replies to the OP!
I'm just desperate for time alone to decompress.

My situation too! I am now in the office 100%.

I hear you. We have an office upstairs but it’s nicer, and warmer, working in the kitchen. I wfh on Thursdays; he wfh on Fridays. It would be lovely if I have a day off on a Friday that he’d work upstairs….he won’t. So I can’t potter. I want to drop a day a week, Friday, we are going to have to have a serious chat. It’s not as nice in the office…but I want my home back.

I like time to myself as much as the next person but the OPs situation would not bother me
It’s his house too

Its great for very young children to learn noisy musical instruments and practice regularly.

You might have meant skulking which is worse imo.
I WFH, semi retired, and H is reliant on me as his carer due to many health problems so doesn't really go out on his own incase of a fall. I feel your pain about the never alone time sometimes.
Having said that, I went out yesterday to a town he's not keen on to do shopping in, I don't drive so it was bus and the time out was so freeing.
I do think it's selfish when someone are able change their day for wfh but refuse to just to piss off their spouse on their day off though.

He could wear headphones for a start! I wouldn't want to listen to a lot of inane rubbish from a team meeting either.

Of course he does, but that doesn't help her when she has to work around his schedule of meetings when it comes to doing noisy chores.

I think it only works when you have a dedicated work place - which he has, and when the worker doesn't confuse their partner with a skivvy, so leaves mess everywhere and expect the other one to clean after them because they're "busy working"

When I WFH, all the rooms are in the same condition before and after I use them- there's no trace of me making a coffee, or lunch or whatever.

People deserve downtime so op you’re not being unreasonable at all. Having him not around for your day off could help you reset and improve things in other areas, including your relationship.
I get annoyed too.

But surely he's just at a lap top working? Apart from the occasional teams meeting talk I would imagine it's not a big deal. Is he in a separate room where the door is shut?

My dh doesn't leave a mess for me to clean up but I hate his wfh days and that's the truth. I work PT and have about 15 minutes before kids start arriving home and want to sit in silence and have a cup of tea. I work in a noisy environment (with kids!) and really crave this moment. My kids burst in the door talking at me about whatever and if i dont get a few minutes im not attentive and i feel a rising anger, which isnt fair on them. Dh does nothing wrong only talk to me but it really stresses me. It's not his issue it's mine but still it's an issue. I've nicely told him to not chat to me or even acknowledge me at this time which he does most of the time but sometimes he forgets.

I WFH 4 days a week and DP is supposed to be in the office 3 days a week and WFH 2 days a week but he never goes to the office and is always WFH. I know I’m WFH too but sometimes I just want the house to myself and he’s always here 😂 i don’t think YABU

He’s in another room. Op can ignore it

The other night, DH asked what had beeped in the kitchen and I said it was the air fryer (I got home late, he had already eaten). He got up at the same time as me, opened the fridge and just stared into it - right in front of the air fryer. I looked at him like 😐

He seemed surprised and said ‘oh sorry, did you want to get that?’

Shockingly, yes, I would like my dinner while it’s hot. Why are you even in the kitchen??

So he has his own workspace/office where
he can shut the door? In that case YABU. My DH works from home most days. We had an office. He just shuts the door and I crack on with my day incl hoovering/cleaning. You need to learn to relax.

Op definitely has a stick up her bum