To ask if you would ever forgive someone you hate

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I see so many people make amends with people they have had issues with

Nope. CPTSD was their gift to me. Hurry up dying alone and rot in hell is my outlook. That’d be just fine.

I don’t hate anyone, I have cut out maybe a handful of people from my life in my 43 years, I may not like them very much or what they have done but I don’t hate them. I won’t allow them the free rental space in my head.

Out of those people there is one who I would let back in, I loved him like a brother and it broke my heart to cut off contact but I couldn’t watch him hurt himself anymore, it felt like condoning behavior that was severely detrimental to himself and those around him. I think of him often and wonder if he ever managed to sort himself out. I want nothing but the best for him and sincerely hope he eventually accepted the help that he needed.

It would depend what they'd done, who they were to me, and whether 'forgiveness' would have a tangible positive outcome.

Also there are degrees of forgiveness. You could get past your anger to forgive someone as a way of gettingover the situation, or to stop it impacting your life (or someone else's), but that doesn't necessarily mean going back to how things were before.

I struggle to forgive where someone isn’t truly sorry and the harm was large. I try. I don’t desire to live with any kind of hatred. It’s especially hard where someone’s actions have harmed someone you love (even more so a child).

No. I'll never forgive the person that murdered my husband. They have done irrevocable damage to my life.