To ask if your teen DC vape?

[Mumma1991]

Do your teen DC vape? My 17 year old DD has just started vaping and I’m furious as we are all non smokers in this household. Just wondering, out of interest, if anyone else’s teen DC vape and what did you do to try and stop them? Did it work or did they just keep on vaping? I’m determined to get DD to quit vaping but DH thinks it will be difficult due to her age!

Yes unfortunately and nothing worked to stop her! Still doing it now at 19, started at 14.

No, they’re both into their fitness so wouldn’t vape or smoke and I’m with you op, I’d be upset if they did.

No. They think it's stupid.

How was she getting a hold of vapes at 14?

I've got an 11 year old, year 7... theres girls doing it in their year. I have in mind that if I find out my DD has vaped - ill be tracking down whoever gave it to hers parents, going to the school to kick up a fuss, raiding any corner shops she has managed to somehow purchase from, shaking down other kids parents who bought it for her. Real scorched earth campaign.

I know the eldest has in the past, he’s 23 now and living back here after Uni and I’ve seen a vape in his room.

Youngest, just turned 19 is doing a Sports Teaching Degree at Uni and plays Rugby, is a FA football Ref and is generally into most sport and is extremely fit. I wouldn’t say he is a constant vapist, but I know he’s had a toot or two on a vape in the past.

No, vaping is the reason they didnt use school toilets

My SD did vape for a couple of years, she’s now 18 and has stopped as she realised it’s stupid. Thankfully she came to her own conclusion I don’t think us trying to stop her would have worked

3 teen boys no e vape or smoke.

My dd did for about 18 months from when she was 14. Most of her friends were vaping and they were getting them from older siblings or older kids at school.

I have always told dd I would rather she didn’t lie to me, so she was honest about trying it. I made it very clear I didn’t want her to do it but was also realistic about the fact that I smoked at 15, knowing that my parents would hate it, but I just lied to them about it.
My view is that if she feels like she has to get into the habit of lying to me, she won’t feel like she can come to me if the shit really hits the fan.

She stopped regularly vaping over the summer. She came to her own decision, but I made it clear throughout that I didn’t like it. I’m sure she probably does it occasionally, but I’m not getting hugely upset about that as I smoked from 15-25 and didn’t turn out to be a delinquent.

What I do find interesting in real life are the amount of parents who have told me very confidently that their children would never vape because the parents have forbidden it, when I know for a fact that they do. I would be mortified if I was saying that to someone who knew dd was vaping, which is another reason I’ve asked her never to lie to me about things like that.

Yes, she's addicted, it's depressing

Yeah my daughter did from 14 which I use to take them of her when i found them it didn't stop her now shes 16 she can do what she wants.

My 14 year old doesn't, think it stinks and is stupid but tells me quite a few in her year do, including her ex friend who was always the most well behaved sensible girl so that was a bit of a shock to hear!

Yes

She’s still a child at 16 so she can’t really do what she wants.

Same here with DS17. And DS25 has never smoked/vaped.

Is she hoping to go to uni? Is she expecting a parental financial contribution? If so, you have leverage if you’re prepared to use it. My line would be that I’m not spending a penny on funding higher education for someone who is so stupid that she’s spending money on vaping.

If that’s not her plan, she should still know that any vapes found in the house would be binned.

Hmm about those adamant no - are you quite sure about that?! It’s pretty endemic.

Dd2 did we found them at 15. We didnt get angry but did a big we are disappointed / health / if it carried on we will restrict freedom etc. She gave up (verified by reliable spies) but said it was difficult as all her group did. She and her best friend are the anomaly as the ones that don’t vape. Mixed state / private party set.

She has a job, shes in a long term relationship, cooks her own meals, does her own washing shes a bit past the stage of punishments

My DS is Yr13, part of the science crowd, none of his friends or him vape. BBC 3 Jordan North documentary on vaping was quite good at putting them off. The chemicals and toxic stuff in there put mine off the thought of trying it.

Also the pp threatening “scorched earth” over vapes! Just don’t. It’s not the hill to die on in the grand scheme of teen issues.

We were advised by older wiser parents of teens not to go nuclear. How right they were. Relationship with dd preserved so when the really bad thing happened she was able to come to us and we faced it together. Destroying trust over sodding vapes would
have been a huge mistake.

My parents did that over me smoking. I just got better at hiding it, it didn’t stop me
I have quit smoking now but vape instead. My dad is much happier!

No luckily he’s always been into sports and fitness, and wouldn’t do anything that might compromise that. Most boys in his year group were addicted to vapes from about age 14, and some of the girls too, then quite a few of them added in chewing snuz as well 😕

To some extent I can recognise what you’re saying but, erm, she’s 16. Long term relationship? Again, she’s 16. She cannot vote, she cannot drive, she legally can not buy vapes/alcohol etc., I’m assuming she doesn’t pay the bills, she can’t do what she wants and is considered a child still.

No, thinks it’s stupid, but a lot of kids in their year (11) do. There are a group of kids who meet in the same area to vape, aged 11 upwards

lol. Good luck with that.

No. My teen thinks vaping is cringe and most of his friends laugh at vapers for being absolute losers. He didn't even know there were serious health risks, he just thinks it's weird and pathetic looking.