To ask if your teen DC vape?

[Mumma1991]

Do your teen DC vape? My 17 year old DD has just started vaping and I’m furious as we are all non smokers in this household. Just wondering, out of interest, if anyone else’s teen DC vape and what did you do to try and stop them? Did it work or did they just keep on vaping? I’m determined to get DD to quit vaping but DH thinks it will be difficult due to her age!

Long term relationship? How do you even type that with a straight face. She is a child, it’s a joke you think she’s in an actual relationship. Some people are so quick to grow their kids up.

He (DS16)did. For about a month…told him I knew but that my awareness wasn’t my approval, and absolutely not in the house. Like most things I felt I wanted to blow up at, I let him get on with it…and within a few weeks the attraction of it wore off him. Same with alcohol (his first and only hangover helped with that one).

My youngest tried it (and admitted it) when she was 15 and found it vile, I can’t imagine she will go back to it. My eldest started at 17, she earns her own money and is very independent so stopping her wasn’t an option , I did speak to her in depth about it though. She gave up after about 6 months because she could feel a difference when doing cardio, I don’t think she will go back to it either

Shes been with her boyfriend for 3 years i would call that a long term relationship

She can work, travel, get married have a child. 16 isn't 6.

I put a post on here a while ago about my 16 year old vaping and how angry I was but I just got told I should chill out and it could be worse!

Anyway vaping drives me mental, I hate it and honestly thought my son had more sense but apparently he doesn’t and “everyone does it”. I caught him with a vape last year when he was 16, so I grounded him for the weekend and threw it in the bin (that’s when MN told me I was over reacting)! I thought he had stopped but a few weeks ago I borrowed his jacket to pop to the shop and found a vape in the pocket so I put it in the bin. I’ve chatted with him and said I clearly can’t stop him but I think he is an idiot and every time I find one I’m going to throw it away. He is 17 now and I’m fuming every time I think about it.

The age number (16) is irrelevant except in the eyes of the law…what it should come down to is emotional maturity. Yes, a 16yo can get married, etc, etc, it doesn’t mean they should.

When I see school age vapers, in their school uniform, girls with rolled up skirts, hiding in the train station, where I live they do actually look like losers.

My DGD, told me all about the vapers in year 7. One boy got excluded for selling them, two girls just barely missed the same fate for buying them. The school came down really hard. DGD now in year 10. No more talk of vapes. Thankfully.

I am with you @Hufflemuff!

How was she getting a hold of vapes at 14?

I've got an 11 year old, year 7... theres girls doing it in their year.

I think you've contradicted yourself a bit here @Hufflemuff 😁

To the ‘mine would never’ crowd - I wouldn’t be so sure. Honestly as everyone has said - kids are excellent at hiding it.

I have caught both of mine. One is a professional athlete. I was so so upset. Not sure they have done it since.

the other one is 18 and is at college, earning well in a pt job, travelling independently etc and yep. Yapes.

I don’t like it but I know I would have done it at their age. I hope the 18yo grows out of it but I did much, much worse (drugs & alcohol) and got away with it. I’m a teetotal professional now. I came from a nice middle class background. It’s just the way the world is 🤷🏻‍♀️

I console myself that nobody is pregnant/doing anything criminal. We have a calm happy house and they’re being raised to function in the adult world.

Mine (nearly 17) doesn’t and I am 100% on that the idea makes her anxious and stressed.

She is far more sensible than me though because I can guarantee 16 year old me would have tried it

there is a balance between complete acceptance and scorched earth (which trust me @Hufflemuff isn’t going to do your relationship with your daughter in 3-4 years time any favours at all

DS at 13 hasn’t but it wouldn’t surprise me if he tried it later, he knows I don’t approve and that it won’t happen in my house etc

we should be angry though at the concept of vaping - I mean it is suppose to be for those who smoked because it is a better alternative instead they have made the equilvalent of alcopops that of course teenagers are going to want to try

Not now. She was bringing up huge blood clots from her mouth. Had loads of investigations, couldn’t figure out what was going on until they investigated her lungs and found they were literally burnt inside. The blood was from her lungs. I hit the roof when I found out, couldn’t believe she was damaging herself like that. She was 15 at the time and when they sat her down and explained what severe damage it was doing to her lungs, she stopped thankfully. The are so, so dangerous.

Would love to see how you enforce these things with a 16 year old? What does that look like? Shouting? Grounding? Proper 90s shouty parenting? It doesn’t work by the way.

I totally agree. I hate it but I made the decision it’s not a hill I’m going to die on. They’re going to do it regardless of what I say. My rules are never in the house and never let me see it but I know they do it.

I will die on the drugs hill and they know that and on the respecting partners hill. I just don’t feel like (failing to) influence them against vaping is a good use of my time and relationship when I would prefer to focus on bigger things should they arise

should add my youngest is in year 11. Up until last year I would have punished

in the nicest possible way, and meaning no disrespect - your teen sounds judgmental and frankly a little mean!

There was always someone at school who could get hold of them. It was a losing battle.

Not really - my DD says she doesn't know where they get them from. She said theres a rumor the local premier shop is selling them and a rumor a PARENT is buying them for her 11 year old but it sounds more like gossip / girls trying to sound cool.

So i was asking how is this 14 year old getting them!? Because I genuinely dont know what to believe.

My DD did from about 17-19, only really on nights out at the pub etc, but decided it was costing her too much money so got herself an app which shows how much money she's saving by not doing it and hasn't vaped in about 6 months now.

In answer to how to they get them @Hufflemuff kids sell them in schools. They either get them through older siblings or there's always one shop somewhere that will quite happily sell them to an older looking kid without ID. I know this, because this is how DD said she initially got them - from a classmate who would take the money and go buy a load for them.

Ahh to those saying im being unreasonable - you might be right - but give me a break - im a year 7 mum... getting used to secondary school changes. We watched their primary assembly just 6 months ago 😢

I never smoked as a kid as I found it expensive and disgusting - but me and my friends bought cider, wine and even bloody vodka every weekend in year 9 and 10. We would either stand outside shops asking people to buy it for us, or someone's mum bought it. Looking back im just fucking disgusted at these adults who did this! We were drinking in fields in winter and throughout teen years I think we had at least 3 stomach pumps, 2 rape accusations and multiple injuries for falling down so drunk. We were only 14/15! I remember my Dad going ballistic and threatening to call the police on this mum who bought it for us and on the shops that were selling it to people, who passed it to us. So ive probably got my scorched earth mentality - not so much for DD trying it - but for the adults that should know better!

I mean for christ sake - my friend would come to school, take orders, collect money and their mum would go to asda and buy it (actually probably rob it). She was purchasing 10 3 litre bottles of strong cider, litres of vodka and wine - for 14 year olds! I think if I heard of this now id call police, school and social services.

Sorry guys big rant! Taking focus away from vaping too 🤣

I live in an area with a few secondary schools and to the 'my kid would never crew' you really do not know what your children are doing when you are not around.

Teenagers are expert liars and vaping is much easier to hide than cigarettes. All you can do is tell them about the dangers and hope that they are more into fitness than being in with the cool crew.

My dd16 was also scathing and mean about vapers. After I found one in her room, she admitted that she behaved like that to put me off the scent that she was vaping (duh!!). An older boy in 6th form offered her a free one, so shes feeling cool with one in her bag. She says it tastes disgusting and she's throwing away when its finished. We shall see. Kids are expert liars....

Yes alongside smoking and those horrible little pouch things they put in their gums. I hate it but nothing I can do

I’ve noticed that smoking has come back into fashion with a vengeance. Early 20s don’t seem to be interested in vaping, just back on the 20 Marlboro Lights

The snuz pouches are a big risk for mouth cancer, all cancers are scary but mouth cancer is horrific and disfiguring. Show her pictures of it.