DH WONT TELL ME HIS SECRETS

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he was initiated into a lodge last night, has given me some info but refuses to tell me how they all recognise each other.
aibu, or should i carry on pestering him?

My Dad would never let on either.
He just loved knowing a secret that we didn't. Make up your own and taunt him!

Pester him mercilessly, but only if you're willing to come on here afterwards and share all the secrets with us too.

nah - leave him to it.

Are you really that interested?

He can't tell.It's part of being a mason. It'll be boring anyway. Let the boys play nicely

I think we can guess it involved rolled up trouser legs and deer antlers.

I expect it involves complicated handshakes and tweaking the left earlobe as you pass each other. Also a system of nods, winks, and clicking noises.

To be completely honest I wouldn't be able to leave the subject alone if it was my DP either, I would hassle him until he told me, but then I am a nightmare.

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he says itisnt a hand shake, i was on the floor when he told me what they did to him.

My DH is a member of the free masons and he never tells me anything, but then again i never ask. I agree with Iklboo, it will be boring anyway!

join a women's lodge and then you can both have secrets..

The handshakes, words etc are still taught but are quite archaic. Nobody goes around doing special handshakes.

Freemasons recognize each other mostly from words/phrases they use and subjects they raise - phrases from the rituals or references to building allegories, such as everyone works on his own stone, to make it smooth so that stones of a wall fit perfectly etc etc.

Your DH just had his initiation. He knows nothing about nothing yet.

I wouldn't pester him, btw. We each need our own little secrets. Better those secrets be Masonic then about his secretary

I have a secret....

Secret handshakes and codes? Like 8 year old boys the lot of them.

My friend's fatehr was a mason and we once raided his wardrobe and found all this stuff. We were very young, teenagers.
And there was this secret masonic ritual book which said things like "candidates with extend their r...t h..d and so on." Top secret codes like that.

Sorry "candidates will..."

oh leave him to play his games with his little friends.

Just look knowingly at him when he comes home, tell him to wash his own white gloves and get a posh frock for the ladies' night

I believe there's a strange embroidered apron involved...

no, it is really quite serious, and they swear not to disclose anything. it is a big deal, leave him to it and google it all or get some books on it if you are desperate to know

my dad & BIL are big into the frilly aproness... my FIL was the grand master wizard years ago, or whatever it is called.

turquoise pinny and white gloves, anyone??

lol at apron.

twas a very stiff apron, iirc

My Dad used to be the worshipful master .....whatever the heck that means!!!

The white gloves are very useful for putting on tights though - they are very smooth and make sure your rings/nails dont catch and ladder the tights!

Can I just clarify, I mean for you to put your tights on with.

I wasnt for one moment insinuating that freemasons wear tights