Hen party invitation

[Zobear]

So I've been invited to a hen party for someone I've not seen in almost a year and not spoken to since june last year.
Do I go to the hen party?
Bit of a back story, there's no hard feelings or any falling out or anything of the sort, I think we've kind of just drifted apart as friends. I've recently had a baby (Nov just gone) got a text saying congrats but she's not asked to meet the baby or anything it was just the one message.
She sent me a picture of when she got engaged, I said congratulations and asked about the details, she didn't open or respond to me for about a week.
We all have busy lives etc, totally understand and it all works both ways.
But am I wrong for not really caring to go to the hen party? It's spring next year, apparently wedding is summer next year but I don't know any details on that either.
What would you do?
The MOH wants answers now for pricing etc. Realistically if I've not seen her for 2 years would I go....

I wouldn't go

Do you know anyone else going? Will it be a nice catch up with old friends? If so then I might go. If i only knew the bride who I hadn’t seen in over a year then I probably wouldn’t

Only go if you think it would be worth your while, in the sense of having a good time. I like hen dos so I almost always go on them when I am invited, but I don’t enjoy baby showers so I don’t go to them. It’s your time and money!

You don’t need to have continuous contact with someone to be able to see them after a period of time and catch up where you left off, and enjoy their company.

This just reads that you want to leave the friendship in the past, possibly because you feel put out they weren’t more interested in your baby.

There’s tons of people that I’ve not seen in a year that I’d love to spend time with. I think that it’s really easy when so busy to not connect - then it feels too long and awkward.

If she was a good friend, to me it, would a great way to reconnect.

I was the first out my friends to have children and to be honest, I felt we drifted apart because in different times of our lives. BUT id definitely be coming to their hen do and wedding.

I wouldn't bother OP, it's likely to mean a lot of expense, and you're clearly not that close anymore if you haven't seen each other in almost a year and not spoken since June of last year. She also doesn't sound that interested in your baby, so I think you might feel a bit like a fish out of water if you do go.

Not really, I know of a few of them but they're not my friends or friend group. So I'd kind of feel an odd one out. I've been to a thing before with some of the people and was mostly left by myself feeling like a plum lol

Of course I felt put out they weren't interested in meeting my baby

No. Most often it’s a tight knit group of bridesmaid friends trying to palm of costs of something elaborate onto 15-25 randoms. No thank you.

Completely agree with this. I haven't talked to my best friend since we went on holiday together last May. But I know for a fact that when I see her next (probably in spring!) we will sit in her kitchen and pick up exactly where we left off. We've been friends for 31 years.
P.S. I have never had any particular interest in her children. I gather she probably doesn't mind that and we both prefer to socialise without them.

Definitely say no thank you !
It's an invitation not a summons remember!

If you want to go, go. If you don’t, don’t.

Personally I wouldn’t but it’s up to you. No need for any drama. ‘Thanks for the invitation but I can’t make it, hope you all have a lovely time’

Blimey

I'm glad my friends don't think like you as I've never been interested in meeting their babies really.

But no-one's ever got the hump about it or taken it personally.

I bet they have….just saying

If you don’t want to go then don’t go.

I have a couple of friends that I barely see and can go months not speaking to but would 100% be invited to each others hen do.

She could see you as someone she feels really close to, regardless of how much you see each other.
Or she’s just filling numbers.

But either way if you don’t want to go then don’t. I wouldn’t judge you.

And I'm 'just saying' they definitely haven't 🤷‍♂️

I've never been overstruck on other people's babies and they know this.

Now if they had a new puppy, I'd be round like a shot 🤣

I wouldn’t go.

Btw, did you invite her to meet the baby?

Dis she go to yours if you had one?

If you don’t want to go … don’t go.

If you do want to go … go!

If you don’t want to go, your reasons (drifted, not close, not spoke for months, not friends with the others) are completely valid.

I’ve been on at least one hen do a year for the past 3 years. (And by hen do’s I mean hen weekends) and they’re expensive as fuck.

@Zobear i wouldn’t go .
If I’d seen a wedding invitation in my name I might think about it . However at this point I think it’s sounds like a numbers game.

Depends whats planned. Local bottomless brunch afternoon - Yes. Weekend away in another city/country - Na.

You could see this as a way to reconnect - or confirm the distance has got too great and go separate ways for good.

Just decline. Is it an Overnight weekend event?

Find out what they have planned and decide if you want to be there or not.

Or if you are not interested irrespective of the destination then decline outright.

Who wants to “meet a baby” ?? The only ones I’m ever interested in are ones I am related to.

Babies are very boring.

Yeah I'd go. For me, that's what life's about, meet interesting people, have a fun weekend, try a new activity etc

Also depends what's the alternative - sit at home staring at the telly? Or if you already have other interesting plans then sure, keep those plans

Basically, make the most of life