Hen party invitation

[Zobear]

So I've been invited to a hen party for someone I've not seen in almost a year and not spoken to since june last year.
Do I go to the hen party?
Bit of a back story, there's no hard feelings or any falling out or anything of the sort, I think we've kind of just drifted apart as friends. I've recently had a baby (Nov just gone) got a text saying congrats but she's not asked to meet the baby or anything it was just the one message.
She sent me a picture of when she got engaged, I said congratulations and asked about the details, she didn't open or respond to me for about a week.
We all have busy lives etc, totally understand and it all works both ways.
But am I wrong for not really caring to go to the hen party? It's spring next year, apparently wedding is summer next year but I don't know any details on that either.
What would you do?
The MOH wants answers now for pricing etc. Realistically if I've not seen her for 2 years would I go....

Op just say you can’t commit with not long having the baby so would leave it as to not let anyone down near the time. Op there is no point going if someone isn’t interested in your life generally also it will probably turn out to be really expensive so I wouldn’t if I was you.

40+ people on a hen do proves this is just about making up numbers so she looks popular. As you say, you barely see her and she takes little interest in you. It will be the same for a large chunk of the women on that list!

I've recently had a baby

I wouldn't be going....

I understand the busy life, she's a mum herself.
It's that things have felt a little one sided for a while now. For instance I've had her kids for sleepovers when she's been out, I've picked them up from nursery when she had been stuck at work, I've met her partner plenty - she's never met mine and left my house before he was due home from work, for no real reason. I've always remembered her and her kids birthdays- she forgot mine and never said happy birthday. It may sound silly but it's the little things that all add up. And now ever since I've backed away a bit it's been nothing on her part.

So she basically uses you for when she needs you but is not interested in reciprocity. I would back away as well OP. You don't get points in heaven for being a mug. Focus on your family and your friends that value you.

No, I wouldn’t go to the hen or the wedding from everything you have said. She sounds like someone I would be polite and friendly with when our paths crossed but otherwise not someone I would spend my time/money/energy on.

The fact you have to ask shows me you don't want to go and that is absolutely fine.
I wouldn't bother either.

I wouldn't go
But there again I wouldn't go to one anyway.
Socializing with my mates is great, doing some weird things around a friends marriage is not

Do you want to go?If the ans is yes,then go. If the ans is no,don't go. Simple.

Fair enough, Op. She sounds like she doesn't appreciate your friendship so now might be the right time to withdraw. Not going to her hen should make your feelings clear.

I got an invite to a hen night for an old friend I hadn’t seen in about two years. We had been close but had a weird awkward fall out and were only polite.

I think she invited me because people would comment on me not being there. It was easier for her to tell people she invited me but I couldn’t go. Same for the wedding.

This.

There’s no right or wrong, should or shouldn’t here. If you want to go, go. Otherwise refuse politely.

It doesn't matter who you know in the group, you're all there for the same event so will get on I'm sure. The main thing is do you want to catch up with your friend?

We all lose touch, it's about how meaningful the friendis, which doesn't sound as if it is. Xx