Am I the mug? Emma Bridgewater saga...

[NoMoreMsPushover]

A couple of months ago, took DP and DP's sister to the Emma Bridgewater Factory in Stoke. Bloody brilliant day. Made me proud to be British, and really enjoyed learning about the Victorian history of pottery in Stoke. Can't wait to go back.

It was a day out for DP's sister's birthday. She's usually great. But am a bit peeved, to be quite honest, that my birthday came and went a few weeks ago, and nary a message received by me - on my big day (it was a milestone birthday), or after.

AIBU to be expecting at least a little thought? Or am I being taken for a mug? Especially after I paid for her to paint a custom Emma Bridgewater mug? Not sure how to feel about it all...

Thanks loves.

Ask your DP why his sister didn’t send you a message or get you anything for your birthday.
Did he make it a special day for you at least?

Aww! What a thoughtful present from you. She sounds a bit crap. Maybe she has forgotten?

I forgot my SILs birthday one year, and my brother didn’t tell me for a week. We get on really well, so I was mortified, I now have an alarm on my phone.

People have stuff going on, and sometimes they forget, they aren’t awful just busy

A visit to a mug factory made you proud to be British? Really?!
Anyway, it's a bit of an odd present unless you're especially into either art or mugs. Maybe she just wasn't sure how to follow it for your birthday. But she should have at least sent a card or message.

I want to be the bigger person here and agree with you... but...

Understand the sentiment, but trust me - take a visit up there - seeing the flags, the celebration of the Queen, the Victorian factory buildings, the kiln - it's overwhelming, really. Highly recommend.

She LOVES Emma Bridgewater, hence the visit. A card would have sufficed really. I'm more simple than most...

Tbh I don't think my Bil has ever wished me a happy birthday 🤣

Was the present from you or you and Dp? Is she a big Emma Bridgewater fan? A mug factory is not everyone's cup of tea

It was a great morning, but then he left for the gym... DP is always taking her side anyway... maybe I've got a DP problem and not an SIL problem on second thought...

Does she usually remember? Did she tell herself the gift came from dp?

You're so right.. now that I think about it, DP didn't make it clear that it was my thought and organisation.

Sounds like it's both of them. Does she usually remember your birthday? Does he? What did he get you this time?

I thought so! It’s still a bit poo of her but she prob thinks she’ll make a big effort for his bday…

Ugh this is a tough one, usually I'd say you're not being unreasonable but "a few weeks ago" was Christmas, surely? So presumably she (and you?) were busy with all sorts of other plans at the time, so it would be easy for her to forget or even assume you had other plans.

She probably thought it was a gift from Dp then. Did your partner not get his sister a birthday present?

Perhaps their just a thoughtless family? How long have you been together? Did she actually know it was your bithdau

This sounds like a clumsy attempt to plug
Emma Bridgewater.

A new vacuum cleaner since our one broke. A DVD of The Holiday as I wanted to watch it over Christmas and turns out we didn't have one. And he ran me a bath before going to the gym. Now I think of it, this does feel like the bare minimum. Starting to feel more and more like the mug.

Needs no plug... the mugs speak for themselves. Ta

A hoover isn't a present for you unless he means to be the one using it. Otherwise he's just given you a hoover to replace the broken one so you can continue doing housework for him.

It’s a bad one if it is - properly put me off 😂

He definitely does not mean to be the one using it. He claims he's "bad at it". It's something we've been struggling with for years actualy

Perhaps as a family they don’t value birthday presents. She has got you nothing and he got you a hoover.

You must go up to Stoke and make a visit. Tell them NoMoreMsPushover sent you 😉

my usual question really. Why do you stay?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5303143-emma-bridgewater-mug-handles-keep-dropping-off?reply=149883363

In his defense, he did get me a copy of The Holiday. A wonderful film that I've always enjoyed. One of Jude Law's finest, if you understand what I mean 😉

What prompted me to post is I've been starting to feel a bit taken for granted, really. And starting to realise I've perhaps felt this way for years?